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    hope this goes here .... i never know where to put my threads

    i'm planning to move into my own flat in my 3rd year at uni. no other real options tbh. my current situation is that i've just worked out that i have hardly made any real friends at uni and also im quiet and this annoys me, though i like my own company.

    anyway can i have pros and cons of moving into a flat alone? advice or things i should know? or any suggestions

    thanks i really need help
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    i guess you don't have to worry about anyone's mess.
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    Pro's:
    you can do what you like - washing up can be left for like a week before it starts taking over the kitchen, everythings on your terms, you shower when you want, eat when you want, do what you want. you can even walk around naked and no one will care. plus you get a feeling of independence.
    con's:
    it does get kinda lonely.. i've resorted to talking to myself when i've used up all my minutes lol. bills are a right pain in the butt and its ten times harder to socialise. If you wanna go out, you have to figure out a way to get there etc alone, or have to go to someone's beforehand etc. nightmare.

    lol, i don't know if that's the sort of thing you were after?
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    No need to clean up after your friends.
    Less argument.
    Independence.

    Take the full burden of the rent.
    You will get bored with no one of your age group to talk to.
    You might feel less secure with no friends around you.
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    (Original post by TotallyAddictedToBass)
    Pro's:
    you can do what you like - washing up can be left for like a week before it starts taking over the kitchen, everythings on your terms, you shower when you want, eat when you want, do what you want. you can even walk around naked and no one will care. plus you get a feeling of independence.
    con's:
    it does get kinda lonely.. i've resorted to talking to myself when i've used up all my minutes lol. bills are a right pain in the butt and its ten times harder to socialise. If you wanna go out, you have to figure out a way to get there etc alone, or have to go to someone's beforehand etc. nightmare.

    lol, i don't know if that's the sort of thing you were after?
    yer it was didnt think about the last con you mentioned i feel im going to be lonely for a while !!!
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    Move back into halls?
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    I think it would be brilliant to live on your own. But also you need to make sure you put effort into socialising/engaging in various activities so you don't get too lonely. I think that is the biggest potential problem of living alone - unwanted isolation.

    If you really enjoy your own company and you have plenty to keep your mind/self busy then definitely go for it. I was considering moving into my own place recently but decided against it as I realised I definitely wanted people to be around.

    Best of luck
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    (Original post by tweety_2479)
    hope this goes here .... i never know where to put my threads

    i'm planning to move into my own flat in my 3rd year at uni. no other real options tbh. my current situation is that i've just worked out that i have hardly made any real friends at uni and also im quiet and this annoys me, though i like my own company.

    anyway can i have pros and cons of moving into a flat alone? advice or things i should know? or any suggestions

    thanks i really need help
    I'm in a similar situation, although I have my own flat by choice rather than necessity - my friends are great, but I'd kill them if I had to live with them. Plus they live just around the corner anyway (and I can't get rid of them half the bloody time :rolleyes:)

    Pros
    - You are your own master, basically - do what you want, when you want.
    - Don't have to share bathroom or kitchen, and associated mess

    Cons
    - Generally, you'll have to pay a slight premium on your own - rent, bills, TV licence etc. It all adds up, but then again I've got a really good flat and I'm actually paying ever so slightly less than I did in shared accommodation last year.
    - Obviously you'll be on your own! You've said that you enjoy your own company, but just be 100% sure that you'll be OK night after night. I have no problems with this, but I'm sure a lot of others would.
    - It's very easy to slip into social isolation. You have to put the extra effort in to keep up your social life.

    Basically, if you can afford it and are OK with being on your own, go for it. I have no regrets whatsoever, and am already looking to extend my tenancy to cover my final year!
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    (Original post by tweety_2479)
    yer it was didnt think about the last con you mentioned i feel im going to be lonely for a while !!!
    haha aww! As long as you make an effort to go out - Don't blow your friends off because you cba to trek to theirs or whatever, because you will get into the routine of just staying and being boring, believe me!! I find it easier inviting people to mine before a night out - its a flat so everyone can just chill in the lounge or whatever which you can't usually do in student accomodation, and then it's easier to all pile into a taxi or get the bus together

    good luck
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    oh God PLEASE dont move in alone, I mean, aside from the actual MOVING IN which is hell to do alone, you'll be so bored and lonely... no matter how much u claim to enjoy ur own company, there will always be times when u would just need someone else to be there...u'd find urself on the phone or on the internet waay too much and even ur friends will probably get tired of you always calling and texting. Seriously, I could never live alone... that said, if you haven't made any friends at uni then it might be even worse if you rush to move in with someone else who ur not compatible with... if you can find someone similar enough to you, you should go with it, or else, good luck,
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    Pros: Freedom to walk around naked
    Life experience concerning being entirely self-supportive.
    You can get plastered and get in at whatever time you want without waking anyone up.
    You can have people to stay over whenever.
    Essentially, you have 100% independence.

