rubbish boyfriend

i finish my exams on wednesday and my boyfriend was taking me out as a treat for a meal and the cinema, just because i've been quite stressed and worked really hard and we've not had much time together recently as he's had exams too. i've been really looking forward to this, which he knows. it's been the kind of thing i've been able to say ugh i don't want to do this last exam but oh yay when its over i can do that with my boyfriend :o:

however, he's just cancelled on me because theres a football game on that he forgot about. it's the team he supports and it's a very big game and normally i wouldnt mind but i got so excited about our date and it's like he's chosen football over me (actually, that's exactly what he's done) and now i just feel a bit done. he was very apologetic and promised to make it up to me. but i can't help but feel quite annoyed that i'm going to have to find something else to do now. very few of my friends have finished their exams by then so it's not like i have many options.

am i right to be annoyed? should i say something to him or just let it slide? do i wait around until he's finished watching the football then see him? or do i just go out with someone else?

Reply 1

Antonia87

14

I'd be a little pissed - although saying that, I know someone who missed the birth of his child so he could watch the sodding football. Pathetic really innit.

Reply 2

didgeridoo12uk

16

i'd be hugely pissed off. its only ******* football, get him to record it and watch it later.

in a relationship you should be at the very top of his priorities, and come first before anything else.

don't let it slide. if he still insists on watching the football, dump him. or if you're not feeling that harsh, invite one of your more attractive male friends to go out for a meal and cinema and at least make your boyfriend jealous

i could maybe understand if he was playing a very important match. but watching! wtf, he sounds like a dick

Reply 3

DarkWhite

17

That is a bit rubbish of him, and not a very clever move. Surely he could watch the game recorded or get the scores on his phone. Although I don't support football sooo.

It all depends though. If he suggests another date, and it's relatively close time-wise, then I'd say he could probably be forgiven :p:

Reply 4

kamc

15

This is why I am so happy my boyfriend doesn't like football :smile:

I don't think its fair to cancel a date at all but this is really important to him for some reason. Try and be understanding and maybe it'll pay off later. Maybe if you're cool about it he'll be really apreciative and make your next date really special :smile:

Reply 5

Anonymous #1

OP

he is a bit football obsessed. and it is a very big game that is team are playing in. but i'm still pissed off tbh. even if he'd offered not to watch it and to go out with me (full well knowing i wouldn't make him) i'd be happier. it was just like oh no the football's on.

Reply 6

James4d

13

Aaaaaand aNOTHER guy who doesnt deserve his gf.

When will you girls learn...

Reply 7

Zerforax

21

So.. essentially you want him to put your interests before his, but he's rubbish even though you're not willing to put his interests before yours?

Go watch the match with him
Make a compromise and do something after the game
Do something the next day

Reply 8

welsh571039

just curious, but which footy match is it?

Reply 9

Zerforax

21

welsh571039

just curious, but which footy match is it?

I'd imagine he's a scummy Utd fan and its the Carling cup semi final 2 leg between Man Utd and Man City.

Reply 10

Kevmeister

9

Just curious here, when was the date planned?

But yes, a bit hypocritical to expect him to drop stuff for you but you bitch about having to do likewise for him.

Reply 11

py0alb

3

Now, in general, its great that people have different interests, and nothing wrong with his wanting to go and watch the football.

But in this case, he has clearly promised to do something important with you, so its his own fault that he forgot when the big game was on.

If I were you I would call him a selfish ass and ask him what he's going to do to make it up to you for letting you down. Then move on.

Reply 12

Anonymous #1

OP

Kevmeister

Just curious here, when was the date planned?

But yes, a bit hypocritical to expect him to drop stuff for you but you bitch about having to do likewise for him.

we planned it at the weekend. i'm not being hypocritical because there's no way on this earth i'd make him miss the game because i know it's important to him. i would maybe just like him to have offered? it just sucks to think that football is clearly so much more important to him/

Reply 13

Pheonixx

15

At least he didn't cancel on you the day before your last exam. Despite him changing his mind, he managed to help you get though your exams.

Reply 14

Zerforax

21

Anonymous

we planned it at the weekend. i'm not being hypocritical because there's no way on this earth i'd make him miss the game because i know it's important to him. i would maybe just like him to have offered? it just sucks to think that football is clearly so much more important to him/

You're last point couldnt be more wrong.
The football is on at a specific time and only for 90 minutes. People might say "oh just record it or check the score"
It is not the same. It's like saying, instead of watching a movie, just go read a spoiler or watch a trailer :rolleyes:

Realistically he can re-arrange a date with you for another time, but he cant ask them to re-arrange the date/time of a football match at his whim.

So his choices are:
Miss the game and spend time with you
or
Watch the game and spend time with you later

The 2nd option means he gets to enjoy both things, the first means he only gets to enjoy one thing.

Reply 15

fox_the_fix

13

Christ just chill out/

Reply 16

Angrybanana

11

Why doesn't he move it to the following night rather than just cancelling it. To me that seems like a fair compromise.

Reply 17

Kevmeister

9

Anonymous

we planned it at the weekend. i'm not being hypocritical because there's no way on this earth i'd make him miss the game because i know it's important to him. i would maybe just like him to have offered? it just sucks to think that football is clearly so much more important to him/

I somehow doubt that the bit in bold is the case, this is a one-off match but I'd wager that nine times out of ten he'd choose you over football. I think it's a case of one occasion being more important than the other, not the occasion being more important than you, tbph.

Just rearrange the date, perhaps for the weekend, when it's clearly a better time to go out anyway.

Reply 18

Lana_07

2

i'd be really pissed off. my boyfriend would never miss a game of football. but what can we do eh? i wish it would snow again so footballs cancelled :biggrin:

Reply 19

Zerforax

21

Go watch the match with him and give support to the opposition team. That will really nark him off.
Plenty of anti-Man Utd chants available online :p:

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