Hey there! Sign in to join this conversationNew here? Join for free
x Turn on thread page Beta

Don't Want to go to a Party watch

    Offline

    1
    ReputationRep:
    To be honest, if she is a true friend, she should understand; just tell her how you feel uncomfortable etc.

    EDIT: Try to avoid lying to friends etc, not a good idea =P
    Offline

    15
    ReputationRep:
    You don't have to drink or get with anyone! :lolwut: If you still don't want to go after considering that, just phone your friend up, say you're not feeling up to it and buy her a nice present/take her out for a cheap lunch to make up for it.
    Offline

    15
    ReputationRep:
    (Original post by kai4321)
    But he JUST said he doesn't want to go for the sole reason that he doesn't want to drink. What kind of advice is it when you say he, in fact, should?

    I think you either just go but don't drink (no one is forcing you and who cares if you do or don't?) or you don't show up and tell them the real reason.

    If they are actual friends then they'll understand. If not, they clearly aren't that good friends.
    ok, forget alcohol but at the end of the day, if you don't know many people at the party, then he should get his/her friends to introduce them to him. What's the crime in making new friends?
    I think the OP is scared of coming off as a loser or whatever. I'm speaking as someone who had been in this position before. I can only offer advice on my experiences
    • PS Helper
    Offline

    14
    PS Helper
    (Original post by Pheonixx)
    Tell them straight
    or
    Lie and say you're ill
    Stay for a while but go home early.
    Encouraging lies. Thought better of yooouuu!
    Offline

    2
    ReputationRep:
    (Original post by rainbowbex)
    Encouraging lies. Thought better of yooouuu!
    First choice of mine was to tell them straight!

    I'd do a mix between half lie and half truth I think depending on how well I knew em. I'm usually ill if I'm turning down a party
    Offline

    0
    ReputationRep:
    pretend you are ill
    • PS Helper
    Offline

    14
    PS Helper
    (Original post by Pheonixx)
    First choice of mine was to tell them straight!

    I'd do a mix between half lie and half truth I think depending on how well I knew em. I'm usually ill if I'm turning down a party
    I'm usually, I can't be bothered/I'm busy. Most of the time I'll just be like yeah maybe see what I'm doing. therefore never tell them I'm coming and just don't go.

    or plain and simple 'sorry don't think I can make it'
    Offline

    2
    ReputationRep:
    (Original post by rainbowbex)
    I'm usually, I can't be bothered/I'm busy. Most of the time I'll just be like yeah maybe see what I'm doing. therefore never tell them I'm coming and just don't go.

    or plain and simple 'sorry don't think I can make it'
    You could use those excuses but I find my friends use fancy persuasive methods and I end up going against my will if they think I'm not in the mood or I'm being lazy ect.

    You never enquired about my one pound chicken deal... it was the highlight of my week :bawling:
    • PS Helper
    Offline

    14
    PS Helper
    (Original post by Pheonixx)
    You could use those excuses but I find my friends use fancy persuasive methods and I end up going against my will if they think I'm not in the mood or I'm being lazy ect.

    You never enquired about my one pound chicken deal... it was the highlight of my week :bawling:
    Oh.. I'm really sorry! How on earth did you get a bird for a quid..

    pahahahahah... see what I did there?
    Offline

    1
    ReputationRep:
    Don't go if you don't want to. Just tell your friend what you said in your post, I'm sure they'll understand.
    Offline

    0
    ReputationRep:
    i think you probably should have made up your mind already otherwise you probably watched Take Me Out and thought the last guy should not have gone for that woman
    so in conclusion you should have gone
    Offline

    1
    ReputationRep:
    Go along but say you will buy all the mixers, so buy things you want to drink and all the soft drinks. So maybe you chip in the same amount and still get to enjoy something for the money spent. You do not have to drink and you don't have to drink to have a good time. Also, you do not have to 'get with' anyone, you talk, mingle, drink/eat, dance etc and generally socialise.

    I think you have a skewed view of parties, go to one and make it your own, you define what a party is to you by what you do there, not just by what you hear goes on. It may actually be very different. Even if it isn't, you will be there and that alone will make a difference to your experience and understanding. You seem to be avoiding something that is never the same twice and you have not attended before.

    Give it a go and don't do or be or say anything you don't want to. A little compromise goes a long way though. Bring/buy a bottle or two - of a soft drink and see how it goes.
    Offline

    15
    I had a friend at uni who refused to drink. We mocked and pressured him relentlessly until he started - in 3rd year. Now he loves a good drink. This confirms that peer pressure, and conforming to it, will make you happy.

    Therefore: Go. Get drunk. Go wild. You might just end up enjoying it. Or you could sit at home on TSR like a sad pleb. Your call.
    Offline

    2
    ReputationRep:
    (Original post by rainbowbex)
    Oh.. I'm really sorry! How on earth did you get a bird for a quid..

    pahahahahah... see what I did there?
    I got one one of those super £1 flight deals to amsterdam




    We should stop spamming this poor persons thread...
    Offline

    13
    ReputationRep:
    I have the most fun at parties where I don't necessarily know everyone. After a few drinks, I get really sociable. Sure, usually means the times I get completely "I'm-going-to-throw-up-everywhere" ******** I have total strangers looking after me, but hey - doesn't happen too often, and it's a way of bonding.

    However, if you're not drinking and really don't want to go, I'm sure your friend will understand. I have a friend who doesn't even have the non-drinking/doesn't know anyone excuse and is still in two minds about coming to a party of mine. I might try and persuade him - he's a bestie, after all - but it is his decision and I completely respect that, should he be totally adamant about not going.
    • PS Helper
    Offline

    14
    PS Helper
    (Original post by Pheonixx)
    I got one one of those super £1 flight deals to amsterdam




    We should stop spamming this poor persons thread...
    You saw what I did there! Yes.. this is officially moved.

    mwhahahaha I love spamming
    Offline

    0
    ReputationRep:
    never turn down an invitation, you never know when they'll stop coming!

    Be a Yes Man (but no to drinking if you really don't want to!)
    Offline

    2
    ReputationRep:
    (Original post by rainbowbex)
    You saw what I did there! Yes.. this is officially moved.

    mwhahahaha I love spamming
    Mwahahah, being a sub I'm now an official professional spammer as that's all they seem to do! I did see, I liked it very much
    • PS Helper
    Offline

    14
    PS Helper
    (Original post by Pheonixx)
    Mwahahah, being a sub I'm now an official professional spammer as that's all they seem to do! I did see, I liked it very much
    I want to be an official professional spammer.. but can't be bothered with that now.. I'll just have to keep doing it on the sly...

    ha. I love what I did there.. man. early 9am start tomorrow. need to beast this courseword.. my books lie abandoned to a certain distracting member of TSR :P
    Offline

    1
    ReputationRep:
    go dressed up in a real wedding dress, veil and all.

    it'll freek people out. then they won't care if you go.

    problem solved.

    next.

    (I wish I ran the country, I'd do a killer job )
 
 
 
Reply
Submit reply
Turn on thread page Beta
TSR Support Team

We have a brilliant team of more than 60 Support Team members looking after discussions on The Student Room, helping to make it a fun, safe and useful place to hang out.

Updated: January 23, 2010
Poll
Are you going to a festival?

The Student Room, Get Revising and Marked by Teachers are trading names of The Student Room Group Ltd.

Register Number: 04666380 (England and Wales), VAT No. 806 8067 22 Registered Office: International House, Queens Road, Brighton, BN1 3XE

Write a reply...
Reply
Hide
Reputation gems: You get these gems as you gain rep from other members for making good contributions and giving helpful advice.