basically my boyfriend has told me that almost everything i say or do worries him. worries him that ill judge him or that ill get upset or even when im joking that ill be angry.
thi9s was a total shock and ive tried to reassuee him that he doesnt need to worry
what do i do?
Sounds a lot like anxiety to me.
People with anxiety can't usually help it, they're insecure, worried about themselves and how whoever their emotionally attached to feels about them. Probably due to a lot of **** in their past which has permanently affected them. It will require a lot of patience and a lot of hard work to reassure him a lot but if you care about him i'm sure you would have no problem doing so.
Just reassure him, don't get angry with him and lose your patience 'cos that will only make him worse. He just worries a lot, he's insecure. Reassure him and give him a lot of affection so he feels close to you and has no fear and you should be good.