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    I am a girl, 18 and still a virgin. I dont find being a virgin an issue at all and it was my own choice to remain a virgin. I did have a boyfriend for 18 months but I didnt feel ready or mature enough and was too self conscious.

    However, we did do other things involving hands and mouths (if you get what I mean ) After we split up, I have done stuff with other guys but not sex.

    I do now feel that I would be ready to have sex, with the right person (dont want to be in 'love' but someone who I care about.) but I am really really concerned about my lack of experience.

    I dont want my attempt at sex to be laughable as I think most people by 18 know whats going on. Spesh the way people go on at uni.

    I am also a bit embarassed about blow jobs. I enjoy giving them and would be willing to practice at getting better. But the thought of a guy receiving one from me and just thinking this is a bit rubbish.. is well ... kinda really embarrasing. (I guess I am a bit of a perfictionist.)


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    (Original post by _glandular_fever)
    I am a girl, 18 and still a virgin. I dont find being a virgin an issue at all and it was my own choice to remain a virgin. I did have a boyfriend for 18 months but I didnt feel ready or mature enough and was too self conscious.

    However, we did do other things involving hands and mouths (if you get what I mean ) After we split up, I have done stuff with other guys but not sex.

    I do now feel that I would be ready to have sex, with the right person (dont want to be in 'love' but someone who I care about.) but I am really really concerned about my lack of experience.

    I dont want my attempt at sex to be laughable as I think most people by 18 know whats going on. Spesh the way people go on at uni.

    I am also a bit embarassed about blow jobs. I enjoy giving them and would be willing to practice at getting better. But the thought of a guy receiving one from me and just thinking this is a bit rubbish.. is well ... kinda really embarrasing. (I guess I am a bit of a perfictionist.)


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    Lack of experience is nothing, just do what you think is the right way to go about things and if you're brave enough. Tell the guy you're a virgin, i'm sure he'd understand. I would.
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    (Original post by _glandular_fever)
    I am a girl, 18 and still a virgin. I dont find being a virgin an issue at all and it was my own choice to remain a virgin. I did have a boyfriend for 18 months but I didnt feel ready or mature enough and was too self conscious.

    However, we did do other things involving hands and mouths (if you get what I mean ) After we split up, I have done stuff with other guys but not sex.

    I do now feel that I would be ready to have sex, with the right person (dont want to be in 'love' but someone who I care about.) but I am really really concerned about my lack of experience.

    I dont want my attempt at sex to be laughable as I think most people by 18 know whats going on. Spesh the way people go on at uni.

    I am also a bit embarassed about blow jobs. I enjoy giving them and would be willing to practice at getting better. But the thought of a guy receiving one from me and just thinking this is a bit rubbish.. is well ... kinda really embarrasing. (I guess I am a bit of a perfictionist.)


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    Dont worry I'll help you practice. :perv:
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    Girls don't really HAVE to do anything. Just make sure the guy is on top and enjoy it
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    Girls don't really have to try as hard as guys when it comes to sex, so I wouldn't worry so much. Being a virgin would be a plus point for most guys unless they're looking for a slut.
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    (Original post by DaveParlour)
    Girls don't really HAVE to do anything. Just make sure the guy is on top and enjoy it
    I wouldnt want that though. I wouldnt want the guy to be like
    'bloody hell that was pretty alright'

    Haha but I guess that is all down to practice.
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    IMO, if you're still a virgin at 21, it gets a bit worrying, at 18, i don't think its too bad.
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    You're a girl! You don't need to do much work if you don't want to. Make sure the guy isn't lazy

    Plus, I think its a bit of a turn on sleeping with a virgin. They have no past experience so nothing to compare you to :P
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    Whats the drive to lose your virginity? It's something to be proud of and to be shared with a likeminded individual.

    Sure you will be bad, as the guy will be as well. But you can learn together.
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    (Original post by lookitsdanhunt)
    You're a girl! You don't need to do much work if you don't want to. Make sure the guy isn't lazy

    Plus, I think its a bit of a turn on sleeping with a virgin. They have no past experience so nothing to compare you to :P
    How come your a london mag Dan ?
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    (Original post by black_mac29)
    Dont worry I'll help you practice. :perv:
    Vile.

    Don't worry op plenty clueless guys around too. :gthumb:
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    (Original post by mau5)
    How come your a london mag Dan ?
    From Durham originally! Plus most my family live up there as well as some of my mates
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    (Original post by Ebbson)
    Vile.

    Don't worry op plenty clueless guys around too. :gthumb:
    'twas nought but a joke u *******.
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    (Original post by Jukukiwaiyi)
    IMO, if you're still a virgin at 21, it gets a bit worrying, at 18, i don't think its too bad.
    It's worrying alright. I'm 21 :/ it's def worse if you're a guy.
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    (Original post by lookitsdanhunt)
    From Durham originally! Plus most my family live up there as well as some of my mates
    Cool. There seems to be quite a few down that way from what I gather.
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    (Original post by mau5)
    Cool. There seems to be quite a few down that way from what I gather.
    Yeh there are quite alot at my uni. Shame there aren't more London teams in the Championship!
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    (Original post by black_mac29)
    'twas nought but a joke u *******.
    Vile.
 
 
 
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