I cheated on my boyfriend

I cheated and ended the relationship as I couldn't continue it knowing I'd cheated. I didn't initially tell him that I cheated but then I decided that I should be truthful and ended up telling him....don't stay with him and not mention it...how would you feel if someone did that to you?

Too bad you're such a drunk! You've ruined your love life! Congratulations <3

You've already ruined your relationship. You've tainted it.
Your "love" and "trust" is now based on a lie. Your actions mean your love is as worthless as a stick of dog ****.
Don't drag this relationship out; you're a failed cheat and a pathetic human being.

The guilt WILL rip out your soul and devour you from the inside. Your decisions matter not in the long run. You've already destroyed yourself when you decided to be a drunk.

Your love is worthless. Either way, what you've done will devour you from the inside. That won't change.

And either your boyfriend dumps you now, or he'll dump you later. Both ways, it will tear you apart. You'll disappoint him again. How pathetic.

Scum like you remind me of why cheaters disgust me so much. And seriously? DRINKING? How the **** did you not see this coming, you brainless idiot?

(P.S., even if it's harsh, the bashing is correct and deserved. Oh, and I don't care if I get negative rep, etc. etc. for this. You're honestly pathetic, and I'd like you to know that!)

Have a nice life.

I said something useful earlier on the first page. It was useful because it was the brutal truth.

Maybe if she exerted more control over her actions, she wouldn't have put herself in such a stupid situation and ruined her current love life.

Now she's become a pathetic and groveling human being (this is the truth. No matter how harsh, it must and shall be said).

Option 3: Tell him the whole story and hope that he gives you another chance....

Hmm. I smell a religionist.

But how is what you said helpful at all?

Are you hoping she realises "what a failure she is" (according to you) and jumps off a bridge?!?

I follow no religion, so your nose must be messed up. If you want to have a philosophical, religious, or political debate with me, go ahead.

Hmm. I smell a crack snorter.

It doesn't take religion to know that consumption of alcohol when you're not responsible can lead to very very bad decisions.

anything can lead to a bad decision.

for example, i consider calling some one you don't know a 'crack snorter' a bad decision. and i'm neither drunk nor irresponsible.

get off your high horse, i can't imagine your life is free of mistakes.

This kind of thing scares me . I'd hate never knowing and having a lie as a relationship.
You have to tell him otherwise everything is based on a lie.

I'm not on a high horse. Because I spew the truth, suddenly you assume I'm implying that I've been the best person free of mistakes, EVER?

You're an assuming idiot. You assumed I was religious. Based off your rash assumption, I threw your attitude towards me RIGHT BACK AT YOU, assuming you to be a crack snorter.

Whether you are a crack snorter or not is besides the point. You make assumptions about me, I make them about you.

My 2 options are to stay going out with him and pretend it never happened. Or to break up with him and not tell him the real reason.

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I know I'm going to get so much abuse for this, which I deserve.

I got very very very very drunk last week (I don't remember going to his room) and slept with one of my friends who was also pretty drunk. I am absolutely distraught about it, I have cried on and off the past week, can't sleep and don't know what to do. I'm not saying this for sympathy but just so you realise I'm not taking this lightly. Nobody will find out as the guy I slept with has a girlfriend too so he won't tell anyone.

What's hurting the most is how it would ruin my boyfriend if I told him - I just can't. He would never trust a girl again (even a faithful one) and it's not fair to make somebody else suffer like that. So I can't tell him.

My 2 options are to stay going out with him and pretend it never happened. Or to break up with him and not tell him the real reason.

Please help me. I love him so much, we have been together for years and have an amazing relationship - whatever people say you can cheat on someone you love that much. We could easily end up getting married, except for my stupid stupid mistake which I know I have to pay for.

Help from people who aren't just going to tell me I'm a bitch/whore/slut/deserve to die would be really appreciated.

I would personally say neither of the two options. Stay with him and tell him, whats the point in breaking up with him for no reason, thats the worst feeling ever being dumped and not knowing the reason why. Surely that will hurt more?!
As I am a guy, who has been cheated on I can tell you it hurts, its possibly the worst feeling you could ever go through, but if hes that much in love with you and he trusts you then he will understand that it was a silly mistake, forgive you and you can get on with your lives. However, if you feel this could happen again then I urge you, do not under any circumstances get back with him because thats the icing on the cake! Like I said I was cheated on and I gave the girl a second chance, but when that person cheate don my again, its enough to completely break you. Luckily for me I was young and not madly in love, but as for him I can honestly say it would destroy him completely.
Hope I have been able to shed some light on your situation