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    Hi ,
    I am a 23 year old Masters student (male) and I think I may have a sex addiction. This is something that I've had to cope with for 2 years now and it is ruining my life. I stay awake the entire night watching explicit material on the internet and masturbating. I have also paid for a number of webcam shows. I masturbate like its a game and this process may go on for 6 to 7 hours at a stretch mainly at night after 11 pm . At the time it feels really good because Im in control and its the only fun thing in my life. However just after I climax , I feel sick guilty and realization dawns upon me. I know to some it may seem silly but it is something I can't control. Once I get the urge to watch pornography , pay for a webcame show I can't control myself. I don't know if its the same feeling as someone who has an alcohol or drug addiction. Also most fo these women are older than I am (in their 30s/ 40s ) and I feel there is soemthing seriously wrong with me. At times it feels like there is someone else controlling me.
    I have wasted so much money and I feel really horrible. My sleep pattern is screwed and I end up only eating a meal a day ( i only weigh 9 stone at the moment and I am getting thinner by the day). I have also visited escorts the last two years and paid for sex ( I know I feel horrible ) . I have become such a recluse and hardly socialise anymore. I find it extremely difficult to have a conversation which lasts for more than 10 minutes with the opposite sex and I don't have ANY female friends. I am quite shy by nature and this added problem isn't doing me any favours. Most people my age have girlfirends and it really irritates me when i see people coupled up. I am resigned to the fact that I will end up single my entire life.I will be working soon and I fear I will not be able to cope with the 9-5 working hours because of my inability to sleep at night. I have been feeling extremely low and havign occasional suicidal thoughts. Its difficult for me to talk to someone about this topic because as you can imagine it is quite embarassing. I was wondering if anyone can give me any advice or if someone has been in a similar position before....how do I cure myself ? This is the
    first time I'm posting stuff about my private life on a forum so this is a pretty big problem in my life. Also I know there will be people on here who will be nasty and call me names like a freak, pervert etc and I don't care because nothing you will say will make me feel any worse than I am feeling now. However I don't mind constructive criticism which will help me.
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    You aren't a sex addict.

    You're a ******* addict. There's a difference. People who are sex addicts generally don't have a problem getting any. People who are ******* addicts are generally people who have extreme difficulty getting any.

    Work from there.
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    Maybe you have a hormonal imbalance?

    You could try doing some decent exercise during the day to get your appetite up and also to help you sleep, and why not have a couple of glasses of wine to help you sleep or a sleeping pill or something?
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    yup, that's quite some problem you have there buddy

    why not limit yourself to masturbation during daylight hours only

    and, just to conclude, 7 hours, yeah?

    what the ****
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    Go on therapy. You're weak minded.
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    ew. grim.
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    You need a psychotherapist.
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    (Original post by ryan_uk)
    Hi ,
    I am a 23 year old Masters student (male) and I think I may have a sex addiction. This is something that I've had to cope with for 2 years now and it is ruining my life. I stay awake the entire night watching explicit material on the internet and masturbating. I have also paid for a number of webcam shows. I masturbate like its a game and this process may go on for 6 to 7 hours at a stretch mainly at night after 11 pm . At the time it feels really good because Im in control and its the only fun thing in my life. However just after I climax , I feel sick guilty and realization dawns upon me. I know to some it may seem silly but it is something I can't control. Once I get the urge to watch pornography , pay for a webcame show I can't control myself. I don't know if its the same feeling as someone who has an alcohol or drug addiction. Also most fo these women are older than I am (in their 30s/ 40s ) and I feel there is soemthing seriously wrong with me. At times it feels like there is someone else controlling me.
    I have wasted so much money and I feel really horrible. My sleep pattern is screwed and I end up only eating a meal a day ( i only weigh 9 stone at the moment and I am getting thinner by the day). I have also visited escorts the last two years and paid for sex ( I know I feel horrible ) . I have become such a recluse and hardly socialise anymore. I find it extremely difficult to have a conversation which lasts for more than 10 minutes with the opposite sex and I don't have ANY female friends. I am quite shy by nature and this added problem isn't doing me any favours. Most people my age have girlfirends and it really irritates me when i see people coupled up. I am resigned to the fact that I will end up single my entire life.I will be working soon and I fear I will not be able to cope with the 9-5 working hours because of my inability to sleep at night. I have been feeling extremely low and havign occasional suicidal thoughts. Its difficult for me to talk to someone about this topic because as you can imagine it is quite embarassing. I was wondering if anyone can give me any advice or if someone has been in a similar position before....how do I cure myself ? This is the
    first time I'm posting stuff about my private life on a forum so this is a pretty big problem in my life. Also I know there will be people on here who will be nasty and call me names like a freak, pervert etc and I don't care because nothing you will say will make me feel any worse than I am feeling now. However I don't mind constructive criticism which will help me.

