Anon or delete please, i'm a pathetic mess and have no idea who uses this. Thanks.
Bascially i need advice. There's a guy i know from university. I like him. He likes me. We both know this. Many opportunites alone for something to happen. But when nothing happened i asked would i be rejected if i made a move, and he said he would rather "see how things go" and "doesn't want to jump into something big and then have to turn around and say we were better off as friends" then says "i'm not saying i don't want anything to happen, just not yet"
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- Thread Starter
- 23-01-2010 01:51
- 23-01-2010 01:53
That's frustrating... sounds like a nice brush off ... He could just be scared though. Maybe just make a move when you're 'drunk' and if he turns you down, give up.
- 23-01-2010 04:03
He's not into you, simply as that, don't go holding your breath for miracles.
- 23-01-2010 04:09
Yeah could be that, but the alcohol idea is definitely one
- 23-01-2010 04:34
I wouldn't hold your hopes on that one tbh. Sounds like he's waiting for something... something else perhaps.
Sorry hun, doesn't sound too good to me.
- 23-01-2010 04:44
I'm in a similar position, though I'm a girl 'rebuffing' a boy. I like him but I have things I need to sort out with myself first. I also have a suspicion that he just wants a relationship and doesn't mind who with.
Um, not sure it does but hope that helps - obviously different people involved! but if you consider the other side of the coin you'll see it might not be completely to do with you, as in (like me) he may just not be cut out for a relationship at the moment.
- 23-01-2010 11:27
I'm also kind of in this situation, in that I like him, he likes me, but he came out of a 7 year relationship back in August and he said he doesn't want to do anything at the moment and would rather stay as friends as to not see me as a rebound/hurt me. It's very confusing; I don't know where I'm coming or going. Being friends is good enough for me now, though I'm not so sure as time passes when I'm liking him more and more everyday
- 23-01-2010 14:28
same thing happened between mine, but we ended up being together. Can't wait till he gets back
- 23-01-2010 14:46
he sounds like he dosent know what he wants. thats bout it. he will figure out what he wants but its more likely he wont start anything if im been honest. beacuse hes thinking about not jumping into you means he dosent look at you that way very strongley. sorry.
yes he might just want to go back to friends but if you stick around you never know what can happen in the future...
Im not saying your clingy but if you think you are then mabie back off a little bit if he wants to be friends.....the chances are if you act clingy that he might miss that and wants the clingyness back...Last edited by banter; 23-01-2010 at 14:50.
- Thread Starter
- 25-01-2010 01:27
Thanks for the replies. Much appreciated. It's complicated because we were out with some friends last night and he used the term "we" to describe us both a lot. Also i've noticed an increase in flirty comments and things, it's like we've got it there mentally, but not.. physically? I also have found out a lot more about him lately, more by the more we get to know each other andhe said the other day he "classes me seperate than everyone else from uni".
I'm guessing it's a wait and see situation, and maybe i'm just too impatient. I wouldn't say i was 'clingy', but we do talk everyday. Maybe i won't talk to him for a few days and see what happens...?
It's his birthday in a few weeks and we're going out with a large group of friends, which should be interesting.
I just wish it bothered me less, it's either one of the 2:
1. He values our friendship and doesn't want to rush into anything really deep too quick.
2. He's "just not that into me" and althought orginally said he was, doesn't want to turn around and now say he isn't.
- 25-01-2010 02:17
From what you say it sounds to me that the sentence is incomplete:
"I like you, but i want to see how things go with [insert name here] first"