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    (Original post by Reformed2010)
    Ha ha that sounds awful and would probably send me back into the closet (ok bit dramatic there). Having not know a lot of lesbians to compare to gay company I can only imagine the intensity of the *****y drama. Is it like straight girls times ten? That would be living hell for me. Don't get me wrong, I love girls and their some times adventurous drama, some of it can be fun. However the key is a bit. Also the whole dramatising their love life is sad, very sad! Your friends clearly think they are in Hollyoaks, like mine. :rolleyes:

    In my circle of gay friends there are three who I love to bits, the rest are great but can sometimes drown me in their drama too. A sleeps with B, but C loves A. B doesn't really like A but wants to make C jealous. Then D comes along and ends up sleeping with A, B and C!

    There is one who has parents who threaten to physically hurt him if he 'stays gay'. His now a complete odd ball and has ran back into the closet. Another one has told his mum but not his dad and hates camp guys, like some twisted gay on gay phobia. Third one who thinks his Mr Gay uk and so rude he got a deserving slap in a club once. Fourth friend who is a hopeless romantic and can't hold down a boyfriend longer than a month, bless his soul. He was dumped two days ago, but his usually the dumper. He told his second last boyfriend its over at his own house warming party. Minutes before we were all about to get into cab. Our night was ruined. Our latest trip to Manchester resulted in two more taking class A drugs and one ending up in hospital...

    I won't go into detail about my psycho ex who actually broken down in tears in a club. Night ruined. He now sees a shrink...

    I'm slightly glad none of them are coming to my university! ha.
    Wow. :indiff: I am so sorry you have(had?) friends like that! Hopefully the guys you meet @ Notts will be a lot different. Although you may be unlucky and run into drama there... but that's something you can worry about later, haha.

    I have a few great gay friends who I can rely on, and to be honest they're the people I always plan nights out or big trips with. I love them to bits because they're so reliable and fun and they put up with me...

    I can't get to sleep. I get my blood test results tomorrow and even though it is unlikely, I keep going over a 'what if I found out I'm HIV+?' scenario and I get really sad and can't stop thinking
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    (Original post by BeyondandAbove)
    German's a rather difficult language.
    Sadly it is.

    On another note: I've got a massive spider in my room. It creeps me out! I caught it, though, and I hope it will die under my bowl.
    They can survive for months. Possibly up to a year if it's a big'un. They have no hearts so they won't waste energy beating them, they can stay perfectly still for as long as it takes and they can consume their own body mass to survive. I don't think it'll die before you leave :p:
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    (Original post by Reformed2010)
    Looking after my cousins 3 year old for two days has reminded me one thing. Fatherhood can definitely wait! I kind of forgot how I felt since my youngest brother is now 15.
    Sometimes I like children, but when I think about having one for myself.. I remember how I used to was and my temporary wish is forgotten. :p:

    Fatherhood can definitely wait. I agree.
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    I just found out my estate agent lied to me about the date I can collect my keys. Why do people lie for no good reason???
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    (Original post by Gesar)
    Sadly it is.



    They can survive for months. Possibly up to a year if it's a big'un. They have no hearts so they won't waste energy beating them, they can stay perfectly still for as long as it takes and they can consume their own body mass to survive. I don't think it'll die before you leave :p:
    Yes, take away all my hope! :p: Don't they need to breathe, though?
    Tomorrow I'll throw it in my neighbour's garden.
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    Goodnight, gays.
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    (Original post by Gesar)
    Sadly it is.



    They can survive for months. Possibly up to a year if it's a big'un. They have no hearts so they won't waste energy beating them, they can stay perfectly still for as long as it takes and they can consume their own body mass to survive. I don't think it'll die before you leave :p:
    :zomg:

    Spiders still scare, I hate them with a burning passion. I once had one that fell from my shoulders and I went into panic mode for few hours. Heart beating, sweating, frantic movements and general panicky thoughts. Did not go back into the room for a whole day.

    Thank you for providing the facts to concrete my belief spiders are superhuman creatures. Hell bent on scaring me to my grave... cheers!
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    (Original post by trm90)
    I can't get to sleep. I get my blood test results tomorrow and even though it is unlikely, I keep going over a 'what if I found out I'm HIV+?' scenario and I get really sad and can't stop thinking
    What have you been up to?:pinch:
    Also, if you are HIV+, you'll just need to take a pill every-day, and wear or make sure he wears a condom every time (without which, the reason I suspect you needed the blood test).
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    Well it now seems that I have to take a year out of education. :cry:
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    (Original post by Reformed2010)
    :zomg:

    Spiders still scare, I hate them with a burning passion. I once had one that fell from my shoulders and I went into panic mode for few hours. Heart beating, sweating, frantic movements and general panicky thoughts. Did not go back into the room for a whole day.

