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    Hi please keep this anon as I am using a friend's account. Me and my boyfriend have been dating for almost 3 years and things have been going well for awhile now. However we had a talk awhile back and he said he would like a 3 some to spice things up, we discussed that this other person wouldn't matter e.t.c and it was fine.

    I initially thought he would want another girl like my best friend or something. That would make me incredibly jealous but I was willing to do it. But this is the strange part, he actually wants to have another guy and wants to see me pleasure both of them together. Is this strange? I am not sure if I am comfortable with this, also can he really love me if he wants to see me shared? He said he has had this fantasy for years.
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    If you're not comfortable, don't do it.

    If you see love and sex as something that can't be separated, don't have a threesome, it doesn't sound healthy. Just because he likes the idea, doesn't mean that he doesn't love you. It's not strange. It's quite mild really. He might even think that he's doing you a favour, since in two-boys-straight-threesomes, the attention will all be on you. He might even see it as a treat.

    Talk to him.
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    (Original post by emmarainbow)
    If you're not comfortable, don't do it.

    If you see love and sex as something that can't be separated, don't have a threesome, it doesn't sound healthy. Just because he likes the idea, doesn't mean that he doesn't love you. It's not strange. It's quite mild really. He might even think that he's doing you a favour, since in two-boys-straight-threesomes, the attention will all be on you. He might even see it as a treat.

    Talk to him.
    Aw thank you for your advice. It is definitely a big step so we will both have to think about it carefully. Well actually he said it is his fantasy-2 guys and one girl-I am still finding it hard to see how it would be more appealing for him than 2 girls. I do think he loves me after all these years, just the fact he wants me to be like a slut pleasuring 2 guys got me worried.
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    I hate threesomes.
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    It's only fair on him to be honest.

    Woah hold on went back and read the other dude part. If he turned down an offer with two girls that's a bit worrying :/

    Offer him two girls. If he rejects, he's gay.
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    i wouldnt do it

    i would also find myself a guy who didnt want to share me with someone else
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    i think if he loves you then he will respect what you say. personally i think having a threesome with a lover is a bad idea because giving him the chance to see another girl is bad because he maybe interested but with another guy seems a little weird. If your uncomfortable with it tell him no!!!
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    Sounds perfect to me but unless you actually want to do it, don't.
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    I don't think it means he doesn't love and respect you.
    Sexual fantasies are weird things.

    My take on it: perhaps he hasn't experimented much in his life, and it bothers him that he hasn't? Especially if he is interested in experimenting with other guys - or just anything, this fantasy doesn't necessarily make him gay/bi, it's pretty common in heterosexual porn is it not?

    So perhaps he desires to experiment, but he can't - because he wants to be in a committed relationship with you. So a threesome is a way of resolving this, and of sharing his sexual experimentation with you.

    Or perhaps he thinks you will be happier with the idea if it's a guy rather than a girl. Or perhaps he's turned on by the idea of you being a bit slutty.

    Once again - remember that fantasies usually don't reflect how you actually see or love your partner.


    A threesome doesn't have to be harmful. Plenty of dedicated, faithful couples have them. But... if you aren't comfortable, don't do it. I'm sure he would rather not ruin the relationship.

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    Devils threesome.

    Is he gay?
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    Even if you aren't happy going through with it (which is fine) be pleased - it was probably a big deal suggesting it, it shows he really trusts you.
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    I don't think it means he doesn't love and respect you.
    Sexual fantasies are weird things.

    My take on it: perhaps he hasn't experimented much in his life, and it bothers him that he hasn't? Especially if he is interested in experimenting with other guys - or just anything, this fantasy doesn't necessarily make him gay/bi, it's pretty common in heterosexual porn is it not?

    So perhaps he desires to experiment, but he can't - because he wants to be in a committed relationship with you. So a threesome is a way of resolving this, and of sharing his sexual experimentation with you.

    Or perhaps he thinks you will be happier with the idea if it's a guy rather than a girl. Or perhaps he's turned on by the idea of you being a bit slutty.

    Once again - remember that fantasies usually don't reflect how you actually see or love your partner.


    A threesome doesn't have to be harmful. Plenty of dedicated, faithful couples have them. But... if you aren't comfortable, don't do it. I'm sure he would rather not ruin the relationship.

    He actually said since we have been going out for a few years he would like to spice things up. He has always been loyal, honest and caring to me which I why I really do want to give him what he wants. But yeah I am scared of being with another guy and him, I would feel violated perhaps? Really will have to think about this.
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    (Original post by emmarainbow)
    If you're not comfortable, don't do it.

    If you see love and sex as something that can't be separated, don't have a threesome, it doesn't sound healthy. Just because he likes the idea, doesn't mean that he doesn't love you. It's not strange. It's quite mild really. He might even think that he's doing you a favour, since in two-boys-straight-threesomes, the attention will all be on you. He might even see it as a treat.

    Talk to him.
    Very. Good. Advice.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Even if you aren't happy going through with it (which is fine) be pleased - it was probably a big deal suggesting it, it shows he really trusts you.
    He does, it's really sweet, I know all his thoughts.
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    It's only fair on him to be honest.

    Woah hold on went back and read the other dude part. If he turned down an offer with two girls that's a bit worrying :/

    Offer him two girls. If he rejects, he's gay.
    He never said no to two girls but said he would prefer if it was 2 guys and me. I don't think how that makes him gay, I know him really well and I don't think he is gay. Plus he said he doesn't want to do anything with the guy, he said he wants the other guy and himself to pleasure me together.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Hi please keep this anon as I am using a friend's account. Me and my boyfriend have been dating for almost 3 years and things have been going well for awhile now. However we had a talk awhile back and he said he would like a 3 some to spice things up, we discussed that this other person wouldn't matter e.t.c and it was fine.

    I initially thought he would want another girl like my best friend or something. That would make me incredibly jealous but I was willing to do it. But this is the strange part, he actually wants to have another guy and wants to see me pleasure both of them together. Is this strange? I am not sure if I am comfortable with this, also can he really love me if he wants to see me shared? He said he has had this fantasy for years.
    Can't he say exactly the same that about whether you love him if you want to share him with another girl? :unsure:

    Anyway, go for it if you are happy, don't if you are not.

    Good luck.
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    I really do want to give him what he wants.
    I would feel violated perhaps?

    Really will have to think about this.
    Hehe.. you will, because it sounds like you have a lot of concerns and aren't really comfortable with it.

    Don't do it unless it is your choice, because otherwise you run a pretty strong risk of feeling violated.. and it could kinda ruin everything.
    Sometimes we do things just for our partners, and there's nothing wrong with that.. but it has to be a choice not an obligation (I find, anyway).

    You can leave it longer to think about it.

    You could suggest something else to spice things up. Maybe a dildo or something? That's an extra "penis" if not an extra guy. You could simulate a threesome with it.

    Explain your feelings to your boyfriend.
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    I'm available on Thursday & Fridays...

    Book a week in advance though.
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    If he wants to watch you having sex - you could record having sex. Then he gets to watch himself having his way with you.

    He could pretend to be another man for this video.
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    That is very strange. Most straight guys would want two women in a threesome, not two men.
 
 
 
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