Is this normal!?! [Crying about my long-over ex]

Hi ya,
I am 99% sure that im over my ex, I dont love him anymore; of course I still care about him but i know that I would never want to get back with him... but every so often i end up crying about losing him and I cant stop!!
I know it sounds silly, but its weird cos i really feel like i should have got over by him by now, but I keep thinking about him and feeling really depressed about it.
Do you think its just because I havent found anyone else to "replace" him yet?
Please help cos I really need to get over it now!

Reply 1

Goddess

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When did you guys break-up? Our hearts take a lot of time to heal. This time may vary from person to person, so I can't tell you an exact time when you will feel normal. Meanwhile watch a movie, read a book, hang out with your friends or find a new hobbie.

Good luck!

Reply 2

_poptart_

OP

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We broke up probably about 8 or 9 months ago!! Its ages ago and yet i still keep thinking about him... Its not as if ive been sitting at home jsut thinking about him, I have been keeping myself occupied - Ive even had a couple of boyfriends after him but they didnt even compare :s-smilie:

Im so confused!!

Reply 3

Goddess

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Once I was dating a guy who I thought was the perfect one for me. And it took me almost a year to get over it. (Maybe it's just me) Anyway, I hope you will feel better soon.

Reply 4

_poptart_

OP

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Goddess

Once I was dating a guy who I thought was the perfect one for me. And it took me almost a year to get over it. (Maybe it's just me) Anyway, I hope you will feel better soon.

Thanks, its nice to know Im not the only one :rolleyes:

I just hope it passes cos I feel like im never gonna be able to completely move on, which is pathetic really - its been so long ago now and I need to just forget about him.

Reply 5

finnstar

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take it from me, a guy who took two years to get over a girl. wait it out.. till you know youre over him.. get a new hobby learn baking or something its fun.. a proper hobby can take your mind off things.. :P:

Reply 6

_poptart_

OP

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finnstar

take it from me, a guy who took two years to get over a girl. wait it out.. till you know youre over him.. get a new hobby learn baking or something its fun.. a proper hobby can take your mind off things.. :P:

At the same time Im lonely I have no-one to learn a new hobby with; all my mates have boyfriends or full time jobs :redface:

Hopefully i can find a summer job to keep me occupied!

Reply 7

Mean Mr. Mustard

it seems pretty obvious that you're SO not over him, despite what you think/say.

Reply 8

_poptart_

OP

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Babyshambles

it seems pretty obvious that you're SO not over him, despite what you think/say.

deep down I know that but I have no choice BUT to get over him, so thats why i keep trying to tell myself that I am - confusing I know :redface:

Reply 9

MRLX69

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poptart86

Do you think its just because I havent found anyone else to "replace" him yet?

Most definitely, if you find someone else, you will start focusing on them and care less about your ex. I'm going through the same thing at the moment, just can't seem to get over my ex gf.

Reply 10

_poptart_

OP

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MRLX69

Most definitely, if you find someone else, you will start focusing on them and care less about your ex. I'm going through the same thing at the moment, just can't seem to get over my ex gf.

Yeah I guess so, but it feels like its gonna be an eternity before i find a serious boyfriend again!
I hate this stage im in, its so depressing cos i have no-one and all I have is memories of someone who i am supposed to not think about anymore!

Reply 11

Ellie4

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I still sometimes get really upset over my ex that I broke up with 2 years ago, and I think to an extent I always will. Try to remember all his bad points, and every time he pissed you off - works for me :p:

Reply 12

_poptart_

OP

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Ellie4

I still sometimes get really upset over my ex that I broke up with 2 years ago, and I think to an extent I always will. Try to remember all his bad points, and every time he pissed you off - works for me :p:

haha, yeah thats the thing whenever I do think about him I always try and remind myself of his bad points, but its hard to block out all the good things about him!!
I wrote a list of things I hate about him when we broke up (was really helpful lol) so I might read through that again if i feel the need to have a bit of a cry!

Reply 13

_poptart_

OP

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I've been doing some more thinking and Ive decided not to beat myself up over it; i guess its pretty normal to still care about someone, after all I am human!
Guess I'll just have to get on with it and wait until I fall in love with someone else (god knows when that will be tho :wink:

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Reply 14

mankyscot2

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poptart86

I've been doing some more thinking and Ive decided not to beat myself up over it; i guess its pretty normal to still care about someone, after all I am human!
Guess I'll just have to get on with it and wait until I fall in love with someone else (god knows when that will be tho :wink:

)

Why did you break up?

Sounds like you still love him to me, otherwise you wouldn't be worrying about it enough to post a thread on here. If you don't love him, which i doubt, then just get on with your life.

And finally, poor you... :hugs:

Reply 15

_poptart_

OP

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mankyscot2

Why did you break up?

He moved away to uni and didnt want the hassle of having a long-distance relationship I guess..

mankyscot2

Sounds like you still love him to me, otherwise you wouldn't be worrying about it enough to post a thread on here. If you don't love him, which i doubt, then just get on with your life.

And finally, poor you... :hugs:

I wouldnt say Im worried about it, i guess I posted the thread to see if anyone else was in the same position or whether im just being silly :redface:

Thanks for your support tho, its really kind of you :p:

Is this normal!?! [Crying about my long-over ex]

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