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Don't Want to go to a Party watch

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    It's one of my best friends parties tonight and she's having a house party. I've always managed to avoid parties but have no way of getting out of it. The thing is, I don't like drinking, and don't know most of the people there. I'm 17, and some of my friends want us to all chip in and get drinks, but I really don't want to, and I don't want to get with anyone either. What do i do?
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    I don't care what people think so I'd just make it clear I don't want to go, their problem. To be fair if their going to get totally pissed they won't notice or care your not there.

    If you don't want to be direct, you'll need a good excuse. Only problem is last minute all you can say is your ill, which tbh no one is going to believe. Better to say it straight then try and spin some rubbish lie.
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    Yep, just tell them straight, I'm sure they'd understand.
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    Man up.
    Go.
    Nobody's forcing you to drink.
    Socialising is good.
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    Tell them straight
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    Lie and say you're ill
    Stay for a while but go home early.
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    OP, is it a fancy dress party :lolwut:
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    just go.. you dont have to drink..
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    Aaaww.
    If i were you, i'd go, you'll probably enjoy yourself, and you haven't goto to drink!
    But if you really don't want to go, make an excuse! (:
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    OP, is it a fancy dress party :lolwut:
    Why would it be a fancy dress party?
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    Just lie. I have avoided pretty much all parties because I just don't want to go with them - I really have no desire to hang around with a load of strangers, and would much rather stay in.

    Either lie, or show up for a bit and then go home, they won't notice everyone will be too drunk.
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    damn, poor individual, how are you going to get out of this awful duty that was forced upon you ?
    what a sad state of affairs this is. i feel for you, i really do.
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    go and show your face, and get a good excuse to leave

    so you showed up so they couldnt be annoyed at you

    and then you get to go, and you wont have to drink

    if you do this: look genuinely annoyed to have to go

    It's ironically polite haha
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    (Original post by Dr_Pwn)
    Man up.
    Go.
    Nobody's forcing you to drink.
    Socialising is good.
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    OP you are afraid of how you come across to new people and are scared of going.
    I used to be like this, but as you drink a bit you loosen up meet new people and have fun.
    More friends means more options in terms of social opportunities and chances to make friends and even find a partner. You're clearly hiding behind the fact that you lack social skills. Tis a shame :rolleyes:
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    If you really don't wanna go, if it was me I'd say "thanks for inviting me, but it's really not my thing sorry" ... but you should go, surely if it's your best friends party you'll have fun!
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    if you don't wanna go, don't go...simple...nobody's forcing you...or are they..?!?!
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    (Original post by 9MmBulletz)
    This,
    OP you are afraid of how you come across to new people and are scared of going.
    I used to be like this, but as you drink a bit you loosen up meet new people and have fun.
    More friends means more options in terms of social opportunities and chances to make friends and even find a partner. You're clearly hiding behind the fact that you lack social skills. Tis a shame :rolleyes:
    But he JUST said he doesn't want to go for the sole reason that he doesn't want to drink. What kind of advice is it when you say he, in fact, should?

    I think you either just go but don't drink (no one is forcing you and who cares if you do or don't?) or you don't show up and tell them the real reason.

    If they are actual friends then they'll understand. If not, they clearly aren't that good friends.
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    They can't force you to drink if you do not want to.
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    Make it clear that drinking is not what you do and truely if they are really your friends they will accept that and leave it at that.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    It's one of my best friends parties tonight and she's having a house party. I've always managed to avoid parties but have no way of getting out of it. The thing is, I don't like drinking, and don't know most of the people there. I'm 17, and some of my friends want us to all chip in and get drinks, but I really don't want to, and I don't want to get with anyone either. What do i do?
    Just don't go. I miss parties all the time, not attending them is the easiest thing in the world. Nobody is holding a gun to your head.
    Don't put so much importance on what people might think (seeing as you don't know most of the people there, this isn't really an issue) of you if you don't go.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    It's one of my best friends parties tonight and she's having a house party. I've always managed to avoid parties but have no way of getting out of it. The thing is, I don't like drinking, and don't know most of the people there. I'm 17, and some of my friends want us to all chip in and get drinks, but I really don't want to, and I don't want to get with anyone either. What do i do?
    Either go and make it clear that you won't be drinking. You can still have a good time.

    Or spontaneously come down with a virus so that you're too ill to go.
 
 
 
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