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    When you hear this word, what exactly is the first thing you think of?

    A) Someone who merely has a natural sexual attraction to children but does not act on it?

    Or

    B) Someone who engages in illegal acts with a minor or downloads images relating to such?



    I ask that question because there seems to be a few people here who incorrectly assume when someone demonises paedophilia, we are referring to (and attacking) the former option and not JUST the second option. I want to establish this is not the case.

    For those who don't wish to take psychological/tolerant view of men who only have the attraction to children, but do not act on them;


    • A) Has this type of paedophile ever crossed your mind?

      B) Do you have a problem with them?

      C) Should we be more tolerant of their feelings and stop demonising paedophiles as a whole?

      D) Would you attack or want to attack someone like this?

      E) Have you ever verbally or physically attacked someone who's had this natural attraction to children but has NEVER corresponded with a minor or acted on their perversion?

      F) Is this form of "invisible" paedo even worthy of debate?



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    I welcome all responses. For this particular thread, I will remain inpartial (for now). This has been discussed a lot recently but I want to uncross a few wires and get more of a general consensus because I've only seen responses from those who take the term too literally and/or attack those who don't mirror their empathetic views.
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    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IlEcGHxfltE

    Crafty buggers
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    I don't see how anyone could be tolerant of a paedophile, whether they act on their feelings or not.
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    I think of both because paedophiles can be both. It depends on the context doesn't it? :confused:
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    u called?. love the vid btw sakura
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    (Original post by Sakura-Chan)
    I don't see how anyone could be tolerant of a paedophile, whether they act on their feelings or not.
    I'm tolerant of the ones that don't act on their feelings. :yy:
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    (Original post by Sakura-Chan)
    I don't see how anyone could be tolerant of a paedophile, whether they act on their feelings or not.
    No matter what you do there will be a proportion of the society that is paedophilic, the only time it didn't exist is when we didn't classify or care about it.

    This isn't a personal choice, as much as it was your choice to be male or female or aroused by certain things and not others.
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    (Original post by EskimoJo)
    I'm tolerant of the ones that don't act on their feelings. :yy:
    Even if you had young children? Doubt it. I know there's a difference between acting on it and not, and not being a total vigilante and attacking them in the street, but I find it hard to believe that any one with children would be comfortable with a paedophile living in the same area/being anywhere near their children. Just because a person claims not to act on their ''desires'' doesn't mean that they never will, which is bad enough.

    ALSO! I find it incredibly hard to believe that if you're aroused by children that you'd never dabble in a watching bit of child porn.
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    (Original post by Sakura-Chan)
    Even if you had young children? Doubt it. I know there's a difference between acting on it and not, and not being a total vigilante and attacking them in the street, but I find it hard to believe that any one with children would be comfortable with a paedophile living in the same area/being anywhere near their children. Just because a person claims not to act on their ''desires'' doesn't mean that they never will, which is bad enough.

    ALSO! I find it incredibly hard to believe that if you're aroused by children that you'd never dabble in a bit of child porn.
    Most sexual acts against children are done by relatives, how are you going to stop parents abusing their own children?

    And just because it's in our nature doesn't mean we act upon it, that's why we don't run around killing each other all the time like the old days.
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    (Original post by ......?)
    Most sexual acts against children are done by relatives, how are you going to stop parents abusing their own children?

    And just because it's in our nature doesn't mean we act upon it, that's why we don't run around killing each other all the time like the old days.
    Our? :lolwut:

    I'm not talking about other people's children, I'd be more concerned about my own.

    If you haven't had a **** over a child, thought about one and got a lob on, or watched child porn then how can you categorically 100% say that you're aroused by children?
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    (Original post by Sakura-Chan)
    ALSO! I find it incredibly hard to believe that if you're aroused by children that you'd never dabble in a bit of child porn.
    Im sure alot of people are aroused by hardcore pornography.. but would never do it themselves :P
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    I also want to know why (if you do) are so eager to defend Invisible Paedophiles, when in actual fact, we're not attacking them at all?

    In actual fact, your assumptions (and subsequent White Knighting) come from specious presumptions. I hope the relevant parties realise the irony of their actions.
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    (Original post by Reue)
    Im sure alot of people are aroused by hardcore pornography.. but would never do it themselves :P
    Not do it, just watch it.
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    (Original post by Sakura-Chan)
    just watch it.
    Oh do you?
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    Well i guess it must be said, do these people exist? How do we know that there are so called "invisible paedos" out there?
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    (Original post by Reue)
    Oh do you?
    Who said I just watch :awesome:
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    (Original post by Sakura-Chan)
    Our? :lolwut:

    I'm not talking about other people's children, I'd be more concerned about my own.

    If you haven't had a **** over a child, thought about one and got a lob on, or watched child porn then how can you categorically 100% say that you're aroused by children?
    Violence is in our nature, society is why we have less violence and don't spend most of our time afraid of everyone else we see.

    How would you know that your own children are safe unless you psychologically study every person they come into contact with including their dad.

    It would be easier to stop child abuse if there was less stigma attached to having these urges, if they are told that they are evil people they will hide these urges and try to control them only with their own willpower. I'd feel much safer if people didn't hide these feelings and were made to feel that it isn't their own fault (unless they do act upon it).
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    (Original post by Sakura-Chan)
    Who said I just watch :awesome:




    I love you
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    (Original post by Sakura-Chan)
    I don't see how anyone could be tolerant of a paedophile, whether they act on their feelings or not.
    becasue a person can not help how they feel - im sure there are those who feel what they do and are utterly revolted by it and hate themselves for it knowing what they are doing is wrong.

    those people deserve help and support.

    those who do abuse children are a different matter entirely
 
 
 
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