    Thank you for providing the facts to concrete my belief spiders are superhuman creatures. Hell bent on scaring me to my grave... cheers!
    I'm completely the same!

    After I caught the spider yesterday, I hyperventilated: crying, increased heart beating, panicky thoughts, quickened breathing, shaking, etc.

    Now if it were to fall from my shoulders...
    Imagine trying to burn them and they suddenly jump! :eek:
    I can kill the flies myself. Spiders don't need to exist! :o:
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    (Original post by Piprod01)
    What have you been up to?:pinch:
    Also, if you are HIV+, you'll just need to take a pill every-day, and wear or make sure he wears a condom every time (without which, the reason I suspect you needed the blood test).
    You would still have sex if you were HIV+?
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    (Original post by Piprod01)
    What have you been up to?:pinch:
    Also, if you are HIV+, you'll just need to take a pill every-day, and wear or make sure he wears a condom every time (without which, the reason I suspect you needed the blood test).
    Well, I found out I'm totally clean, so it's all good I only worried in the first place because of some casual (protected) sex I had a while ago, but regardless it's so hard not to worry as a single gay man these days. My mum, my doctor, gay magazines etc. are constantly reminding you of the danger of STDs. I also got gonorrhea back in like December from someone who I thought I trusted, so I think I've learned my lesson now!

    And I'd like to think being HIV+ is that easy, but surely it gets more difficult? I thought the pills have a lot of side effects, and that if you miss a pill you are in a very bad position? Similarly, I also hear that HIV+ men who know what they are doing are actually safer than the average HIV- man because they take a bucketload of precautions.

    I didn't end up doing much last night, read some wikipedia and eventually dozed off to sleep. What have you been up to on this fine Monday?
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    (Original post by Gesar)
    You would still have sex if you were HIV+?
    Many people do, yes Unfortunately there are men out there who still bareback whilst HIV+ and still live a pretty careless lifestyle (I have absolutely zero respect for them), and on the flipside you have really cautious HIV+ men who are still sexually active.

    Half the reason I'd hate to be HIV+ is because of the stigma behind it. I feel like people would see me as careless, stupid, irresponsible, and in some cases dangerous. It's pretty much a pandemic and even with treatment, I doubt many HIV+ people manage to lead the lifestyle they want.
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    (Original post by trm90)
    Many people do, yes Unfortunately there are men out there who still bareback whilst HIV+ and still live a pretty careless lifestyle (I have absolutely zero respect for them), and on the flipside you have really cautious HIV+ men who are still sexually active.

    Half the reason I'd hate to be HIV+ is because of the stigma behind it. I feel like people would see me as careless, stupid, irresponsible, and in some cases dangerous. It's pretty much a pandemic and even with treatment, I doubt many HIV+ people manage to lead the lifestyle they want.
    If I were HIV+, I'd tell people before anything happened. And I myself wouldn't want to have sex with a person I know was HIV+, unless I'd known them for a very long time and was in a commited life relationship with them. There's just no point risking infection otherwise :dontknow: And because of that, if I were HIV+ I'd refrain from anything sexual unless I'd known the person a long long time and they were perfectly happy.
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    Yeah, I've been with a guy who was HIV+. He thought the best time to tell me was right before we had sex

    But yeah now that I'm single I have started getting tested for everything every month. *touch wood* I have been very lucky so far in my life in so much as I have never caught an STD, but you can never be too careful.

    Seriously though, the number of times I've been asked to do bareback, I mean what the hell! I would never do that with someone I wasn't in a relationship with, I just don't understand why you would risk it :nothing:
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    (Original post by Gesar)
    If I were HIV+, I'd tell people before anything happened. And I myself wouldn't want to have sex with a person I know was HIV+, unless I'd known them for a very long time and was in a commited life relationship with them. There's just no point risking infection otherwise :dontknow: And because of that, if I were HIV+ I'd refrain from anything sexual unless I'd known the person a long long time and they were perfectly happy.
    Oh yeah, I completely agree with you on this - getting sexually involved with an HIV+ requires an immense amount of trust, and the men who don't get to know the positive guy before they shag (and assume they are 'safe') are taking a *massive* risk.

