Turn on thread page Beta

Screwed over by a friend group and unsure how to act watch

    • #1
    • Thread Starter
    #1

    Anon or delete please as they are on here.

    Basically: I am quite good friends with a group who are insular and cliquey, but I dont like the idea of being so insular so have quite a few other groups of friends too. However, I would say that two of the girls in this group are probably my best female friends at university.

    Anyway, this year the housing stress has come round again and one of them had said to me that she'd like to live with me (the other one might be going away for the year and wasn't sure what to do).

    I then discovered - wasn't told, found out from another friend - that both girls are living with their whole clique, and abandoning me. I can't believe I wasn't told this properly and feel so hurt and angry that they didn't even respect me enough to tell me what was going on. Fortunately I have got other friends to live with but I almost had told them to look for houses without me because I was so sure of living with this lot.

    I don't know how to act with them now - I don't feel like I'm valued as a friend at all. However, because they probably don't even know that I know they're all living together without me I can't really get angry or point blank ignore them. Gah.

    Sorry it's a bit long but I'm quite upset and venting.
    • #1
    • Thread Starter
    #1

    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Anon or delete please as they are on here.

    Basically: I am quite good friends with a group who are insular and cliquey, but I dont like the idea of being so insular so have quite a few other groups of friends too. However, I would say that two of the girls in this group are probably my best female friends at university.

    Anyway, this year the housing stress has come round again and one of them had said to me that she'd like to live with me (the other one might be going away for the year and wasn't sure what to do).

    I then discovered - wasn't told, found out from another friend - that both girls are living with their whole clique, and abandoning me. I can't believe I wasn't told this properly and feel so hurt and angry that they didn't even respect me enough to tell me what was going on. Fortunately I have got other friends to live with but I almost had told them to look for houses without me because I was so sure of living with this lot.

    I don't know how to act with them now - I don't feel like I'm valued as a friend at all. However, because they probably don't even know that I know they're all living together without me I can't really get angry or point blank ignore them. Gah.

    Sorry it's a bit long but I'm quite upset and venting.
    Basically I'm just upset they valued their clique more than me as an individual, even when we are (I thought) such good friends.
    Offline

    16
    ReputationRep:
    Talk to them. Might be crossed wires. But surely if they don't value you too much, you're better off finding out now than after you've signed a contract and have to pay money to live with them for a whole year.
    Offline

    11
    ReputationRep:
    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Anon or delete please as they are on here.

    Basically: I am quite good friends with a group who are insular and cliquey, but I dont like the idea of being so insular so have quite a few other groups of friends too. However, I would say that two of the girls in this group are probably my best female friends at university.

    Anyway, this year the housing stress has come round again and one of them had said to me that she'd like to live with me (the other one might be going away for the year and wasn't sure what to do).

    I then discovered - wasn't told, found out from another friend - that both girls are living with their whole clique, and abandoning me. I can't believe I wasn't told this properly and feel so hurt and angry that they didn't even respect me enough to tell me what was going on. Fortunately I have got other friends to live with but I almost had told them to look for houses without me because I was so sure of living with this lot.

    I don't know how to act with them now - I don't feel like I'm valued as a friend at all. However, because they probably don't even know that I know they're all living together without me I can't really get angry or point blank ignore them. Gah.

    Sorry it's a bit long but I'm quite upset and venting.
    Before you do anything sit down and talk with them. You have nothing to lose. If it's true, you can blacklist them in your mind from now on. And if it's wrong, you might be able to work something out.

    I suggest that you go and live with other people anyway and get a fresh scene.
 
 
 
Reply
Submit reply
Turn on thread page Beta
TSR Support Team

We have a brilliant team of more than 60 Support Team members looking after discussions on The Student Room, helping to make it a fun, safe and useful place to hang out.

Updated: January 24, 2010
The home of Results and Clearing

3,168

people online now

1,567,000

students helped last year
Poll
A-level students - how do you feel about your results?

The Student Room, Get Revising and Marked by Teachers are trading names of The Student Room Group Ltd.

Register Number: 04666380 (England and Wales), VAT No. 806 8067 22 Registered Office: International House, Queens Road, Brighton, BN1 3XE

Write a reply...
Reply
Hide
Reputation gems: You get these gems as you gain rep from other members for making good contributions and giving helpful advice.