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    It doesn't matter what 'deep down issues' he has or even if he's just evil: he is disrespecting you. What's going to happen when you (I assume) go to uni? You won't be able to trust him for good reason and he will have even more alcohol and freedom to mess up.

    The fact that he has pictures of his mates in seperate folders with the guys faces blocked out is just plain creepy and grounds for dumping alone.
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    (Original post by black_mac29)
    oh my God... that has to be the longest post TSR has ever seen.

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    and ironically, it couldve been summed up in just one paragraph

    ok, so he kissed a couple of girls. can understand a slight bit of anger there, but forgivable

    he has naked pictures slash other peng chicks on his phone.. so what

    you aren't the only girl in the world! give him a break
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    Once a cheater, always a cheater. He will never change hun. I'm really sorry, I hate just telling people to dump their boyfriend because it's never what you want to hear. You want to hear someone's amazing story about how their horrible boyfriend cheated on them but then all of a sudden he changed and how they're married with 2 kids and happy.

    But I don't have that sort of advice for you. He sounds like a horrible person and you deserve much better. Dump him and find someone who treats you right and wants a relationship with you and only you. xx
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    (Original post by TK2 King Pin)
    and ironically, it couldve been summed up in just one paragraph

    ok, so he kissed a couple of girls. can understand a slight bit of anger there, but forgivable

    he has naked pictures slash other peng chicks on his phone.. so what

    you aren't the only girl in the world! give him a break
    When you are in a relationship you are the only girl! Yes there are other girls out there but that doesn't mean you need to kiss them and get naked pictures of them. I don't know why people find that so hard to understand.
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    Move on. Seriously. Hate to sound honest here, but basically it sounds like he doesnt appreciate you much at all but is too afraid of insecurity to leave you. Just dump him. Infact, after all he's done to you, take some pleasure in dumping him and watching the waterworks
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Not sure how i managed to read all this, but how on this earth did you manage to forgive him second time!!!! Dont you have any sane friends who tried to get some sense into you?

    a little offtopic: Are you an asian?
    Errr, no I'm not Asian. Why do you ask?

    Like I said, my friends aren't really around anymore, which is why I think I cling to him.
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    (Original post by dichr0ic)
    this

    srsly, don't you h+r people know how to summarise?

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    Not really, no I just needed to get it all off my chest.
    If you want a summary, just read the bold bits. Otherwise just don't read it
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    sorry but need to be blunt after spending half an hour reading it.......... is your surname mat? first name door?
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    Well, just sent him packing and never take him back. If you were even longer in a relationship, he would have cheated on you all the time. He has lots of problems and obviously will not resolve them and by now he is used to the fact that you are easily persuaded and will always forgive him. But sometimes forgiving after a man says he loves you is not enough. Do you want to stomp more and more on your pride? You deserve to have a normal, healthy relationship!

    As you said yourself, you can´t be intimate with him since you don't trust him anymore. Why are you always with him then?
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    (Original post by macattack_)
    sorry but need to be blunt after spending half an hour reading it.......... is your surname mat? first name door?
    Haha very funny. I do get your point, though. Unfortunately people are very stupid and blind when they're in love, I guess you learn from example.



    Okay everyone, I'm breaking up with next time I see him. I just have no idea when that will be
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    i actually read all of that ... i think you have wasted 2 and half years of your life ... yes sometimes he is the perfect boyfriend but apparently not the majority .. you could do alot better than someone treating you like that he is abviosly just a childish pervert ..dump him, and move on you will thank yourself later x
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Not really, no I just needed to get it all off my chest.
    If you want a summary, just read the bold bits. Otherwise just don't read it
    okay
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    get rid of him.. you deserve so muuuch better!!!
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    I don't even know why you're still with him. At the end of the day, he doesn't seem bothered enough by your feelings to stop being a prat/pervert. In saying that, I know you did find stuff on his phone and MP3 player, it was a complete invasion of his privacy looking at them, and even this alone would suggest to me the two of you really shouldn't be together.

    He breaks up with you for another girl, cheats twice, and has pictures of your best friends on his MP3 player.

    You lock yourself in the bathroom and read his texts, and the first chance you get alone in his room, go through all of his stuff.

