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    Please keep anon or delete.

    My boyfriend recently left his laptop at my house. I have a long history of being cheated on and my last boyfriend was a member of a number of sex and dating websites behind my back. I'm insecure and don't have any trust, and so I ended up looking through the laptop, and in his 'cookies' I found 2 dating websites - 'Adultfriendfinder.com' and 'getiton.com'. I started to panic and I confronted him. He promised me that he hasn't been on either of the sites and that they must have been pop-up ads or something, and I believed him. I was talking to a friend about it though, and he told me that the only type of websites that those kinds of pop-ups appear on are pornography websites. My boyfriend has told me a number of times that he doesn't watch porn and hasn't done since he was a teenager. It's not him watching porn that bothers me - it's more the fact that he's hiding it from me that is getting to me.

    I realise that my behaviour isn't normal, and I am currently in therapy trying to deal with my self-esteem issues and get myself to a point where I can trust my boyfriend. I don't need anyone telling me how f***ed up this all is because I already know. What I do want to know is whether it's possible he's telling the truth. Could these pop-up ads have appeared from innocent (not pornographic) websites?? If there is any possibility it means that I will be able to trust that he hasn't lied to me and work on my relationship with him. I don't want to be with a liar, I just want an open and honest relationship.
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    I've had adult friend finder on facebook. and on loads of torrent sites.
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    If the cookies are there, I'd say it's likely that his history is. Just have a look.
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    How can it be an open and honest relationship if you don't trust that he is telling the truth.
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    It really wouldn't surprise me for those kind of pop-ups to have appeared through any kind of website. Chill.
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    he was prob just watching porn, i get those pop ups aswell :dice:
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    Dunno about the other one, but the adultfriendfinder seems to pop up on a lot of torrent / download / normal porn sites.
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    I don't know about getiton.com but I've had adultfriendfinder popup when I'm innocently surfing the internet... It's one of those sites that keeps coming up from nowhere. I wouldn't be surprised if your bf goes on porn websites since most of us do, and if he does he's even more vulnerable to cookies from such sites.

    Extremely unlikely that he'd be using a website like adultfriendfinder to seek sex or something though... Just relax and don't question him on it.
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    they are all over torrent sites and the adult friend finder one pops up on a profile site i go on

    so yeah it could be innocent, trust him or let him find someone that will

    going through his laptop = scummy
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    I used to get Adult friend finder popping up on my home computer all the time (from normal websites!) we had rubbish pop up protection. Don't know about the other one, but it seems hes not lying.
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    I'd put a password on my laptop if I was your boyfriend.
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    (Original post by Chez87)
    I used to get Adult friend finder popping up on my home computer all the time (from normal websites!) we had rubbish pop up protection. Don't know about the other one, but it seems hes not lying.
    :ditto:
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Could these pop-up ads have appeared from innocent (not pornographic) websites??
    Yes.

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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I'd put a password on my laptop if I was your boyfriend.

    same, **** having someone go through my laptop
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    That adult friend finder thing has popped up on a number of humourous site that I have visited, though these sites tend to be things like Encyclopedia Dramatica, and other offensive sites.
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    I always get adult friend finder pop ups. And even still, I've visited e-harmony etc just to see what the big deal was and I have a gf. I visited out of curiosity, doesn't mean I intend to get my self a hot internet bird (fat male) and dump my gf instead.
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    Besides, who cares. I watch porn all the time. Doesn't mean I don't enjoy giving my gf a jolly good boning.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Please keep anon or delete.

    My boyfriend recently left his laptop at my house. I have a long history of being cheated on and my last boyfriend was a member of a number of sex and dating websites behind my back. I'm insecure and don't have any trust, and so I ended up looking through the laptop, and in his 'cookies' I found 2 dating websites - 'Adultfriendfinder.com' and 'getiton.com'. I started to panic and I confronted him. He promised me that he hasn't been on either of the sites and that they must have been pop-up ads or something, and I believed him. I was talking to a friend about it though, and he told me that the only type of websites that those kinds of pop-ups appear on are pornography websites. My boyfriend has told me a number of times that he doesn't watch porn and hasn't done since he was a teenager. It's not him watching porn that bothers me - it's more the fact that he's hiding it from me that is getting to me.

    I realise that my behaviour isn't normal, and I am currently in therapy trying to deal with my self-esteem issues and get myself to a point where I can trust my boyfriend. I don't need anyone telling me how f***ed up this all is because I already know. What I do want to know is whether it's possible he's telling the truth. Could these pop-up ads have appeared from innocent (not pornographic) websites?? If there is any possibility it means that I will be able to trust that he hasn't lied to me and work on my relationship with him. I don't want to be with a liar, I just want an open and honest relationship.
    All men with a sex drive watch porn; he wouldn't hide it from you if you weren't such an insecure loon. Yes, adultfriendfinder et al pop up on pornsites.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I realise that my behaviour isn't normal, and I am currently in therapy trying to deal with my self-esteem issues and get myself to a point where I can trust my boyfriend. I don't need anyone telling me how f***ed up this all is because I already know. What I do want to know is whether it's possible he's telling the truth. Could these pop-up ads have appeared from innocent (not pornographic) websites?? If there is any possibility it means that I will be able to trust that he hasn't lied to me and work on my relationship with him. I don't want to be with a liar, I just want an open and honest relationship.
    False dichotomy.
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    Would you actually be worried if he has watched porn?
 
 
 
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