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    The best thing would probably be to refer them to a specialist, but it would probably gross me out too much to continue being friends with them.
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    (Original post by laced)
    Even if they're disgusted at theself for holding such attractions, and as such seem highly unlikely to act upon them? It's not like they're choosing to be attracted to children. They can't help it.

    I'd probably encourage them to seek help, particularly if it was resulting in the possiblity of them harming either themselves or others.
    There would always be a chance they would act upon them, even if that chance was less than 1% they should be exterminated as no child should ever have to go through such horror.
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    I had a friend who was found guilty of sexually assualting a 5 year old girl.

    He is not my friend anymore.
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    Well your putting these nasty thoughts into people's heads, so in essence, you are kind of creating the situation. I can't even bring myself to imagine such repulsive things. Plus I usually get a good first impression of people and their mentality. I can see from this single post your mind is littered with thoughts like these. I couldn't care less. But I don't see why you should share them with the world, it is kind of creepy if you didn't notice. But it's a free country so knock yourself out, even though you could be creating a dozen psychopaths by displaying your sick fantasies to everyone.
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    Keep my siblings away from them?
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    Having been there done that I can say that my best friend is such a good friend that frankly I'm happy to let it slide (aside from the odd bit of piss taking).
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    What is with all the paedo threads on TSR?
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    (Original post by princessnavi22)
    There would always be a chance they would act upon them, even if that chance was less than 1% they should be exterminated as no child should ever have to go through such horror.
    Dear god.. the death penalty for having feelings that they don't want?!

    And my opinion is this;
    I would talk to the friend and say that I had seen that, and be apologetic that I saw it, as I shouldn't have been looking.
    I would tell them that I was there for them and understood that it wasn't their fault for having those feelings, but there are ways of dealing with them.
    I would not contact the authorities unless children seemed to be in great harm.. nor would I push the friend into a choice. I'd keep an eye on the situation.. and I would stay their friend.
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    (Original post by princessnavi22)
    Yes. I am clearly a horrible person, much worse than a potential paedophile.

    You're completely right.

    :rolleyes:
    Whats worse; getting feelings about sex with children but knowing they are wrong..
    Or getting feelings about how certain people should die and not knowing they are wrong..

    Potential rape... potential murder... potential rape... potential murder...
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    (Original post by lightburns)
    Whats worse; getting feelings about sex with children but knowing they are wrong..
    Or getting feelings about how certain people should die and not knowing they are wrong..

    Potential rape... potential murder... potential rape... potential murder...

    Oh please. If you had a child that had been molested, tell me you wouldn't want that person dead.
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    (Original post by princessnavi22)
    Oh please. If you had a child that had been molested, tell me you wouldn't want that person dead.
    Actually, speaking as someone who has been molested I can't say that I want that person dead. Incarcerated? Yes. Dead? No.
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    (Original post by laced)
    Actually, speaking as someone who has been molested I can't say that I want that person dead. Incarcerated? Yes. Dead? No.
    Then you're much more forgiving than I am.
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    My mate is a predator. He's 17 and he goes for girls under the age of consent over girls nearer to his age... i don't know what to think.
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    (Original post by princessnavi22)
    Oh please. If you had a child that had been molested, tell me you wouldn't want that person dead.
    Oh, but we're talking about people who fantasize about sex with children, not about those who actually do have sex with children. And yes, there is a difference. People think about all kinds of massively weird and gross stuff without acting on those fantasies.
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    (Original post by princessnavi22)
    Oh please. If you had a child that had been molested, tell me you wouldn't want that person dead.
    Revenge and retribution is not a moral position. So no, I wouldn't.

    And you are talking about someone convicted of sexually abusing a child not someone thinking about it and knowing its wrong.
    There is a large difference between someone stabbing someone, and thinking about stabbing someone... It's the same for sex with children. Thoughts and actions are not the same, and you can't assume that someone's thoughts will lead to those actions.
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    (Original post by princessnavi22)
    Then you're much more forgiving than I am.
    I haven't forgiven, I just don't believe that someone should be killed by the state for their actions.

    That, however, is a whole different debate.
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    (Original post by innerhollow)
    Here's the situation: Through a stroke of luck or ingenious snooping, you've stumbled upon your best friend's diary.

    In the diary, they reveal that they are in fact sexually attracted to children. They've had these lustful feelings towards young children for a while now, and find them very difficult to deal with. Your friend states adamantly and repeatedly that they would never dream of abusing a child- the thought completlely repulses them, and they would never do such an awful thing. They have no idea how to cope with this unwanted sexuality they are "cursed with" as they put it. They often feel very scared and have recurring nightmares about people finding out they're a paedophile and hunting them down. Your friend expresses feelings that they are an "abomination" and repeatedly shows suicidal intents.

    Assume everything that has been written in the diary by this friend is true. What do you do? How would you react, what actions would you take (i.e. would you tell your friend you'd found out) etc? All this and more in this thread.
    I'd dump them.

    Nobody needs "friends" like that. :yep:
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    What is with all these paedo threads - I mean seriously has TSR just been invaded with Paedos trying to create sympathy for themselves among young people or something. Its ******* disgusting
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    I wouldn't be "snooping" or reading their diary in the first place.
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    Confront them, talk to them about it, find out why they think it might be.

    Then i'd suggest they talk to someone professional.
 
 
 
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