This is really hard to talk about because i dont quite understand it myself. When i was 15 i was raped and i was too ashamed and felt too guilty about going to the police. I thought i could neve have another relationship because i was scared of anyone touching me. When i was 18 i had a sexual realtionship which i enjoyed but he didnt know what happened, we grew apart and that relationship ended. I am now in another relationship and he does know what happened and after sex i burst into tears because i have flashbacks. Why do i have flashbacks now but not with the previous relationship? Can anyone help?
Thank u x
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- Thread Starter
- 23-01-2010 20:51
- 23-01-2010 22:35
maybe because this guy knows you feel, even subconsciously, then you get let out your past fear/pain with this guy, where as with the other you automatically buried it as you didn't tell him.
It's not a bad thing, you need to deal with it anyway. Maybe if you sit down with him and explain to him what happened, and how you feel etc, if you need to cry about it that's fine. It should help you put it past you. Remember that guy who raped you is just a sicko, the large majority of guys aren't going to be like that and your current boyfriend isn't.
- 24-01-2010 04:42
I think because you cried and are experiencing flashbacks- maybe you need to tell him...