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    In my flat we have 3 girls, and 3 guys including me. In the last couple of months there seems to be all this invisible hate and tension towards the guys in the flat. It’s become almost an atmosphere of the girls hating the guys for individual reasons and most of us don’t know this.

    When I came back to the flat after Charismas, the girls refused to talk or drink with me and or the guys. At first I thought the girls were just busy with work and exams. I’ve learned they know I like to block all my MSN contacts. For example when I go on holiday to Germany, I block all my UK friends. Vice Versa, it’s just how I like to work my MSN. But they’ve taken it as a great insult and they decided to give me the silent treatment. I’ve explain to them everything, I didn’t know what was going on until one of them decided to bring the conflict to my door 4am, just before I went to Spain to see family. I’m back from Spain, and they’re still not talking. It’s like my presence sickens them.

    I’ve also learnt they have a thing against the other guy in the flat. Some weeks ago one of the girls (not related to the ones above) was asking us about Whiskey. We thought she was asking advice about Scottish Whiskey that she wanted to buy for her dad, turned out she just wanted whiskey for a cooking recipe. She hates us because she thought we were trying to hide our whiskey (it was Jack Daniels, nothing Scottish about it) but I guess to her whiskey is whiskey.

    Now in the flat we have a hate group on each of the guys. We each didn’t know something was up until we told one another.
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    Oh god.. Girls can be so silly..
    I dunno what else you can do but to try and talk to them and be nice..
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    I don't understand the whiskey thing?
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    I've tried talking to them.

    I don't think it helps, this morning I went into the kitchen for breakfast. One of the girls was there with her friend from a different Uni. I said "morning", and she just ignored me. Turned her head and sighed.

    I've explained to them, I have nothing against them, it was all cool, I meant no harm. Yet my presence insults them.

    I'm trying to fix, help, mend, make peace.
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    (Original post by punkyrocker)
    I don't understand the whiskey thing?
    GIRL- She was asking us advice about Whiskey, type brand, bottles, price.
    We thought she wanted help in buying a bottle of Scotch for her dad.
    She just wanted some whiskey for cooking, learnt we had JD. Thought we were being tight. JD is not Scotch.
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    (Original post by Nalced)
    GIRL- She was asking us advice about Whiskey, type brand, bottles, price.
    We thought she wanted help in buying a bottle of Scotch for her dad.
    She just wanted some whiskey for cooking, learnt we had JD. Thought we were being tight. JD is not Scotch.
    Ahhhh, gotcha. Sorry for being slow. It seems this whole thing is a miscommunication thing - she could have just asked to use a shot of your whiskey.

    I'm actually a bit shocked these girls are so openly rude to you, like sighing when you greet them, etc. They're in the wrong completely from the side of the story you've given here.

    From the title "should we move out", I assume it would be all 3 of you guys wanting to move? In which case it's not very plausible. I'd probably just hang on until you can move out and not have to see them again. Just continue to be pleasant, friendly, polite, and they may come round. Otherwise, I just wouldn't go out of your way to spend time with them.

    Maybe forcing them to talk to you is a good idea? Bringing up the hostility, and mentioning how everything seems to have been misinterpreted and how you'd like to make a fresh start?

    Sorry I can't help more OP!
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    Wow, you live with stupid girls.

    To be fair, it sounds like it's the girls with the problem, so stand your ground. If anyone leaves, they can :p:
 
 
 
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