Awful night out

So...I just had a really bad night out. Went to a club that I usually really love, has a lot of 50s / alternative music, but I guess I just wasn't feeling it tonight. Had to spend loads of money to get even halfway drunk enough to enjoy it and just had a really bad time. But the worst thing was that I ended up coming home with really low self-esteem because of the people there.

What is it about clubs that makes people judge you so much? The whole night I felt like guys were sizing me up, trying to see if I was worth talking to, and then deciding I wasn't. I can't stand that, and I've just come home feeling worthless.

Is this specific to some universities or is it common to all? I think mine's seriously judgemental, and I find that quite depressing.

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Reply 1

WarriorInAWig

Hold on right there!!

Fifties music + Alternative music + nightclub = WIN!!

But where is such a place?? please tell me :teeth:

Anyway, shame to hear you had a bum night at a class sounding nightclub. Hope it gets better for you the next time you go out with friends :smile:

Reply 2

oodalallyoodalally

Clubs are a total meat market wherever you go. apparently. I'm a pub girl meself and they're always full of old people. cheer up though; would you want to talk to somebody who wouldn't have talked to you if your nose was upside down? nope, i didn't think so :smile:

Reply 3

EskimoJo

I go to clubs to dance and have fun. I doubt guys even bother sizing me up, but if they did, I wouldn't notice. :dontknow:

Although I am admittedly unobservant.

Sometimes you just have bad nights; everything just feels like it went wrong. For me they're few and very far between though, so just forget about it and go have fun next time! :smile:

Reply 4

IrrationalNumber

nosnibor

What is it about clubs that makes people judge you so much? The whole night I felt like guys were sizing me up, trying to see if I was worth talking to, and then deciding I wasn't. I can't stand that, and I've just come home feeling worthless.

Maybe they were just too shy to make the first move, or got the impression you weren't interested?

Reply 5

Keoje

As you said it's just a bad night out. I'm a guy and I once almost got kissed by another guy whilst on the dance floor

On the way out of the club there was a random woman who seemed to be in her late 40's possibly 50's and she tried to grab my hands and make me dance with her.

It was the last time I ever went to that club. :ahee:

Reply 6

nosnibor

WarriorInAWig

Hold on right there!!

Fifties music + Alternative music + nightclub = WIN!!

But where is such a place?? please tell me :teeth:

Anyway, shame to hear you had a bum night at a class sounding nightclub. Hope it gets better for you the next time you go out with friends :smile:

Haha it's in Edinburgh, but you get clubs like that all over the place! I think that's why I got so bummed out though, I usually love that night!

IrrationalNumber

Maybe they were just too shy to make the first move, or got the impression you weren't interested?

Bahhh, maybe. I'm clearly worrying too much, I know I could analyse it to death!

Reply 7

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EskimoJo

I go to clubs to dance and have fun. I doubt ~~guys~~girls even bother sizing me up, but if they did, I wouldn't notice. :dontknow:

This.

Pre drinks?

Knocking One Out

Pre drinks?

Would have done but it's a seriously popular night, so had to get there really early and didn't have time!

Poor excuse though nontheless.

OK, it's late, I need to go to bed. Thank you lovely TSR people for cheering me up :smile:

Reply 10

les_lumieres

oodalallyoodalally, i'm with you there. Pubs and/or house parties are so much more comfortable. Alot more fun. Not to say i havent enjoyed a top night out. I feel a certain pressure to pull when im doing clubs.

Reply 11

Pheonixx

nosnibor

hang on...

you went to a clubed you liked which means you knew how expensive it would be.

Did you not go with friends? If if you did why were you upset about guys judging you, and how did you notice, that's the true issue. They could have just been intimidated by as much as they could have not been attracted to you; or maybe if the club was more expensive than usual they weren't drunk enough.

Don't base your sense of self esteam by how many guys you pull.

Reply 12

Fusion

Cheer up - some girls are violently gang raped after nights out, then left for dead.

Goodnight.

Reply 13

les_lumieres

Fusion - how uplifting :wink:

Reply 14

trm90

nosnibor

It's alright OP, I get that sometimes when I go clubbing as well (in gay clubs obviously) and you come home genuinely feeling like you wasted your time.

But please, don't feel worthless! :s-smilie:

It's obvious you probably wanted to flirt with someone and get a bit of attention tonight (nothing wrong with that, most of us want it really!) but didn't succeed. You just have a self esteem issue and perhaps next time you need to be less critical of yourself and more proactive in the flirting department; the extra confidence will shine through and you'll probably get attention from some pretty fit guys. :wink:

Reply 15