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    I need a hand with trying to work out if I have any reason to be annoyed.
    My girlfriend sent me some photos to get made into prints for her art project. They are photos of her naked. Admittedly, they have been distorted somewhat but you can still clearly see her nipples, breasts and the area round her groin. I'm not happy about this. I don't particularly want photos of her naked displayed for all to see, especially in a school environment. In my opinion, no matter how good the photos are (and they are good), they are pretty much pornography.
    Do I have reason to not want her to use them? Could someone please try and put across some reasons why I shouldn't be annoyed?

    Thanks.
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    I'd be very surprised if the school allowed her to display them!
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    No, if she wants to do this, then let her. It seems that you are being a bit controlling. It isn't as if she's posing with someone else's penis inside her.
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    I can help you. But first, I'm going to need to see what we're dealing with here...
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    It's A level art, they are allowed to use nudity, the project is "the Body". I don't think she is going to tell people it is her but everyone will be able to tell.
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    Pornography is sexual do you see any thing sexual about them? My friend posed naked and drew herself naked for her final piece in GCSE.

    I see nothing wrong with it as long as she isn't underage. It's only as sexual as you make it, otherwise all the male artists in my life drawing would have hard ons, permanently. It's only a naked body we all have it under our clothes.

    EDIT: Curious as you why you put art in quotations?
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    (Original post by SpiritedAway)
    No, if she wants to do this, then let her. It seems that you are being a bit controlling. It isn't as if she's posing with someone else's penis inside her.
    Ermmmmm, well obviously it isn't like that. What she is doing is displaying photos of herself naked. Can you explain exactly why I shouldn't be upset about this?
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    (Original post by Spinnerette)
    Pornography is sexual do you see any thing sexual about them? My friend posed naked and drew herself naked for her final piece in GCSE.

    I see nothing wrong with it as long as she isn't underage. It's only as sexual as you make it, otherwise all the male artists in my life drawing would have hard ons, permanently. It's only a naked body we all have it under our clothes.
    Well yeah, it is my girlfriend naked, covering parts of her body suggestively. I think it is sexual. I'm sure most boys would.
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    I would be very miffed. Only one person should be able to look at the goods!
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    We all have a naked body why are some people so ashamed and embaressed of seeing them, if she wants to do it then let her, and if people can appreciate it as good art then surely that can't be a bad thing?
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    Hi mate,
    First off, its not about you feeling too controlling, its about you feeling a bit uncomfortable.

    Q. Is it art or porn?
    A. Its art (by the sounds of it)

    Of course its going to make you feel awkward. The fact is, lots of people pose nude for art, but i guess that you already know this.

    Here's the problem - The fact that your gf is happy to display these images probably means that she is quite passionate about art.

    I'd deff feel quite odd about the situation if i was in your position, but my feeling is that you really need to get your head around it. Talk to her about it, she may even be surprised that you haven't told her that you feel a bit odd about it - its a natural first-time reaction.

    At the end of the day, you will have to get used to it.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Well yeah, it is my girlfriend naked, covering parts of her body suggestively. I think it is sexual. I'm sure most boys would.
    I suppose but it's her prerogative. You have a say but in the end it's her decision to use it for her final piece. This could go two or three ways:
    - you argue and she conforms to what you say and doesn't use them,
    - you argue and she covers up parts of the photos in Adobe PhotoShop and redoes them
    or
    -she does use them you have a big argument and either she breaks up with you over it or you reach a suitable agreement where YOU are the one who has to compromise not her.
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    I have tons of mates doing fine art at Slade (Uni) and they pose naked all the time.

    If its done tastefully with the nipples and groin blurred or censored then it should not be so bad. Obviously you know that the body is her but you have to remember the naked human form is art in itself.

    Why don't you try to oversee what she does and make sure its not so obvious that its her.....my friend did a video of herself naked and she censored bits of it at random so you never see a very clear picture.

    Your gf is a woman now after all let her be proud of her body as a work of art.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Ermmmmm, well obviously it isn't like that. What she is doing is displaying photos of herself naked. Can you explain exactly why I shouldn't be upset about this?
    Because she doesn't belong to you. She isn't your child/pet. It isn't your body, and because it is HER body, she has the right to do what she wants with it. It isn't as thought she is having an affair, she is posing naked, that is all.
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    I can understand why it'd get to you a bit, but there's nothing dirty about the naked body in itself. Other people might draw their conclusions about it, but that stems from their own corruptions.
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    I would never allow my girlfriend to pose naked, no matter what the reason is. And I completely disagree with what somebody mentioned above that you are controlling her, it's rather protecting her because you love her and want other people to respect her.

    You should clearly tell her what you think and that for you it's a very sensitive matter. Be serious while saying NO to her, so that she understands that you are upset about it and not joking.

    good luck :cool:
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    Rather than being pissed at her, perhaps you could be proud of her.
    Of her art, her ambitions and her body.
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    (Original post by Spinnerette)
    I suppose but it's her prerogative. You have a say but in the end it's her decision to use it for her final piece. This could go two or three ways:
    - you argue and she conforms to what you say and doesn't use them,
    - you argue and she covers up parts of the photos in Adobe PhotoShop and redoes them
    or
    -she does use them you have a big argument and either she breaks up with you over it or you reach a suitable agreement where YOU are the one who has to compromise not her.
    Of course it is her decision. I'm not of the opinion that if I disagree, she shouldn't do it. She isn't my property.
    I'm going to ask her to cover up more of the photos.
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    (Original post by Antimatter)
    Rather than being pissed at her, perhaps you could be proud of her.
    Of her art, her ambitions and her body.
    Is it not possible to be proud of her art, her ambitions and her body without everyone else seeing her naked?
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    (Original post by SpiritedAway)
    Because she doesn't belong to you. She isn't your child/pet. It isn't your body, and because it is HER body, she has the right to do what she wants with it. It isn't as thought she is having an affair, she is posing naked, that is all.
    You need to get off your high horse. I can't remember ever saying I was going to stop her. Why the hell would I ever assume power over her? I'm just saying it makes me unhappy.
 
 
 
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