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Casual sex..how to act?!??....not to lovey etc watch

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    I am 20 and going to have casual sex with this guy who is 24.

    Im quite nervous mainly because I don't know how to act, obviously I intend to have a good time:p: but as respect to what happens before and after; do i kiss him, cuddle what?!?:confused:

    I don't want to come over too keen nor do I want to be like a cold fish!

    I know it is casual sex but I am hoping it may develop into a relationship....:o:

    Any advice welcome oh and I am staying over his apartment
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I am 20 and going to have casual sex with this guy who is 24.

    Im quite nervous mainly because I don't know how to act, obviously I intend to have a good time:p: but as respect to what happens before and after; do i kiss him, cuddle what?!?:confused:

    I don't want to come over too keen nor do I want to be like a cold fish!

    I know it is casual sex but I am hoping it may develop into a relationship....:o:

    Any advice welcome oh and I am staying over his apartment
    -Well this isn't the way about it.
    -If he wants casual sex he doesn't consider you relationship material.
    -You're just going to get yourself attached and then feel like he used you which is not true.

    This has happened a few times with me, the girl gets attached and everything goes to ****.

    Don't go to his house if you want a relationship.
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    Don't get your hopes up for a relationship, first of all.
    Wait and see how he acts afterwards. If he can't get rid of you quick enough, then he genuinely just wants a shag. If he cuddles you, then feel free to cuddle back but still, don't get your hopes up.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I am 20 and going to have casual sex with this guy who is 24.

    Im quite nervous mainly because I don't know how to act, obviously I intend to have a good time:p: but as respect to what happens before and after; do i kiss him, cuddle what?!?:confused:

    I don't want to come over too keen nor do I want to be like a cold fish!

    I know it is casual sex but I am hoping it may develop into a relationship....:o:


    Any advice welcome oh and I am staying over his apartment
    You need to be careful. If you're having casual sex, it's likely that's all he's after. If you're hoping for a relationship, and then have sex, that might increase your feelings which won't help if he isn't interested. Casual sex can result in you becoming very attached to that person, so I'd watch out.
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    relationship? he just wants to mash and dash, don't get your hopes up :rolleyes:
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    Surely he is in as much of a risk of 'getting attached' as I am?
    Tbh he has been the one doing most of the chasing...
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Surely he is in as much of a risk of 'getting attached' as I am?
    Tbh he has been the one doing most of the chasing...
    Us men think with our dicks.
    You think with your emotions.

    Sucks 2 be u
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Surely he is in as much of a risk of 'getting attached' as I am?
    Tbh he has been the one doing most of the chasing...
    hes chasing sex...not you
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Surely he is in as much of a risk of 'getting attached' as I am?
    Tbh he has been the one doing most of the chasing...

    Yeah he'll just want to sleep with you.


    It depends how you got onto the subject of this coming up. Like if you were both talking saying like 'its been a while' and you're helping each other out, it will just simply be sex.

    Just be careful to know where you both stand. Nothing worse than it being one sided.
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    Just realized I'm **** blocking..



    OP DON\'T WORRY IM SURE HE LOVES YOU AS WELL
    NOW GO MAKE SAND WHICH FOR HIM.
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    (Original post by fox_the_fix)
    Us men think with our dicks.
    You think with your emotions.
    says it all
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    if you need to ask, you shouldn't be doing this
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    lol this really isn't going to end well for you.

    Do him a favour and spare him the agro. Walk away.
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    You want a relationship - this is where it all falls down for you I'm afraid. Its casual if both parties want it to be. You dont. So I'd refrain from doing this at all (although I know you'll ignore us).
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    "don't let the fear of striking out keep you from playing the game"
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    (Original post by Antonia87)
    You want a relationship - this is where it all falls down for you I'm afraid. Its casual if both parties want it to be. You dont. So I'd refrain from doing this at all (although I know you'll ignore us).
    I'm not sure I want a relationship..I dont know what I want, I guess I would be happy with abit of fun if thats all that came from it
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    Not going to happen.
    If you're after a relationship, don't bother going.
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    Copy the pornstars.

    Choke her, call her a ***** and spit on her.
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    You haven't thought this through have you? You now say you don't know what you want out of it. Maybe delay things and see what his reaction is.
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    Girl, men arent as liable to fall in love as women especially as it's been agreed that it's casual sex between you. Please don't be naive and hope for a relationship when it's not on the cards.

    Just because he's letting you get close physically doesnt mean that he's open and available emotionally.

    It's a really "young girl" mistake. I'm sorry for patronising you, but it is.
 
 
 
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