Turn on thread page Beta

not another Friends At Uni thread watch

    • #1
    • Thread Starter
    #1

    This is in H&R so I can be anon.

    I'm in the second term of my first year at uni. I've made a group of friends from my study... they're all really nice and fun people, but they just don't understand me. None of them listen to same music I do, or read non-course-related books. Sometimes I feel like I am only hanging around with them because otherwise, I'd be all alone. But I'm not happy... I really enjoy music and reading and stuff, they are a huge part of my life, yet I feel empty because I have nobody to share those interests with.

    The problem is, I can hardly join societies to meet people who DO have the aforementioned interests... no such things exist I'm just at a complete loss for what to do, like I'll be stuck in this for the next few years. Any advice?
    Offline

    11
    ReputationRep:
    what music do you like and is there a scene for that sort of music in your uni town/city?
    Offline

    0
    ReputationRep:
    What kind of music DO you listen to?
    Offline

    0
    ReputationRep:
    join a book club or a music society?
    Offline

    16
    ReputationRep:
    So start some societies, or look within the city rather than the uni.
    Offline

    15
    ReputationRep:
    (Original post by Double Agent)
    So start some societies, or look within the city rather than the uni.
    That, it's fairly straightforward at most unis. Post on the freshers facebook page, look at some related societies.
    Offline

    7
    ReputationRep:
    (Original post by Milan.)
    what are these 'weird' interests that you cannot find anyone else with the same interests?
    unless you like somalian goth music or something, i doubt there is absolutely no one with the same taste in music as you!
    same with your other interests...
    LOL, the Somlian goth scene is thriving i'll have you know.
    Offline

    17
    ReputationRep:
    What uni is it? If it is a small one I can see why you might have difficulties in finding societies. Maybe you could ask your current "friends" if they know anyone with music tastes like yours? That, or go to a gig or two.
    Offline

    0
    ReputationRep:
    I don't have anything in common with my uni friends either - in fact, my group isn't that similiar in any way. And it's fine - we still have stuff to chat about, we get along and we can still have intelligent discussions without being within the comfort zones of our own tastes.

    The fact you mentioned that they don't read books outside of your course rings an alarm for me. It reminds me of someone who recently got annexed from my company for finding fault with things like that. That kind of thinking can come across as contemptuous, so I wouldn't try telling your mates they don't stimulate you! :P

    My advice is climbing out of your comfort zone and find common ground. Your tastes aren't the only interesting ones out there, whatever they may be.
    Offline

    0
    ReputationRep:
    Better to have these friends than no friends lol. JUst make it clear these are your interests, talk about it on facebook, ask them what their interests are.
 
 
 
Reply
Submit reply
Turn on thread page Beta
TSR Support Team

We have a brilliant team of more than 60 Support Team members looking after discussions on The Student Room, helping to make it a fun, safe and useful place to hang out.

Updated: March 11, 2010
Poll
How are you feeling in the run-up to Results Day 2018?

The Student Room, Get Revising and Marked by Teachers are trading names of The Student Room Group Ltd.

Register Number: 04666380 (England and Wales), VAT No. 806 8067 22 Registered Office: International House, Queens Road, Brighton, BN1 3XE

Write a reply...
Reply
Hide
Reputation gems: You get these gems as you gain rep from other members for making good contributions and giving helpful advice.