    get out and meet people, if u feel the urge to watch porn think of something else to do. think about your good aspects and dont get too down about it, ignore these people that are being horrible to you, you can't always help it. you can get addicted to anything u do too much.
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    sounds quite serious, see your gp or counsellor or something.
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    Ha, you know this thread is full of ***** when I'M one of the first to give proper advice.

    I can't say I understand where you are tbh. I enjoy masturbation but not as profusely as you. What I'd recommend is to just ditch all access to porn (not so easy nowadays). Set up a block on all pornographic sites. And yeh, its fine to masturbate everyday but not for so bloody long! Try cutting down so maybe 10 mins a day. Drink more water too. Strange advice lol but I find it gives better concentration and will power. Buy somesleeping pills also.
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    (Original post by TK2 King Pin)
    yup, that's quite some problem you have there buddy

    why not limit yourself to masturbation during daylight hours only

    and, just to conclude, 7 hours, yeah?

    what the ****
    I can't because I do research in my lab during the day and Im very rarely at my computer.
    Seven hours is the maximum and that happened only one time......its usually 5- 6 hours . This is the reason why im reluctant to seek therapy.......the psychotherapist would probably try and put me in a mental institute after hearing that !
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    Join Investment banking, it is not a 9-5 job. Your nights awake will be paid for :yep:
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    (Original post by silliva)
    Ha, you know this thread is full of c*nts when I'M one of the first to give proper advice.

    I can't say I understand where you are tbh. I enjoy masturbation but not as profusely as you. What I'd recommend is to just ditch all access to porn (not so easy nowadays). Set up a block on all pornographic sites. And yeh, its fine to masturbate everyday but not for so bloody long! Try cutting down so maybe 10 mins a day. Drink more water too. Strange advice lol but I find it gives better concentration and will power. Buy somesleeping pills also.
    Thanks for this. I tried cutting it down before but it just doesn't work. I think I'll try taking some sleeping pills.
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    (Original post by matt608)
    Maybe you have a hormonal imbalance?

    You could try doing some decent exercise during the day to get your appetite up and also to help you sleep, and why not have a couple of glasses of wine to help you sleep or a sleeping pill or something?

    this, if nothing else it will at least tire you out, possibly enough to curb your masturbation somewhat, as you will go to **** one night after a hard day and just think, '**** it, cba'
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    try gettin yourself some life perspective or sumthin:
    do yoga or somethin like that, or find a faith,,
    thing on tv the other day about addictions, fair few people said that for them faith was a real help
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    (Original post by ryan_uk)
    Thanks for this. I tried cutting it down before but it just doesn't work. I think I'll try taking some sleeping pills.
    If you can avoid taking pills then that would be better. If you become too reliant on sleeping pills then in the future you will find it very hard to be without them. It's fair easier and more effective to maybe go for a swim to tire you out etc. Pills should only be a last, last resort.
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    n barden mate,,, lol but your lil tag thing is pretty sexist
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    It is an addiction and to be honest as addictions go it's actually quite healthy. I don't think you're alone, maybe if you find people who are the same, possibly via porn sites? I know pornhub has a community of users who sign in and comment on stuff etc.

    I'm not an expert, so yeah maybe taking away the temptation and cutting back by will power is best. Or maybe finding someone with a similar libido could work too? Considering how much of the internet is porn or porn related I don't think you'll find it too difficult to find someone similar to talk to at least.

    Also paying for porn? There's a wealth of free porn online! Save your money and try a search engine.
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    See a therapist asap.
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    see a free therapist as well if possible,, seems like youve already spent a fair amount of money on this
 
 
 
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