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What would you do on a typical first date? and how far would you normally go with that person?
Ive started dating a guy ive known for a while but wouldnt classify as being mates. He seems kinda too eager for my liking considering we've only been on two dates.
Ive started dating a guy ive known for a while but wouldnt classify as being mates. He seems kinda too eager for my liking considering we've only been on two dates.
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I wouldn't go further than first base on a first date! And he/she shouldn't expect you too. This guy seems quite dodgy to be honest. Sex shouldn't be on the agenda for the first/second date. In fact, you should be out of the 'dates' stage before sex is even considered. Mind, everyone makes mistakes. But seriously, how 'eager' is he?
midloon
OK he wasnt looking for sex but we did end up with his car seats horizontal lying on top of eachother. we didnt do much talking to be honest. he did ask if he could undo my bra. maybe im just not up to date but i thought it was a tad eager (ok if he was after sex i would have left straight away)
Was that in anyway, an awkward situation?
Fatal error. He shouldn't have asked! 
Joke, I'd still say that's over-eager, presumably you didn't then say "yeah sure"? Actually, to elaborate, I'd say applying any sort of blanket rule to this is silly - it's about the people, time, place, a load of other variables, but essentially, that you are both comfortable. You clearly weren't.
Joke, I'd still say that's over-eager, presumably you didn't then say "yeah sure"? Actually, to elaborate, I'd say applying any sort of blanket rule to this is silly - it's about the people, time, place, a load of other variables, but essentially, that you are both comfortable. You clearly weren't.
nige
Fatal error. He shouldn't have asked!
Joke, I'd still say that's over-eager, presumably you didn't then say "yeah sure"? Actually, to elaborate, I'd say applying any sort of blanket rule to this is silly - it's about the people, time, place, a load of other variables, but essentially, that you are both comfortable. You clearly weren't.
Joke, I'd still say that's over-eager, presumably you didn't then say "yeah sure"? Actually, to elaborate, I'd say applying any sort of blanket rule to this is silly - it's about the people, time, place, a load of other variables, but essentially, that you are both comfortable. You clearly weren't.
I like your answer. Youre smart
And no i didnt say "yeah sure." I gave him a worried look and told him it was our first date, which he responded 'i know.' I did feel comfortable but then I didnt at the same time. silly i know.
midloon
OK he wasnt looking for sex but we did end up with his car seats horizontal lying on top of eachother. we didnt do much talking to be honest. he did ask if he could undo my bra. maybe im just not up to date but i thought it was a tad eager (ok if he was after sex i would have left straight away)
indeed he wanted sex.haha. it is simple to guess, especially if he wants to undo the bra.
Asked to undo your bra did he Textbook stuff, watch him 
So you were lying horizontally on one another (in silence) and then he suddenly "popped" the question.
Since you didn't answer me i'll assume that it was an awkward situation.
Moral is: Only go to the limits that you want to and when you feel right at the time.
Don't let other people's influences (i.e. stop making such stupid threads) affect your decision as to what you do. If you don't want to have sex, don't have it; it's as simple as that.
Since you didn't answer me i'll assume that it was an awkward situation.
Moral is: Only go to the limits that you want to and when you feel right at the time.
Don't let other people's influences (i.e. stop making such stupid threads) affect your decision as to what you do. If you don't want to have sex, don't have it; it's as simple as that.
midloon
I like your answer. Youre smart
And no i didnt say "yeah sure." I gave him a worried look and told him it was our first date, which he responded 'i know.' I did feel comfortable but then I didnt at the same time. silly i know.
And no i didnt say "yeah sure." I gave him a worried look and told him it was our first date, which he responded 'i know.' I did feel comfortable but then I didnt at the same time. silly i know.
Ta, I try.
Just go at a pace you're comfortable with and have the strength not to let him bully you into doing otherwise. If he's worth anything, he'll happily go as slow as you want (presuming you're going *somewhere*, otherwise there may not be much point in being in a relationship).
check_me
Since you didn't answer me i'll assume that it was an awkward situation..
Since you didn't answer me i'll assume that it was an awkward situation..
well i did answer that if you read what ive posted.
check_me
Don't let other people's influences (i.e. stop making such stupid threads) affect your decision as to what you do.
Don't let other people's influences (i.e. stop making such stupid threads) affect your decision as to what you do.
Last time i checked this was an advise room and thats what im asking for. Im not asking what i should have done, i would just like to have it in perspective to what other people have experienced.
check_me
If you don't want to have sex, don't have it; it's as simple as that.
If you don't want to have sex, don't have it; it's as simple as that.
That wasnt actually the issue but nevermind.
As im sure a few guys will agree (samtheman definately) a guy will never be seriously interested in a girl whos prepared to go THAT far on the first date
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