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    Being in the closet is taking it's toll on me too.

    But I'm as anxious about the gay community as I am from the homophobic remarks. Only because I suck at rejection and it'll kill me to come out, to find no boys like me anyway. At least I have clothes and my dignity in here.
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    (Original post by Ataloss)
    His face has battled the ugly tree and lost. :sadnod:
    He's not that bad, although you'd think if you were going to be in porn you'd bother getting some acne cream (hur hur hur).
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    (Original post by dbmag9)
    He's not that bad, although you'd think if you were going to be in porn you'd bother getting some acne cream (hur hur hur).
    Maybe it was his way of volunteering for facials so his acne could be covered up. :p:
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    This essay is going to be long, but awesome. 1,200 words in and not even half-way in. I better get a damn good grade for it as well.
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    (Original post by LewJB)
    Being in the closet is taking it's toll on me too.

    But I'm as anxious about the gay community as I am from the homophobic remarks. Only because I suck at rejection and it'll kill me to come out, to find no boys like me anyway. At least I have clothes and my dignity in here.
    I very much doubt nobody will like you; but in any case although nothing romantic has happened for me in the last year of being out, it's still been a lot more fun, just in terms of being a lot more open about myself. It's a cliché, but simply things like not having to take part in 'rate her' conversations, and being able to mention when I see hot guys, makes life happier. It depends on who you know though, I suppose: I'm fortunate to have fluffy liberal parents and (with two exceptions) accepting friends, so I had no issues coming out at all really; other people's stories I've heard sound less enjoyable. You have the best idea of how it would go, though.
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    (Original post by LewJB)
    Being in the closet is taking it's toll on me too.

    But I'm as anxious about the gay community as I am from the homophobic remarks. Only because I suck at rejection and it'll kill me to come out, to find no boys like me anyway. At least I have clothes and my dignity in here.
    Trust me, you will feel more at ease when you are out. Although that may not be the case if your surrounding is homophobic. And it is always better if you come out because you want to and when it is your own choice.
    I got outed by others in grade 7 and 8 and I had practically no influence on that at all. That sucked. But now I'm totally open about me liking girls. I'm also happy that my parents are totally fine with it (although my dad now wants me to find a suitable guy :rolleyes: well, he still has no problems with it, though).

    Maybe it will turn out more positive than you think? I can totally understand you on the gay community remark! I dreaded going to any gay community. I once went to a lesbian party back in 2007. It sucked. But I wasn't really open to.. communication back then. My views have changed nowadays as well, so now I love going to such parties.

    Do you think your environment is homophobic? But I doubt no guy likes you.

    Wow, so much rambling from me.
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    (Original post by BeyondandAbove)
    Trust me, you will feel more at ease when you are out. Although that may not be the case if your surrounding is homophobic. And it is always better if you come out because you want to and when it is your own choice.
    I got outed by others in grade 7 and 8 and I had practically no influence on that at all. That sucked. But now I'm totally open about me liking girls. I'm also happy that my parents are totally fine with it (although my dad now wants me to find a suitable guy :rolleyes: well, he still has no problems with it, though).

    Maybe it will turn out more positive than you think? I can totally understand you on the gay community remark! I dreaded going to any gay community. I once went to a lesbian party back in 2007. It sucked. But I wasn't really open to.. communication back then. My views have changed nowadays as well, so now I love going to such parties.

    Do you think your environment is homophobic? But I doubt no guy likes you.

    Wow, so much rambling from me.
    I told my mother i was Bi, and her opinions of me have changed. She dosen't like me as much any more :cry:
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    (Original post by KiraMayz)
    I told my mother i was Bi, and her opinions of me have changed. She dosen't like me as much any more :cry:
    What is her reasoning behind that? :console:
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    (Original post by BeyondandAbove)
    What is her reasoning behind that? :console:
    I guess she feels its "unnatural" for guys to love each other.
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    (Original post by KiraMayz)
    I guess she feels its "unnatural" for guys to love each other.
    What a medieval way of thinking. :no:
    So much for being in the 21st century. Oh well, mhm..

    I hope she'll come around. Maybe put some info leaflets on the table for her or something? I reckon your dad doesn't know? (I usually have a hard time telling my dad anything for that matter)
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    (Original post by BeyondandAbove)
    What a medieval way of thinking. :no:
    So much for being in the 21st century. Oh well, mhm..

    I hope she'll come around. Maybe put some info leaflets on the table for her or something? I reckon your dad doesn't know? (I usually have a hard time telling my dad anything for that matter)
    My parents are separated. my father couldn't less about me
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    (Original post by KiraMayz)
    My parents are separated. my father couldn't less about me
    Sorry if I hit a sensitive spot!

    i actually put down "sensual" first. Luckily I checked the word with a translator first. :shifty:

    Okay, hm. You could give a damn about your mother's opinion and go out with some local gays or bis and have a great time. It's then just a matter of not bringing boys home. Or try educating your mother (also telling her that it isn't her "fault" ). Or both. Deep down she still loves you. :yep: I'm sure of that. You know parents/mums: they always envision their children to be X, Y or Z. One wants his child to become a doctor, the other wants his child to marry and have children of their own.
    If this 'future' doesn't exist, then they feel crushed. But that's their own fault because they created those expectations in the first place. Usually they come around, though. Only in 'severe' cases they won't.

    So I'm hopeful. :yep:
    But of course I don't know just how badly she reacted.
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    No posts all day? Shame on you gays.
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    (Original post by Laertes)
    No posts all day? Shame on you gays.
    I've had important things to do, I'll have you know. :p:

    I just sent round my first email in my new position as King of Wadham's gays. . Well officially I'm the SU LGBT officer, but king of the gays sounds so much more exciting.
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    Hey gays, how are you? I have a date on Sunday.

    (Original post by icysquall)
    I've had important things to do, I'll have you know. :p:

    I just sent round my first email in my new position as King of Wadham's gays. . Well officially I'm the SU LGBT officer, but king of the gays sounds so much more exciting.
    King of the Queens?

    What did your email say?
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    Anyone been to Candybar? What is it like? :erm:
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    (Original post by dbmag9)
    King of the Queens?

    What did your email say?
    :awesome:

    Nothing too exciting, just introducing ourselves (because there are two of us) and telling people the awesome things we're planning for next year. :yep:
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    Hehehe so happy. We might be becoming an official couple soon.
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    (Original post by Rainfaery)
    Hehehe so happy. We might be becoming an official couple soon.
    awwwww Im happy for you :hugs:
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    (Original post by Rainfaery)
    Hehehe so happy. We might be becoming an official couple soon.
    That's awesome. :woo:
 
 
 
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