    (Original post by paddy)
    Seriously though, the number of times I've been asked to do bareback, I mean what the hell! I would never do that with someone I wasn't in a relationship with, I just don't understand why you would risk it
    I know, same, and it's really really off putting. The scary thing is that apparently more guys are ******* w/o condoms these days compared to like two/three decades ago, and I dunno if anyone else has noticed, but bareback porn is ridiculously popular to the point where it has become very worrisome.

    I was reading that it has to do with the fact STDs are much more curable/treatable than they used to be, but still, it's just so irresponsible. An orgasm without a condom... I mean really? Is it worth risking your health - even your life expectancy - for the sake of a couple of condomless orgasms? ARGH!
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    Nothing to do with the conversation but I ******* love french toast
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    Hey gays. Vienna is still cool. Still haven't been doing much.

    (Original post by KiraMayz)
    Well it now seems that I have to take a year out of education. :cry:
    :hugs: Don't worry about it, it'll be an opportunity to do tonnes of awesome stuff you wouldn't have been able to do otherwise. Srsly. :yep:

    (Original post by Laertes)
    Nothing to do with the conversation but I ******* love french toast
    French toast is pretty cool, I agree. I had it for breakfast in Istanbul one of the days I was there.

    As for the HIV+ discussion, I think that the plethora of ways we have to limit its effects have probably caused people to worry less, and in some cases less than they should do. Every time I've read Attitude magazine, there's been a page-size advert loudly stating that the side-effects of the 'treatment' for HIV are as bad as having a serious disease, and aren't guaranteed, etc.. I wouldn't have sex without a condom, unless I was with a guy on a long-term basis, and we'd both been tested clean.
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    (Original post by Gesar)
    You would still have sex if you were HIV+?
    If I had a low viral load, condoms and being totally open about it to guy(s)? Yes.
    (Original post by trm90)
    Well, I found out I'm totally clean, so it's all good I only worried in the first place because of some casual (protected) sex I had a while ago, but regardless it's so hard not to worry as a single gay man these days. My mum, my doctor, gay magazines etc. are constantly reminding you of the danger of STDs. I also got gonorrhea back in like December from someone who I thought I trusted, so I think I've learned my lesson now!

    And I'd like to think being HIV+ is that easy, but surely it gets more difficult? I thought the pills have a lot of side effects, and that if you miss a pill you are in a very bad position? Similarly, I also hear that HIV+ men who know what they are doing are actually safer than the average HIV- man because they take a bucketload of precautions.

    I didn't end up doing much last night, read some wikipedia and eventually dozed off to sleep. What have you been up to on this fine Monday?
    Ouch, I think I'm going to be a bit more careful... You are getting me nervous with the whole casual protected sex thing. :s
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    (Original post by Ash_D)
    I've always wanted to see Chicago live but I'd prefer it if the actors from the film performed it live even though that's unlikely.
    I've been to see Chicago about 4/5 times; the stage version is excellent. Most of the stage actors are far superior to the ones in the film.

    (Original post by BeyondandAbove)
    German's a rather difficult language.
    I never found it too bad to be honest. Apparently several people in my year thought I actually was German because of the ease with which I picked it up :p: That and I apparently "looked a bit Nazi-ish" ><

    (Original post by Piprod01)
    What have you been up to?:pinch:
    Also, if you are HIV+, you'll just need to take a pill every-day, and wear or make sure he wears a condom every time (without which, the reason I suspect you needed the blood test).
    It's a little harder than that sadly. It's actually three pills a day (at barest minimum), all of which have horrible side effects. We're talking nausea, vomiting, lethargy, headaches, severe weight loss, anaemia, the works. It's very unpleasant. You also have to have regular blood tests to check viral loads and blood cell counts, and see a specialist regularly to have your medications assessed and rotated to try and keep them effective and reduce the symptoms. You have to make sure you're extremely careful, and not just during sex. Also with cutting yourself, whenever you go for dental or medical treatment, if you go on holiday etc. Speaking of which, good luck getting into America if you're HIV+. Then you have the stigma to deal with, not to mention the crushing anxiety of thinking about the consequences if an accident occurred. And so on. Don't fool yourself into thinking it's easy or worth the risk.

    All that said, don't scare yourself into not having sex - casual or otherwise. Just make sure you're safe.

    (Original post by Gesar)
    You would still have sex if you were HIV+?
    Provided you take all the precautions and are upfront about it, there's no real problem. People face a massive stigma for being HIV+, and often it's unjustly applied.

    (Original post by KiraMayz)
    Well it now seems that I have to take a year out of education. :cry:
    That's far from the worst thing in the world In fact, it's often far more beneficial than going straight into university! Use it wisely, and you'll look back later and realise it was the best decision you ever made.
 
 
 
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