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    So my flat mate is throwing a house party in our own flat and whilst it's my friends that are coming I don't want the flat to get trashed and me end up with no sleep all night - don't get me wrong, I don't mind house parties, just not in my own flat! Do I have a right to tell her I don't want her told hold it at ours or should I just stay at a friend's house instead? (it's just me and her in the flat)
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    Is the issue with the fact you don't want it to be thrown at your flat because it'll get trashed, or the fact that you don't want to go? If your friends are coming, surely you'd like to attend it if your friend goes ahead with it...? I personally would stay at a friend's if I really didn't want to go, and make sure I asked my flatmate to be respectful of my stuff, and the flat in general.
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    Is it at the weekend? If so then you should maybe just try and deal with it, it's probably a one off and about the flat getting trashed..well you can try and ask everyone to be super-careful, whether they'll take any of this on board is another thing. if anything gets wrecked its really her responsabilty to replace it since its her party and you didn't want it there in the first place. you could try talking to her but unless shes really understanding i doubt shell cancel it on short-notice. The best thing is probablu just to stay at a mates and hope for the best :/
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    Just cross your fingers you'll have some decent friends who will stay to help you clean and tidy up the next morning.
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    If it is this weekend then you have left it a bit late notice to make her cancel it now. You say you like houseparties, but only at other people flats, the thing is at some point I feel people should always repay the favour and honest their own! Put away real breakables (although I doubt you have many antique ordaments hanging around your student flat) and ask people to be careful. If it gets trashed it is your friends fault as its her party - However if all the people invited are your friends then it shouldn't get too out of hand with the trashing...
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    Speaking from experience, it's a lot more fun to go to a house party than host one. At mine I was basically cleaner/baby-sitter and spent the whole night worrying about the state of the house.

    How many friends are going? Because if its only a small group of your friends then it should be fine (say 10-15 people), more like a gathering...but if its hoards of strangers you'd be well within your rights to have a little word with your friend IMO :yep:
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    Get some lovely friends to help clear up in the morning
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    trashed my own house party because nobody came
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    Just relax and enjoy it. Don't get too drunk, keep a mindful eye on events and your flat'll be fine.
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    where else is the party gonna be at biatch?? lol
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    (Original post by Eden09)
    So my flat mate is throwing a house party in our own flat and whilst it's my friends that are coming I don't want the flat to get trashed and me end up with no sleep all night - don't get me wrong, I don't mind house parties, just not in my own flat! Do I have a right to tell her I don't want her told hold it at ours or should I just stay at a friend's house instead? (it's just me and her in the flat)
    Can i come?!
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    (Original post by HumorousGent.)
    trashed my own house party because nobody came
    Not surprised really :awesome:
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    Thanks for the advice everyone. I talked to my friend and she said she'll make sure her and any possible staying over guests will clean everything up and I'll just stay at a friend's house. I can't tell them to be careful really because I know once people get drunk they don't really listen to that kinda thing anyway, and I don't want to make them uncomfortable by being the only one who doesn't want to get wasted! So I figured it's best for me to just stay at a friend's
 
 
 
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