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    I don't want to sound like a miserable guy, but I just wanted to get this off my chest.

    I'm 19 years old and I've never been in a relationship at all. I came out of the closet a while ago and everything went very well. My friends were all very accepting and my family seem fine too. I've been very lucky, in that respect.

    But being gay has been incredibly lonely for me. For several years now I've watched people being happy in their relationships with each other. I've watched relationships come and go with my friends; I've watched them hug and kiss in public millions of times. Now that we're coming up to Valentine's Day, I see even more of this affection about. I'm very happy for all these people, but it just reinforces my feeling of loneliness. Sometimes I wonder if I will ever meet the right guy. I've been to the LGBT group loads of times and I still haven't met many people there (let alone any who are my type). I'm not attracted to campness at all but nearly everyone at the group is really over the top and camp. It makes me feel really isolated because that's just not me.

    I don't know. I guess I just want to know what it's like to hug someone you care about and have feelings for. I'd love the simple things like lying on a bed with them and watching a film. Going out for dates would be amazing.

    Unfortunately, every guy I've ever felt attracted to is straight, and it's devastating. Just try to put yourself in my shoes and imagine facing up to the fact that practically every person you've ever had feelings for could never love you back, no matter what you did.

    I don't know what else to say tbh. I just hope everyone out there in a relationship just realises how damn lucky they are. And for any straight people who are single, take some solace in the fact that meeting potential partners isn't that difficult.

    Sorry for the miserable thread.
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    Don't feel so bad, you're young, you have your whole life ahead of you so don't worry too much about being with someone or not. Join clubs and societies to meet new people who share a common interest.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I don't want to sound like a miserable guy, but I just wanted to get this off my chest.

    I'm 19 years old and I've never been in a relationship at all. I came out of the closet a while ago and everything went very well. My friends were all very accepting and my family seem fine too. I've been very lucky, in that respect.

    But being gay has been incredibly lonely for me. For several years now I've watched people being happy in their relationships with each other. I've watched relationships come and go with my friends; I've watched them hug and kiss in public millions of times. Now that we're coming up to Valentine's Day, I see even more of this affection about. I'm very happy for all these people, but it just reinforces my feeling of loneliness. Sometimes I wonder if I will ever meet the right guy. I've been to the LGBT group loads of times and I still haven't met many people there (let alone any who are my type). I'm not attracted to campness at all but nearly everyone at the group is really over the top and camp. It makes me feel really isolated because that's just not me.

    I don't know. I guess I just want to know what it's like to hug someone you care about and have feelings for. I'd love the simple things like lying on a bed with them and watching a film. Going out for dates would be amazing.

    Unfortunately, every guy I've ever felt attracted to is straight, and it's devastating. Just try to put yourself in my shoes and imagine facing up to the fact that practically every person you've ever had feelings for could never love you back, no matter what you did.

    I don't know what else to say tbh. I just hope everyone out there in a relationship just realises how damn lucky they are. And for any straight people who are single, take some solace in the fact that meeting potential partners isn't that difficult.

    Sorry for the miserable thread.
    I feel you Stay strong, you might find someone eventually! (and the campy gays are the epitome of unattractiveness these days).
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    Mate, don't worry, they're are LOADS of single straight guys who are really sad and lonely.

    Yes I admit lying down with your gf in bed or whatever is a really nice feeling - but you're time will come... have you thought of online stuff?
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    You'll find somebody. I wish I could give you a real hug and promise you will find somebody. If you need anybody to talk to, PM me. I can empathize with you or you can just talk.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I don't want to sound like a miserable guy, but I just wanted to get this off my chest.

    I'm 19 years old and I've never been in a relationship at all. I came out of the closet a while ago and everything went very well. My friends were all very accepting and my family seem fine too. I've been very lucky, in that respect.

    But being gay has been incredibly lonely for me. For several years now I've watched people being happy in their relationships with each other. I've watched relationships come and go with my friends; I've watched them hug and kiss in public millions of times. Now that we're coming up to Valentine's Day, I see even more of this affection about. I'm very happy for all these people, but it just reinforces my feeling of loneliness. Sometimes I wonder if I will ever meet the right guy. I've been to the LGBT group loads of times and I still haven't met many people there (let alone any who are my type). I'm not attracted to campness at all but nearly everyone at the group is really over the top and camp. It makes me feel really isolated because that's just not me.

    I don't know. I guess I just want to know what it's like to hug someone you care about and have feelings for. I'd love the simple things like lying on a bed with them and watching a film. Going out for dates would be amazing.

    Unfortunately, every guy I've ever felt attracted to is straight, and it's devastating. Just try to put yourself in my shoes and imagine facing up to the fact that practically every person you've ever had feelings for could never love you back, no matter what you did.

    I don't know what else to say tbh. I just hope everyone out there in a relationship just realizes how damn lucky they are. And for any straight people who are single, take some solace in the fact that meeting potential partners isn't that difficult.

    Sorry for the miserable thread.
    This could easily be me. Everything you have described I have felt before and I totally understand how horrible it is (especially liking straight people and that dreadful feeling of loneliness). Like you, I just want the simplicity that straight people seem to have when it comes to looking for and having a relationship. The world is ultimately a straight one though, so we have to accept that it will obviously be harder for us to find somebody!

    The thing that's keeping me going is university in September, but even then you've described the LGBT society as mainly being occupied by loud, camp guys. I don't have anything against them, but I may as well be with a girl if I were to go with some of the gay guys I've seen.

    It's very easy for a straight person to meet somebody in a shop, at work or at a party. I think we just need to carry on doing what any other person would do (study, work, go out and socialise) and hope that we'll eventually meet the right person.

    Are the LGBT events not much fun? I've never been to a gay club or bar (I don't even like clubbing all that much anyway), but it seems that this may be the only way to actually meet a wider range of guys.

    Somebody posted 'how about online stuff'. I know of a few sites, but I have never got an account and wouldn't recommend getting one. You seem a genuine guy who actually wants something meaningful and real. If you go onto these sites then you'll find that most people are only after one thing. Not worth it, mate.
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    Find ways to increase your social circle, and let friends know you're "looking". Also, don't be afraid of/judge people who go out on the gay scene. There are many great guys to be met, and a variety of types too. Not everyone who goes to gay clubs is stereotypically camp/feminine. I will admit that LGBT societies are pretty hopeless when it comes to finding a boyfriend, but they are good for friends.

    I definitely empathise with you OP. I've been single for years now
 
 
 
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