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    (Original post by jaz_jaz)
    i can see why you would feel like that..but what can you do?

    Could you read the post I made, two above yours? Need some guidance
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    I can't see the problem here at all.
    Your girlfriend seems to be great.
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    OP i don't understand why you made her feel self-conscious about her art if you told her it was good?? Why did she get angry?

    on a side note, I'm a girl and tbh I'd be annoyed in your shoes too.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Could you read the post I made, two above yours? Need some guidance
    Honestly, I can't see anything wrong with what you said...
    let her know you didn't mean for her to feel self concious and you're fine for her to carry on but you wanted to let her know how you felt about them.

    damnnn, i should be revising!
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I told her I was a uncomfortable to begin with and I was a bit shocked when I fisrt saw the photos. I said it would have been nice to have been shown them a bit earlier on in the process before the final piece. I told her she should run with them but to be aware some people might work out it is her. I told her how much I liked them and how good they are.

    She started crying, was angry at me, said she is going to have to rethink it all and I've made her really self-concious of her art work. Damn. What a mess.
    Don't worry, the storm will calm down soon. Give her some time to think. In the long run she should thank you for stopping her posing naked. It's nice that you care about her feelings but she should also care about yours, no?? Wait to see what she will decide, then you will know what is more important for her: posing naked or your relation...:cool:
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    OP i don't understand why you made her feel self-conscious about her art if you told her it was good?? Why did she get angry?

    on a side note, I'm a girl and tbh I'd be annoyed in your shoes too.
    (Original post by jaz_jaz)
    Honestly, I can't see anything wrong with what you said...
    let her know you didn't mean for her to feel self concious and you're fine for her to carry on but you wanted to let her know how you felt about them.

    damnnn, i should be revising!.
    Me neither, she is being really insecure and silly now. She won't answer her phone.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Any ideas to sort this out now after reading my previous post? Help would be appreciated.
    Oh ****...if only you'd read my post beforehand!

    This can be sorted, you need to speak to her asap, phone her, and say you're sorry for upsetting her and that you think the photos are great, that you love her and she looks beautiful in them but because of that you got a bit protective and now you wish you hadn't said anything at all. Tell her you feel bad for making her feel bad about her project and you don't want her to feel like this, and you don't want to stop her using them

    Edit: if she's not answering her phone then text her this, also that way she can't interupt you so it might even be better to do this.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Me neither, she is being really insecure and silly now. She won't answer her phone.



    Do you think she might've taken things the wrong way and instead be insecure about her own body rather than her art? Just a thought :confused: maybe tell her you love her body just the way it is and that maybe you're being a tad selfish but you just want her all to yourself? It sounds slightly more lighthearted that way. I know if my bf told me that I'd really like it


    EDIT: ok say that, but combined with what tropical twist said. Text her- I think that's a good plan.
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    Thanks guys! I've texted her a combo of those responses and I hope she'll get back to me.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I need a hand with trying to work out if I have any reason to be annoyed.
    My girlfriend sent me some photos to get made into prints for her art project. They are photos of her naked. Admittedly, they have been distorted somewhat but you can still clearly see her nipples, breasts and the area round her groin. I'm not happy about this. I don't particularly want photos of her naked displayed for all to see, especially in a school environment. In my opinion, no matter how good the photos are (and they are good), they are pretty much pornography.
    Do I have reason to not want her to use them? Could someone please try and put across some reasons why I shouldn't be annoyed?

    Thanks.
    All I can say is, A level art is damn hard and takes a lot of time and effort, she is not going to scrap all her ideas and work just because you aren't happy. Sometimes it's hard to get inspirations with the topics the exam boards give, so good on her for finding something that she is enjoying working on. From what you have said, the pictures sound pretty good.

    I can understand you are not entirely happy, but trust me you need to let her do this, and I am saying this from an art perspective, it takes so much time to develop a successful idea, you can't just scrap it if someone doesn't like it. The controversial pieces are usually the most successful anyway, so she may get a pretty good grade if she has shown her enthusiasm in this.

    By all means tell her you are not keen on the idea, but don't try and stop her from using the pictures, she sounds like she is pretty interested in art.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I told her I was a uncomfortable to begin with and I was a bit shocked when I fisrt saw the photos. I said it would have been nice to have been shown them a bit earlier on in the process before the final piece. I told her she should run with them but to be aware some people might work out it is her. I told her how much I liked them and how good they are.

    She started crying, was angry at me, said she is going to have to rethink it all and I've made her really self-concious of her art work. Damn. What a mess.
    Oh dear You must let her know that she should still use the photos.

    Good luck with the text you have sent. I do hope she still uses all her ideas and the photos because it will be silly to start over now.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Thanks guys! I've texted her a combo of those responses and I hope she'll get back to me.
    Let us know what happens! I give advice on some of these threads but we rarely find out what happens
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    Never knew schools allowed students to pose naked for their art projects!

    Especially if the groin area and nipples aren't properly censored! Surely people, especially teachers, will know it's her when its submitted in her name?
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Ermmmmm, well obviously it isn't like that. What she is doing is displaying photos of herself naked. Can you explain exactly why I shouldn't be upset about this?
    I posed nude for another student's A Level photography project when I was 18 - despite my boyfriend telling me he would leave me if I did. And that made me wanna do it even more. So I did and he left me! He was totally riddled with paranoia and insecurity and I wasnt prepared to have him tell me what I can and cant do with my own body. And I loved the photoshoot too.

    Dont be that guy.
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    Is it your body? No. Do you own her? No! You can be as unhappy with it as you like but it's not your place to tell her she can't do that. Besides, unless there's any sexual acts occurring in the shot you can hardly call it pornography. The human form is beautiful and ought to be appreciated.

    Edit: Just read back a page, you should probably let her know that her work itself is fabulous/beautiful/fantastic/any other positive adjectives you can conjure up, and that your stance on the matter doesn't change that. It's her work to be proud of and if she's pleased with it.. that's what matters?
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    Let us know what happens! I give advice on some of these threads but we rarely find out what happens
    I'll post on here quoting you later today when I've worked it all out. We've been going through a rough patch and I'm thinking this may have just compounded all our problems. This may be the end...
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    (Original post by Lucyyy)
    Is it your body? No. Do you own her? No! You can be as unhappy with it as you like but it's not your place to tell her she can't do that. Besides, unless there's any sexual acts occurring in the shot you can hardly call it pornography. The human form is beautiful and ought to be appreciated.
    Woaaaaah. Chill out. You should learn to read before you comment. I've never told her not to do it and I don't believe that even if I did I'd have any right to expect her to listen. Get a grip of yourself and go jump down someone elses throat.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    What makes it more frustrating is that I'm a model. She has told me once or twice in the past that she would not be happy if I did shots in just my underwear and now she is doing fully naked photos.
    Yeah right.
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    She's probably going to do it anyway, regardless of your opinion on the matter.
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    (Original post by Smack)
    Never knew schools allowed students to pose naked for their art projects!

    Especially if the groin area and nipples aren't properly censored! Surely people, especially teachers, will know it's her when its submitted in her name?
    I really wanna know. Do GCSE art students take pictures of and draw their boobs as part of the course?
 
 
 
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