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    (Original post by I<3LAMP)
    I have tons of mates doing fine art at Slade (Uni) and they pose naked all the time.

    If its done tastefully with the nipples and groin blurred or censored then it should not be so bad. Obviously you know that the body is her but you have to remember the naked human form is art in itself.

    Why don't you try to oversee what she does and make sure its not so obvious that its her.....my friend did a video of herself naked and she censored bits of it at random so you never see a very clear picture.

    Your gf is a woman now after all let her be proud of her body as a work of art.
    But her nipples and groin are like the only part not blurred out. That's what is making me think it is more porn than art.
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    (Original post by alijimi)
    I would never allow my girlfriend to pose naked, no matter what the reason is. And I completely disagree with what somebody mentioned above that you are controlling her, it's rather protecting her because you love her and want other people to respect her.

    You should clearly tell her what you think and that for you it's a very sensitive matter. Be serious while saying NO to her, so that she understands that you are upset about it and not joking.

    good luck :cool:
    She doesn't need protecting, she obviously knows what she is doing. If people decide not to respect her over something like this, then we wouldn't have painters such as Jules Pascin, and that was from a time when people were far more prude than what we are nowadays. And why should he be able to say "no" and then her just not to do it, like I mentioned earlier, she is not a child, and certainly not his child.
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    (Original post by Antimatter)
    Rather than being pissed at her, perhaps you could be proud of her.
    Of her art, her ambitions and her body.
    I can be proud of her art, ambitions and body without her being naked in photos on display.
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    What would you rather her do? Get naked for cash in some seedy club. At least she is happy enough in her own skin to pose naked for art if that's what she wants to do, you should be supportive, she'll probably only do it anyway with or without your liking, you could even end up pushing her away. You'd hate it even more if she was so insecure about the way she looked and covered up completely.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I can be proud of her art, ambitions and body without her being naked in photos on display.
    I'm just saying that rather than being filled with such negativity about it all, you could just tell yourself that it's happened, it's tasteful, it's good, and now you can get on with your life.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    You need to get off your high horse. I can't remember ever saying I was going to stop her. Why the hell would I ever assume power over her? I'm just saying it makes me unhappy.
    But it shouldn't make you unhappy, her school work, whether she's posing naked or writing an essay on the plague, shouldn't really have any effect, because that is exactly what it is, school work.
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    (Original post by KateRosie)
    What would you rather her do? Get naked for cash in some seedy club. At least she is happy enough in her own skin to pose naked for art if that's what she wants to do, you should be supportive, she'll probably only do it anyway with or without your liking, you could even end up pushing her away. You'd hate it even more if she was so insecure about the way she looked and covered up completely.
    Of course not. What was the point in saying that?
    I'm happy in my own skin. I don't pose naked for art.
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    (Original post by Antimatter)
    I'm just saying that rather than being filled with such negativity about it all, you could just tell yourself that it's happened, it's tasteful, it's good, and now you can get on with your life.
    But it's not tasteful. I'm no philistine. I know about art. She has distorted most parts of the photos apart from the more sexual areas.
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    OP I see why you'd be upset, my boyfriend would probably ask me to display something else if I suggested that. Is there no way for her to take more, more subtle and 'covered up' photos? It sounds like pretty much everything is on show here. For the nude art, you can normally just suggest nudity, and get the right shapes, curves, colours in the piece and it's normally even more elegant than full on nudity. I think you have a right to tell her it upsets you, but then you don't really have any control over the situation - it is her body, and her choice. But at least let her know how it makes you feel OP, but then if she still decides to do it, support her. If the module of art is nudity, the next one wont be, so you may never face this situation again - and you get some lovely classy nude photos of your girlfriend. Try to see the silver lining!

    I am surprised that a school would allow this, though? x
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    (Original post by SpiritedAway)
    But it shouldn't make you unhappy, her school work, whether she's posing naked or writing an essay on the plague, shouldn't really have any effect, because that is exactly what it is, school work.
    Stop being so airy fairy. Posing naked is a mile away from writing an essay. Everyone writes essays, a minority pose naked.

    What makes it more frustrating is that I'm a model. She has told me once or twice in the past that she would not be happy if I did shots in just my underwear and now she is doing fully naked photos.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Well yeah, it is my girlfriend naked, covering parts of her body suggestively. I think it is sexual. I'm sure most boys would.

