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    Please keep anon.

    I'm confused right now. I am not depressed, not in the slightest. Well, I have off days, but don't we all? The thing is I still self harm occassionally, but only when I'm really pissed off or frustrated. You know when something has upset/frustrated you to the point you need to cry or hit something really bad and can't. I probably sound like I need anger management right now, I don't, it's just that feeling everyone gets when they're really frustrated? (E.g. arguement with the boyfriend and feeling unwanted and wanting him to start caring again?!) Ok, that probably sounds depressive, but I'm really not, believe me. So, any suggestions as to how I can stop SH? The second after I've done it and the thrill has sort of gone and all those feelings of frustration have subsided and I just feel more mellow, I regret it and think how stupid I've been. I sometimes listen to music really, really loudly as an alternative but nothing quite works like SH.
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    Um, find some other way to channel your anger? Like punching a pillow, or even playing some sort of video game where you get to shoot people or whatever might help. Much better than harming yourself, anyway! Otherwise, you should try counseling for it - even if you don't have anger management issues, there's obviously an unhealthy impulse that makes you hurt yourself when you're angry - and I'm pretty sure a therapist could help you deal with that.
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    Exercisce, and I mean real exercise, not the "I was depressive so I went jogging for hours blabla, but it didn't help so I decided to stay depressive"-exercising.
    Join a Kickboxing gym, go to the swimming club etc. it has to be intensive.
    As for immediate meassures, do some burpees, like 1min without pausing, or push ups on your knuckles.
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    I think you're in denial about being depressed. you'd need to have a mental illness to engage in self harm.

    as post above said, find other ways to release your anger, maybe do some self-defence or boxing.
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    Think that you're only hurting yourself? You have to turn-around your view, it is up to you, the block is all in your head, you don't NEED it. Life is harf sometimes, but this is not a real answer.
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    sometimes rubbing an ice cube over where you self harm can help, just as a habit thing. when i wanted to stop, i threw out everything i used to self-harm and that helped, but i agree that something like exercise helps - sometimes i'll just do sit-ups until my stomach really hurts or something, it gives you something to focus on and is a bit like working off the frustration.

    on a slightly more random note, i find cooking calms me down. plus, you then have food to eat. baking cookies is especially good, and you can give them to friends and suddenly watch yourself become more popular
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    you need to channel your anger in other ways, running works for me
 
 
 
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