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    Can anyone advise me. Im really worried that this could affect my uni life. A lot of the time I find it hard to gel with white people compared with asian. I just feels a lot more awkward. I wish it wasnt like this. Im not a racist or anything, but i noticed im more chilled with my asian friends rather then whites.

    I really dont wanna be labelled as "one of those asians who only hangs around with asians" any more.
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    you can do all things through alcohol which gives you strength..
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    As with most things in life, the more you do it, the easier it becomes. Just try talking to as many people as possible and relax.

    But yeh, if all else fails - there's alcohol..
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    (Original post by forever_dreamer)
    As with most things in life, the more you do it, the easier it becomes. Just try talking to as many people as possible and relax.

    But yeh, if all else fails - there's alcohol..
    although i'd like to, i don't drink. How would alcohol make a difference though
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    I find it hardest to socialise with asian people even though my girlfriend is asian.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Can anyone advise me. Im really worried that this could affect my uni life. A lot of the time I find it hard to gel with white people compared with asian. I just feels a lot more awkward. I wish it wasnt like this. Im not a racist or anything, but i noticed im more chilled with my asian friends rather then whites.

    I really dont wanna be labelled as "one of those asians who only hangs around with asians" any more.
    Ha! If you find out, tell me. I'm Asian too and I feel our cultures are just too different. Especially since my country is close with the U.S. and I was raised speaking American English. That said, of my three closest friends, only one is Asian while the other two are Russian. Sad, really. I've even considered moving to the U.S. after graduation if I really can't socialize well with people in the UK.
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    Its not as hard as you may imagine. What uni are you going to?
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    (Original post by Bluelight)
    I find it hardest to socialise with asian people even though my girlfriend is asian.
    Don't say that, trust me TSR will come down on you like a ton of bricks calling you racist etc. same with if this thread had the same title but instead of white people it said black people then it's completely unacceptable for some reason.
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    You'll make friends naturally. Look around you, most people's friends are the same race as them, coincidence? No. People generally have more common with people from the same ethnicity. There's a lot of white people, I just don't get :no: It's really not a problem. Don't get their jokes, their music, their food etc Only a problem if you flat out refuse to be friends with white people (which you obviously don't).
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Can anyone advise me. Im really worried that this could affect my uni life. A lot of the time I find it hard to gel with white people compared with asian. I just feels a lot more awkward. I wish it wasnt like this. Im not a racist or anything, but i noticed im more chilled with my asian friends rather then whites.

    I really dont wanna be labelled as "one of those asians who only hangs around with asians" any more.
    I find it hard to socialize with asian/black people It just the guys are always so hot, and they find you staring at them, then I think theyre thinking that I'm staring at them coz their black, which probs they arn't! And they ahve such big figures I tend to stare at their noses/lips while talkign to them, so I feel rude so try and keep away! Alcohol has helped...
    and I'm not racist either, but the whole racist stuff has made it worst, because I'm always thinking about racism when I see black/asian, so you feel that you really have to watch out what your saying!
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    (Original post by Bluelight)
    I find it hardest to socialise with asian people even though my girlfriend is asian.
    Exactly the same for me, I have an Asian girlfriend but I also find it hardest to socialise with Asians.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    although i'd like to, i don't drink. How would alcohol make a difference though
    It was a joke.
    But honestly, just relaxing and being yourself will be fine. Whatever their ethnicity or culture, humans react well to someone genuine and nice.
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    The biggest difference is that whites drink and asians don't, if you can't overcome that then it'll be hard
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I find it hard to socialize with asian/black people It just the guys are always so hot, and they find you staring at them, then I think theyre thinking that I'm staring at them coz their black, which probs they arn't! And they ahve such big figures I tend to stare at their noses/lips while talkign to them, so I feel rude so try and keep away! Alcohol has helped...
    and I'm not racist either, but the whole racist stuff has made it worst, because I'm always thinking about racism when I see black/asian, so you feel that you really have to watch out what your saying!
    WOW. This has to be a joke.
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    (Original post by BillV3)
    Don't say that, trust me TSR will come down on you like a ton of bricks calling you racist etc. same with if this thread had the same title but instead of white people it said black people then it's completely unacceptable for some reason.
    don't you worry, im not white so I cant be racist :p:
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I find it hard to socialize with asian/black people It just the guys are always so hot, and they find you staring at them, then I think theyre thinking that I'm staring at them coz their black, which probs they arn't! And they ahve such big figures I tend to stare at their noses/lips while talkign to them, so I feel rude so try and keep away! Alcohol has helped...
    and I'm not racist either, but the whole racist stuff has made it worst, because I'm always thinking about racism when I see black/asian, so you feel that you really have to watch out what your saying!
    what the phuck :pierre:

    OP: become a bounty or you could just act like yourself
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    well, like many said alcohol helps, but i wouldn't recommend if that's the only thing you'll have in common!There is also different groups of white people, depend what group you pick you know which would make socializing easier
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    what are you talking about, asians are white

    edit: (saying this based on the fact that i've never seen a black asian.. cba to google)

    double edit: i don't recommend google-imaging "black asian" with safesearch off haha
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    (Original post by Antzlck)
    WOW. This has to be a joke.
    OK it does sound wrong reading it back, but what I ment was when I see a balck person say, I always worry that I might say somethign that for him would sound racist?? but actually they don't find it racist! hard to explain...but black/asian people are cool though I have nothing against them, I've backed them up so many times against people (where I come from, there is a lot of racism...well wouldnt call it a lot either, just slezzy comment) Not many asians/blacks live where I live, none acctaully, there was 1 kid in school.
    To the extent that when I was a kid my mate saw a balck man ont he street and said "look mum martin luther king"
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    rapre them????????
 
 
 
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