    So she's confident enough in her own body to use it for her art. That's great - most people aren't. It also clearly means she isn't going to see your point of view and so you telling her she can't use these pictures is not going to help you. She's not going to take well to you saying she can't use the pictures in this project, which she has clearly put time and effort and imagination into.
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    (Original post by punkyrocker)
    OP I see why you'd be upset, my boyfriend would probably ask me to display something else if I suggested that. Is there no way for her to take more, more subtle and 'covered up' photos? It sounds like pretty much everything is on show here. For the nude art, you can normally just suggest nudity, and get the right shapes, curves, colours in the piece and it's normally even more elegant than full on nudity. I think you have a right to tell her it upsets you, but then you don't really have any control over the situation - it is her body, and her choice. But at least let her know how it makes you feel OP, but then if she still decides to do it, support her. If the module of art is nudity, the next one wont be, so you may never face this situation again - and you get some lovely classy nude photos of your girlfriend. Try to see the silver lining!

    I am surprised that a school would allow this, though? x

    I would be ok with it if the photos were more tasteful. I'll ask her to distort them more. I don't think I'd be able to support her if she used them as they are.

    The module is "the body", I beleive. It seems a bit amateur to just photo yourself naked and distort it a little bit.
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    To be honest, most people going "it's her body" would probably still be a bit miffed if their partner was to go round showing people their naked body. If it's perfectly okay, why do people not walk around nude?

    I can see why you'd be annoyed, but it is for her art. She has probably put a lot of effort into the pictures at the minute, and I can imagine her getting quite upset if you asked her to redo them. She'd be a lot happier if you were supportive. I'm not completely sure of the style of the photos, but you have mentioned that they are distorted, yet people could still tell it was her?

    Does she have her face in the photos?
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I would be ok with it if the photos were more tasteful. I'll ask her to distort them more. I don't think I'd be able to support her if she used them as they are.

    The module is "the body", I beleive. It seems a bit amateur to just photo yourself naked and distort it a little bit.
    In your interest, do not say that to her.

    (Original post by Anonymous)
    What makes it more frustrating is that I'm a model. She has told me once or twice in the past that she would not be happy if I did shots in just my underwear and now she is doing fully naked photos.
    If you do choose to say to her, mention this. It is a bit hypocritical of her not to get where you're coming from, if she has asked you not to pose in your underwear. Modelling is art aswell.
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    (Original post by Charlski)
    So she's confident enough in her own body to use it for her art. That's great - most people aren't. It also clearly means she isn't going to see your point of view and so you telling her she can't use these pictures is not going to help you. She's not going to take well to you saying she can't use the pictures in this project, which she has clearly put time and effort and imagination into.
    I haven't told her not to use them. I've told her that I'm not happy with the photos in their current state. There doesn't seem to be much imagination there. She got a brief of "the body" and took some naked photos then did a little distortion.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Of course not. What was the point in saying that?
    I'm happy in my own skin. I don't pose naked for art.
    We all express ourselves in different ways.

    And another thing, it's a well known fact that a massive majority or men/boys watch/look at porn. So if it's ok for you to look at some girls naked body then it's ok for your girlfriend to pose naked for art surely, and you saying it's not ok is showing how closed minded you actually are. :yep:
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    (Original post by Dumdedoobie)
    To be honest, most people going "it's her body" would probably still be a bit miffed if their partner was to go round showing people their naked body. If it's perfectly okay, why do people not walk around nude?

    I can see why you'd be annoyed, but it is for her art. She has probably put a lot of effort into the pictures at the minute, and I can imagine her getting quite upset if you asked her to redo them. She'd be a lot happier if you were supportive. I'm not completely sure of the style of the photos, but you have mentioned that they are distorted, yet people could still tell it was her?

    Does she have her face in the photos?
    I'm not going to lie and pretend I don't think she should redo them if it makes me upset. You can't see her face but you can see bits of her room clearly. Enough people will now for it to spread.
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    (Original post by KateRosie)
    We all express ourselves in different ways.

    And another thing, it's a well known fact that a massive majority or men/boys watch/look at porn. So if it's ok for you to look at some girls naked body then it's ok for your girlfriend to pose naked for art surely, and you saying it's not ok is showing how closed minded you actually are. :yep:
    I don't watch porn but you are right. If she can pose naked, I can look at loads of other women naked and comment on how attractive they are....
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    But her nipples and groin are like the only part not blurred out. That's what is making me think it is more porn than art.
    Hmmmm I don't think the nipples are so bad but the groin needs to be put away. I don't find nipples sexual tbh. You need to speak to her...having her groin exposed is a lil much IMO.
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    (Original post by I<3LAMP)
    Hmmmm I don't think the nipples are so bad but the groin needs to be put away. I don't find nipples sexual tbh. You need to speak to her...having her groin exposed is a lil much IMO.
    I agree. I can't believe she thinks I'd be ok with her groin on show.
 
 
 
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