Bereavement

I lost someone close to me yesterday so I am feeling pretty crap. I spent most of yesterday crying which has given me chronic headaches, so am trying to keep the tears to a minimum today. I just keep thinking Im going to burst into tears at every tiny little thing.

I know things will get better with time, but at the moment it seems as though Im going to feel like this forever.

I just dont know what to do, I feel totally lost.

Reply 1

JoeCool_Lemming

Firstly, I'm so sorry for your loss. Just remember that whatever you feel right now is perfectly acceptable after bereavement, so don't worry about that. It's never good to bottle things up - talk to friends and family, or even add me for an MSN chat if you need someone to talk to :p:

It does get better, although it doesn't feel like it at the moment. I'm sure that no matter who it was that you lost wouldn't want you to be sad, so try and remember the happy times you spent with them and know that even though they're gone they still love you and want you to be happy.

Reply 2

Fluffy

What you're feeling is normal. I remember when my best friend died - I think I cried almost non-stop for a month.

All I can say is don't fight it, or bottle it up - it's a normal part of grief. It does get easier (although at the time I couldn't ever imagine it doing so).

Make sure you have someone to talk to or cry with if you need to.

Big hugs

fx

Reply 3

Spider

I'm really sorry to hear that. It must be extremely hard for you, and there's no point in keeping your feelings bottled up, and don't ever feel ashamed about the way you're feeling. Everyone copes with things in their own way, and if you feel you're going to cry at everything, it's better to just let that happen.

Things will get better as you say, and you'll be a much stronger person at the end of it.

I hope you feel better soonm and feel free to send a message our way if you need to talk. Chin up!

Reply 4

tbm

Thanks for the replies guys. Im feeling a bit better today although I think Im trying too hard to be "okay", if that makes sense. One minute I feel okay and the next I feel awful again, like I dont want to be here anymore. Ive spoken to my boyfriend about this and he has been very supportive. I guess I'll just have to take things slowly and see how I feel. Thanks again x

Reply 5

mkenani

you know what? i think that you should cry all that you can...and well iam sure than in time you will begin to feel better.thought the truth is that you will never be able to get through it completley. but you will be better and iam sorry for your loss.