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    Last month I went to a gig with a girl from one of my lectures and her friend because I didn't know anybody else going. I had never really spoken to her but I was just happy that I wouldn't have to go to the concert alone.

    For the record I am a very unsociable person, and really only see a handful of people outside of uni, most of whom I've known for five years or more. While I have acquaintances at university, my friends are maintained from school.

    A few nights ago this girl sent me a message asking what I was doing that night so I lied and pretended to be working because I didn't want to do anything. This stance hasn't changed.

    Last night she sent me another message asking when I was "free to hang out" and informing me that her friend would be back soon so we "like have to organise something" (the use of the term 'like' in this written context is the worst thing of all) for when she returns. Without wishing to be rude and a real ******* (which I fear is inevitable), what would be the best way to go about making it clear that I don't want to "hang out" and see this person outside of uni, without being too blunt about it?

    I haven't replied to this text, and at the moment don't think I will, instead preferring to pretend I don't have any credit left on my phone (I know, I know). Any other suggestions would be most welcome.
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    Do you not want any friends in university? :confused:
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    (Original post by facetious)
    Do you not want any friends in university? :confused:
    Nobody lives on campus at my university and so everybody is with their friends from school. Most people have retained these friendship groups. Anyway, the fact I don't want to be friends with this particular individual doesn't mean I don't want any friends at uni, and there are certainly some people I'll be making more of an effort to know.
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    Ask her to help remove the corpse you have stuffed in your wardrobe.
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    (Original post by BollywoodToBattersea)
    Nobody lives on campus at my university and so everybody is with their friends from school. Most people have retained these friendship groups. Anyway, the fact I don't want to be friends with this particular individual doesn't mean I don't want any friends at uni, and there are certainly some people I'll be making more of an effort to know.
    Fair enough. If you just keep evading her/ignoring her texts, I'm sure she'll get the hint soon enough.
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    Life is much more interesting when you say yes........
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    everytime she invites you somewhere or to do something, just decline.
    If she is perceptive she will get the message, If she doesn't just ignore her.

    If you are adamant you don't want any association with this girl thats the easiest and least harmful way to handle it.
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    don't shower for a while...
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    i didnt know what evil was til i saw this, like.
 
 
 
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