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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I haven't told her not to use them. I've told her that I'm not happy with the photos in their current state. There doesn't seem to be much imagination there. She got a brief of "the body" and took some naked photos then did a little distortion.

    Which is tantamount to saying 'don't use them'.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I'm not going to lie and pretend I don't think she should redo them if it makes me upset. You can't see her face but you can see bits of her room clearly. Enough people will now for it to spread.
    Well then ask her to edit the parts of her room, rather than the actual nudity? If people don't know it's her, I don't necessarily see the problem. And I'm not saying to lie.
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    (Original post by Dumdedoobie)
    Well then ask her to edit the parts of her room, rather than the actual nudity? If people don't know it's her, I don't necessarily see the problem. And I'm not saying to lie.
    I will do that. It still makes me feel uncomfortable that it is her on display.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I would be ok with it if the photos were more tasteful. I'll ask her to distort them more. I don't think I'd be able to support her if she used them as they are.

    The module is "the body", I beleive. It seems a bit amateur to just photo yourself naked and distort it a little bit.
    That is your subjective opinion on art, not your view on the current situation. It be advisable to not say that to her.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I don't watch porn but you are right. If she can pose naked, I can look at loads of other women naked and comment on how attractive they are....
    That is absolutely ridiculous. She isn't going around commenting on how attractive naked guys are. She's distorted herself, and doesn't even have her face in the photos. What you are saying is completely different.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I don't watch porn but you are right. If she can pose naked, I can look at loads of other women naked and comment on how attractive they are....
    All I'm saying is, in general it's acceptable for men to look at these women, who could be chance have boyfriends or even husbands too. And that's fine because they do it because they want to. Yet most men who would quite happily watch porn, would be the first to become offended when their girlfriend decides to pose naked for other people to see. Like other people have said, it's not like she's posing with another man... I really don't see the big deal.
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    (Original post by alijimi)
    I would never allow my girlfriend to pose naked, no matter what the reason is. And I completely disagree with what somebody mentioned above that you are controlling her, it's rather protecting her because you love her and want other people to respect her.

    You should clearly tell her what you think and that for you it's a very sensitive matter. Be serious while saying NO to her, so that she understands that you are upset about it and not joking.

    good luck :cool:
    :ditto: I actually can't believe the people here who are like yeah theres nothing wrong with it..helllooo your girlfriend is showing naked pictures of herself!
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    (Original post by Dumdedoobie)
    That is absolutely ridiculous. She isn't going around commenting on how attractive naked guys are. She's distorted herself, and doesn't even have her face in the photos. What you are saying is completely different.
    She is putting across her opinion that the naked body is art and that it should be appreciated as such. In that case, if I see a naked person I will not refrain from commenting on its beauty.
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    (Original post by Spinnerette)
    That is your subjective opinion on art, not your view on the current situation. It be advisable to not say that to her.
    I won't say that to her. I know that would be the end of this discussion and any further ones.
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    It's interesting how virtually all the men seem to think I have reason to be pissed off, and all the girls are calling me unreasonable and controlling. Hmm.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    She is putting across her opinion that the naked body is art and that it should be appreciated as such. In that case, if I see a naked person I will not refrain from commenting on its beauty.
    If you're going to take that point of you, let her have an undistorted photo, with her face in it. You're looking at it in a very immature way.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    It's interesting how virtually all the men seem to think I have reason to be pissed off, and all the girls are calling me unreasonable and controlling. Hmm.
    I'm not saying you don't have a reason to be pissed off. I would be less than happy. I'm just saying I would still try and be supportive, and wouldn't go "Fine, but then I'm going to tell you how attractive other nude bodies are."
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    (Original post by Dumdedoobie)
    If you're going to take that point of you, let her have an undistorted photo, with her face in it. You're looking at it in a very immature way.
    I'm talking about it hypothetically.
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    Art is not pornography.

    At least it shows that she has some self-confidence,
    leave her be.
    It's her art project. It's not like she is hiding from you and tbf if she is only using these picture as a reference, I think it is fair play.
    Not like the school is going to make her print like A1 size picture of her naked body and expose it to everyone.
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    (Original post by Dumdedoobie)
    I'm not saying you don't have a reason to be pissed off. I would be less than happy. I'm just saying I would still try and be supportive, and wouldn't go "Fine, but then I'm going to tell you how attractive other nude bodies are."
    I'm sorry for coming across like that. I think we are looking at it in the same way. I am trying to be supportive, I haven't told her any of this apart from how I'm uncomfortable.
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    (Original post by Wanischa)
    Art is not pornography.

    At least it shows that she has some self-confidence,
    leave her be.
    It's her art project. It's not like she is hiding from you and tbf if she is only using these picture as a reference, I think it is fair play.
    Not like the school is going to make her print like A1 size picture of her naked body and expose it to everyone.
    She isn't using the photos as a reference, they are her final piece. They will be printed in A3 not A1.....
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    tbh i'm not sure why you posted, OP.
    it seems you've made a comment and made up your mind and basically don't want anyone to say you should be feeling otherwise. what's the point if you don't want others' viewpoints?
    if you're just here to rant about it then say so, but don't ask others' opinions and then get all defensive about it.

    if she wants to use them then let her. she wouldnt have taken them if she knew it would cause such a sh*tstorm. if all else fails and you are still a controlling little nob, then suggest she try Simulated Nudity. I have done this and it looks like you are nude, but are effectively not. it's just a suggestion of nudity.
    it's her body and if she wants to pose nude then that's her choice. you can feel upset or whatever but if you really want to support her then jut be proud of her and what she wishes to do. it's not like she's coming out on Page 3 for all the nation to fap over. i dont see grown men jacking off in the National Gallery over some naked portrait. people are able to control themselves when placed with a nude image, for crying out loud.
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    (Original post by Hoody555)
    I would be very miffed. Only one person should be able to look at the goods!
    'the goods'

    eugh.

    On another note, I can see why you would be annoyed, I would be if it was my boyfriend. However, you have to remember that it is HER body, and HER art:there's a chance she'll be quite sensitive on this subject. I think if I was you I would explain calmly how I feel to her and see how she reacts. If you say nothing then it'll eat away at you but if you get all upset and angry she won't take what you're saying seriously and will only see you as possesive. She may even appreciate your concern.
    Also, when I did my painting on the body, I had a friend pose naked for me; but everything was covered up and I was going for a feminist angle so it was entirely non-sexual. Perhaps (as others have suggested) you could kindly ask her to do something more along those lines?
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I'm sorry for coming across like that. I think we are looking at it in the same way. I am trying to be supportive, I haven't told her any of this apart from how I'm uncomfortable.
    Okay, well in that case, as I've suggested already, ask her to edit the room more. That way, you're not criticising the idea of her art, and she is more likely to see where you are coming from. If she disagrees, ask her how she would feel in the same position. If she is unhappy with you modelling underwear, I cant imagine she'd be thrilled in your position.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I will do that. It still makes me feel uncomfortable that it is her on display.
    Her body, not yours. She has every right to use the medium at her disposal for her artistic expression.

    Ultimately, someone could see her on the street, wolf whistle and go home and fantasise about her naked. With this in mind, do you ban her from leaving her house?

    It's her choice to pose nude and other people's choice to admire her artistry or (alternatively) go and fantasise about her. You can't stop people from doing this even if she has clothes on, nor is she your possession to "get annoyed with" because she's decided to do something with her bodythat you might not do with your body.
 
 
 
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