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    I could never date someone who was pro-life. I'm very pro-choice and I feel strongly about it.
    And I could never date a strong or radical liberal either. I'm conservative and find them incredibly annoying.
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    (Original post by Antonia87)
    I could never date someone who was pro-life. I'm very pro-choice and I feel strongly about it.
    And I could never date a strong or radical liberal either. I'm conservative and find them incredibly annoying.
    This too! I don't really like the terminology pro-life and pro-choice though, it always makes me feel like pro-choice is anti-life which I don't believe is true.

    I don't think I could date someone who is anti-choice. Choice is a basic human right.
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    (Original post by MC REN)
    Why on earth would you put liking football up there as a relationship deal breaker? At worst it'll take them away from you for a couple of hours a week.
    Because that's how I feel about football.
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    (Original post by ghostboobs)
    I have plenty of lovely Tory friends, but once I was dating this handsome, funny, talented man and the moment he told me he'd vote Conservative was like a bucket of ice being thrown over my head.

    Despite how great he was I just couldn't shake it off. It demonstrated a fundamental difference in our attitudes towards life...

    Aside from political leanings, dishonesty and racism are major turn-offs, as is excessive clinginess and bad manners.
    I don't see why that would put you off him so much... I'm relatively conservative - a "moderate tory" if you will - I just believe people should work for what they have, and that people should be rewarded for their hard work. I'm in favour of things like the NHS (although it is tremendously beaureaucratic and wasteful at times - I did some work experience in the IT department in my local hospital and saw maybe 3 hours of actual work done in an entire week). I just don't see why that would be like "a bucket of ice". At the moment I'd consider myself conservative because they're the only party I believe has a vauge chance of rescuing us from bankruptcy.
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    tall (no smaller than 5ft8)

    aged 30-40 no younger or no older

    shaved or short hair (long hair is a no no)

    brown hair but not too dark

    breen/blue eyes (brown are a no no)

    muscly

    tattoos and piercings (although no facial piercings bar eye brow)

    doesnt like kids

    likes animals

    doesnt read lads mags/watch porn

    doesnt go out on the piss every weekend

    doesnt put his mates before me (when we start getting serious)

    wants to get married

    supports newcastle (im not too fussed if he doesnt as long as he doesnt support sunderland)

    like football (i couldnt be with someone that hated football)

    doesnt smoke

    doesnt take drugs

    doesnt cheat

    is honest

    doesnt try to change me and accepts that i want tattoos/piercings

    get on with my family (if he doesnt we cant be together)

    is either an athiest or a christian


    ^^^ what i look for in a guy, would never date a none white
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    (Original post by rajandkwameali)
    If you despised other races, which most British people beneath the surface do (:.
    I wouldn't say most people despise other races. I most certainly don't. There are some people from other races who annoy me, just as much as I hate some people from my own race. You cannot be so judgemental as to apply traits to a whole race just because of a small experience, and I don't believe that ''most people'' do!
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    (Original post by tinktinktinkerbell)
    tall (no smaller than 5ft8)

    aged 30-40 no younger or no older

    shaved or short hair (long hair is a no no)

    brown hair but not too dark

    breen/blue eyes (brown are a no no)

    muscly

    tattoos and piercings (although no facial piercings bar eye brow)

    doesnt like kids

    likes animals

    doesnt read lads mags/watch porn

    doesnt go out on the piss every weekend

    doesnt put his mates before me (when we start getting serious)

    wants to get married

    supports newcastle (im not too fussed if he doesnt as long as he doesnt support sunderland)

    like football (i couldnt be with someone that hated football)

    doesnt smoke

    doesnt take drugs

    doesnt cheat

    is honest

    doesnt try to change me and accepts that i want tattoos/piercings

    get on with my family (if he doesnt we cant be together)

    is either an athiest or a christian


    ^^^ what i look for in a guy, would never date a none white
    So, how is the single life?
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    (Original post by TShadow383)
    I don't see why that would put you off him so much... I'm relatively conservative - a "moderate tory" if you will - I just believe people should work for what they have, and that people should be rewarded for their hard work. I'm in favour of things like the NHS (although it is tremendously beaureaucratic and wasteful at times - I did some work experience in the IT department in my local hospital and saw maybe 3 hours of actual work done in an entire week). I just don't see why that would be like "a bucket of ice". At the moment I'd consider myself conservative because they're the only party I believe has a vauge chance of rescuing us from bankruptcy.
    I don't know, it's a conflicted attitude which can perhaps be traced back to all the banal Socialist rhetoric that was imparted to me throughout my childhood. Conservatism/moderate Toryist ideology are inherently okay - good, even. Perhaps it was more the swaggering, "Hoorah Henry"-esque sneer that accompanied his admission. Maybe its a fundamental bias because of stereotypes and the shadow of Thatcher (still rife resentment of her in South Wales).. sais pas.
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    (Original post by TShadow383)
    So, how is the single life?