    Cons:
    What pisses me off about people who "yearn" for their independence start to complain once they get lonely. You wanted it, you got it, so STFU with the "I'm lonely" ********; you got what you wanted, now deal with it.
    You can only split the bills with yourself.
    Tidying can be a ***** if you leave it for too long.
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    I live alone. I've turned out fine. :nothing:
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    I live in my flat alone.. on the downside it can get a bit boring, you get stuck with all the tidying and bills but on the plus side I do what I want when I want to do it, and have my own space.. If I feel 'lonely' and wanna get out, I can get onto some mates so its not a big deal.


    It's swings and roundabouts - for every time you wish there was someone there for you, theres a time where you wish your flatmate(s) would shut up and keep their crap to themselves
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    (Original post by tweety_2479)
    hope this goes here .... i never know where to put my threads

    i'm planning to move into my own flat in my 3rd year at uni. no other real options tbh. my current situation is that i've just worked out that i have hardly made any real friends at uni and also im quiet and this annoys me, though i like my own company.

    anyway can i have pros and cons of moving into a flat alone? advice or things i should know? or any suggestions

    thanks i really need help
    Don't do it. Its more expensive and when you've had a really crap day sometimes you need a flatmate to give a hello as you slope in the door.
    Even if you hardly know them.
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    you don't get woken up by your housemates coming home at 5am with all their friends deciding to have a houseparty and eat all your food and use your mugs as ashtrays and use your teatowels to clean the george grill and the heating nazi's won't turn off the heating when they're cold 'cos they don't want to pay the bill and people won't walk into your bedromm when they're drunk and can't find the bathroom :nothing: i'm defo movingin on my own next year :yep:
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    Good luck with living on your own!

    Pros:
    - can be as tidy (or messy) as you like without someone either messing it up or moaning at you for it.
    - You can go out when you like, and come back when you like. You dont have to worry that your flatmates dont like your friends being there!

    Cons:
    - the lonliness, from personal experience of living alone I found my own company too much at time, so make sure you have either a good amount of free minutes on your mobile/a good landline contract so that you can call people when you feel a bit isolated.
    - No one to share the bills with! But then 1 bed flats etc dont take so much to heat etc...
    - can end up with annoying neighbours, who could be worse than potential flatmates.

    As I said at the start of the post, good luck and I hope you enjoy it.
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    Be careful as it can be really expensive. Can you not find a room in a house share?
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    (Original post by tweety_2479)
    hope this goes here .... i never know where to put my threads

    i'm planning to move into my own flat in my 3rd year at uni. no other real options tbh. my current situation is that i've just worked out that i have hardly made any real friends at uni and also im quiet and this annoys me, though i like my own company.

    anyway can i have pros and cons of moving into a flat alone? advice or things i should know? or any suggestions

    thanks i really need help
    Pro's

    You can walk out of shower naked
    You can dance around how you want to dress
    You can sing all night long
    You can have your happy time how you want it when you want it
    You can have the fridge all to yourself, stock up like several months worth in that freezer of yours, thats the paradise of big fridges
    You can work in silent when revising
    You can pump up the music loud as you want so this doesn't distract other people (well not loud to the point neighbours can hear it)
    You don't have to clean other peoples dishes and pots, pans
    You can clean your own stuff and your stuff only
    You can be the host of all parties
    You can actually bring your close friends around (maybe from home)
    You can do lots of things alone

    Cons
    It may be lonely with no company but if that doesn't bother you, its okay. As long you have friends on your course, some outside your course, and majority at home, its okay. At the end of day, 3rd year is the final year (hopefully) and well, lets say..you want to graduate with a 2:1 or 1. Hence living alone may be good way to achieve that, course with discipline and time.

    Money

    Those are the two cons, money and no company.

    E.g. utility bills will be more for you by yourself and you pay what you use. So depending how much electricity you use or how efficient then it should not be a problem. Most can do it in £15 per month on electricity by being efficient. Just find a right electricity supplier for you thats cheap per units and reliable service and good too.

    Internet, is a fixed cost so you will pay more if you do decidie to get one of those big bundle packages. e.g. 20MB broadband and unlimited downloads *course its not unlimited*

    Check your area how fast it can cope, our area can hold 9MB and we got 20MB broadband, see how much waste of money that is.


    Any unforeseen circumstances like leaks, you have to pay alot alone for damages and as for burgulary, well thats another question. Just make sure the house is secure and has no history of burgulary with either the landlord / agency. Check the area on the crimes.
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    it's awesome living on your own!! you can share food with yourself, sleep with yourself, shower with yourself and many other things. anyways how are you going to find a cure for cancer if u have people around u constantly molesting u wanting this and that, people are too demanding!!! who wants a desperate has been that constantly needs people around them, innovate ur brain a bit more and be a bit more independent!!!
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    Pros:
    Independence
    Own personal space as opposed to the cramped shared space of a flat
    Live life on your own terms - you can do anything you want in your flat as long as it doesn't break tenancy agreements

    Cons:
    Money
    Loneliness

    If I do ERASMUS and go to the Netherlands for a year, I'd want to move into my own flat upon returning to the UK - not only would half/all of my friends be gone from university when I got back, but I think I'd be ready for that responsibility after a year abroad.
 
 
 
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