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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I'm a guy and I like girls. Most of them. Their behaviour, their looks, the soft skins, how they smell... you get the idea.

    I've been single for a while now and seem to be over my ex. I miss having more intimate contact with women my age, but I don't want to go all the way right away (one night stands/having sex in the first weeks). This seems to be a major problem. I either chat up girls that are not interested in me (sad, but true), want to take things very slow (nothing wrong with that, but just not what I'm currently looking for) or sex right directly (one night stand pattern).

    From your experience, are there actually many girls out there that would like to get more intimate fast for whatever reasons (feeling lonely, to see if it would work out physically, ...), without the urge to have sex? Kissing, cuddling, even spooning/sleeping next to each other would be fine.

    And, if there are - or if you are one of them, how to approach them and make clear what you want (and not want)?
    Don't worry, there are quite a few girls who want intimacy without sex. You just have to explain to them what it is you want. Once you get to know a girl better, and it's relatively clear that there are more than friendly feelings between you two, why not just say that you don't want to have sex straight away? The worst she can do, after all, is say no
    Good luck dearie!
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    (Original post by MadHeadLouise)
    ........Kissing, cuddling n other stuff can make u wanna have sex but if it happens then its probably meant to be.

    Of course it doesn't happen BECAUSE it's 'meant to be'... as pink-soap-opera as it sounds, it only happens because both get horny after so much kissing. :rolleyes:
    Anyone who says the contrary is probably blinded by oxytocin.
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    This amount of support surprises me. It's rather rare on TSR

    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Thanks for giving me some hope again

    And let me know when you'd move to London and are still single
    my money says she wont.
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