    im not single, ive been with my bf for over 8 years and been engaged for over 5 :yep: :yep:
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    (Original post by ghostboobs)
    I don't know, it's a conflicted attitude which can perhaps be traced back to all the banal Socialist rhetoric that was imparted to me throughout my childhood. Conservatism/moderate Toryist ideology are inherently okay - good, even. Perhaps it was more the swaggering, "Hoorah Henry"-esque sneer that accompanied his admission. Maybe its a fundamental bias because of stereotypes and the shadow of Thatcher (still rife resentment of her in South Wales).. sais pas.
    Thatcher was a moderate Tory though? More liberal (not the American type of liberal but the classical one - Adam Smith, free-market, blah blah type) than Conservative. Much more.
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    (Original post by SunOfABeach)
    Thatcher was a moderate Tory though? More liberal (not the American type of liberal but the classical one - Adam Smith, free-market, blah blah type) than Conservative. Much more.
    What does that have to do with the general collective resentment of her that I have always experienced in South Wales? Stating that I personally consider moderate Conservatism to be inherently "okay" has no bearing on the repurcussions of one individual's actions.
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    I wouldn't go out with somebody who is black, personally, I'm just not attracted to black people. This might be because I'm so light-skinned, or because I'm an unwitting racist. I don't know. Apart from that, there aren't many relationship breakers for me. I would find it difficult to be with somebody who was, as is said above, pro-choice as opposed to pro-life. But apart from that, so long as they're not irritating and naggy, I could probably accept most things in the types of people I'm attracted to.
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    (Original post by Ilora-Danon)
    Because that's how I feel about football.
    Well frankly I think that's pathetic, you don't have to like it yourself but being so intolerant of other people (and by other people I mean most other people) over something which basically doesn't affect you in any non-trivial way is just weird.

    I can't see why it would bother you that much, it would have no bearing on how the relationship went, it just isn't the same as deep-held religious beliefs or pro-life opinions, etc, which could potentially upset the course of your coupling.
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    (Original post by MC REN)
    Well frankly I think that's pathetic, you don't have to like it yourself but being so intolerant of other people (and by other people I mean most other people) over something which basically doesn't affect you in any non-trivial way is just weird.

    I can't see why it would bother you that much, it would have no bearing on how the relationship went, it just isn't the same as deep-held religious beliefs or pro-life opinions, etc, which could potentially upset the course of your coupling.
    Since when was it a requirement for someone to find a liking for football to be an attractive trait in someone?
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    Not eventually wanting kids would be a huge deal breaker.

    (as well as religious nuts, people who don't read, people who aren't ambitious, people who think that ex-college unis are the same as old unis, non-brits (I'm flexible on that one), labour supporters, the money-obsessed, people with horrible accents/who are in good need of an elocution lesson or two, shorties, weed smokers, blue eyes, dandruff, fatties, sex-o-holics, alcoholics, workoholics, any other type of oholic, and I couldn't see myself settling down with someone who wasn't white.)

    No wonder I'm single.
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    Anyone fanatical and extreme about anything. I'm not religious at all myself, so I couldn't date a practising Mormon (as an example, anyone who really takes their religion seriously probably wouldn't get on well with me if I was going to be around them that much), for example. I have nothing against dating people from other races or cultures, but where I live at home isn't ethnically diverse at all, nor is my main circle of friends, so regardless of whether I'd be willing to or not, there's a limit to how much contact I have with people of other races anyway. I couldn't date anyone who wasn't curious about everything around them, or was ignorant. It's one of the things I can't tolerate about people - in the age where you can type a word into wikipedia and have a mountain of information turn up, there's no excuse for ignorance. Or anyone who judged people on first appearances, such as racists, misogynists, etc etc. Luckily, I seem to have found someone who fits that bill
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    (Original post by Meow7)
    No, I know not all tories are rich. But every tory I've ever met has been stuck up. I don't get how you can be a party who wants to rule the country and not give a sh!t about a whole section of society. Plus people from up here will never forgive the [email protected]@rds for what Thatcher did. And section 28 was disgraceful.

    I could never ever date a tory, everything about them makes me angry
    Some of us are nice you know! How many Tories have you met?! :confused: Also, that was the 80's; things change (despite what people say about parties pandering to their old ways).


    Back to OP....Communists, Nationalists and rugby-haters.
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    (Original post by Ilora-Danon)
    Since when was it a requirement for someone to find a liking for football to be an attractive trait in someone?
    I never said it was, I just said that it should no way be a deal breaker. Even if you don't find it attractive, it's still harmless and really shouldn't influence your relationship and am surprised that anyone could feel that strongly about something so trivial*, especially something which is so ubiquitous (which might partly explain why you don't like it, but makes it hard to justify pin-pointing anyone who likes football out as non-relationship material)

    *yes football isn't trivial to people who follow it, but in terms of interactions with people who don't it pretty much is.
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    only when she's not telling me something I need to know.
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    Not wanting kids one day

    Generally being an annoying intolerant *******
 
 
 
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