    Come on, you must know yourself, it doesn't exactly sound like a healthy relationship.
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    read all of it!!!! it seems you like "the idea of being" his girl friend....clearly, you are not enjoying this relationship.....coz he's making you paranoid all the time ....coz u dont trust him anymore!!!.....and he's is to blame for all of this not you!!!!

    Dump him!!! coz u r wasting your chances of meeting someone who's worth it .....
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    (Original post by Wild Thing)
    OP I know many people have said this and this will sound harsh but weak people like you really annoy me. I can't stand when good people get ****** over by others and they don't do anything about it and allow the others to keep on ******* them over and over and over. What does he need to do for you to forgive him?? No wonder he's cheating on you left, right and centre. There is nothing he can do that will make you dump him. As far as he's concerned you're a safe bet because he keeps screwing you over and over and you keep forgiving him. He has absolutely no respect for you.

    You sound like a really nice, decent girl. Please for the love of God leave him once and for all. You're not worth that piece of ****. Who cares if he has issues? THe only issues you have is with him. Relationships should be fun and easy going, not perpetual tears, disappointment and finding out your bf is snogging everyone you know. Also be aware that everyone that went ot that party,all his friends and people in his class know he's cheating on you. By default they lose a little respect for you. Please please op, please leave him. This guy has brought you just pain and distress, he has brought you nothing positive in your life.

    Start respecting yourself by dumping that piece of ****. Grow some balls, man up, psyche yourself up and DUMP HIM! You can do much much much much better than that.

    Also, the individual folders with girls he knows on his mp3 is REEEEEALLY freaky. Porn, ok. But his friends? AND he's blocked out the males int eh pics?? Wtf? This guy's a psycho.

    Thanks for your honesty, you've made some really good points. He does have no respect for me, whatsoever. He knows that the stuff he does hurts me, and he still does it.

    And you're right about all his friends losing respect for me, I know they have. To be honest I don't care all that much about what they think of me, most of them are ***** too. But when I think about the amount of people who probably pity me and think I'm an idiot (this thread has proved it) I do get embarrassed. In fact I didn't want to leave the house at one point it's ridiculous, if this were anyone else I'd be telling them the eact same thing you're telling me.

    I'm breaking up with him next time I see him. I'm going to tell all my friends that I will, so that I can't back out of it last minute. And I will report back here when it's done lol.

    Thanks for your honesty, it helps.
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    I also read it all lol

    My best friend was in a similar situation. Her boyfriend is the flirty type, he cheated on her about 5 times, he had porn on his computer in hidden files. She split up with him countless times, and they always managed to get back together. That was 3 years ago, and they are still together. He basically grew up after the first year or so, had a loooong conversation with her about it all and explained why he did it, and he was forever sorry, and all that. She managed to forgive him, and their relationship has strengthened.

    But, that was her happy ending. Do you want to put yourself through constant pain? He didn't admit to you that he had kissed other girls - you had to get it out of him. You clearly don't trust him if your still checking his phone, etc. But that won't help - he can always delete the texts.

    Personally, I say finish him. You're moving on in September to uni (I'm assuming your moving out aswell to live there). Throw yourself into your studies and friends for the time being, and when you get to uni, let your hair down, party and prove to yourself you can have a good time without him.

    I'm not going to lie to you - it will be hard, and you think your world is ending and there's no point in living (based on my friends experience). But you can do it.

    Good luck
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    (Original post by xaheartdx)
    I also read it all lol

    My best friend was in a similar situation. Her boyfriend is the flirty type, he cheated on her about 5 times, he had porn on his computer in hidden files. She split up with him countless times, and they always managed to get back together. That was 3 years ago, and they are still together. He basically grew up after the first year or so, had a loooong conversation with her about it all and explained why he did it, and he was forever sorry, and all that. She managed to forgive him, and their relationship has strengthened.

    But, that was her happy ending. Do you want to put yourself through constant pain? He didn't admit to you that he had kissed other girls - you had to get it out of him. You clearly don't trust him if your still checking his phone, etc. But that won't help - he can always delete the texts.

    Personally, I say finish him. You're moving on in September to uni (I'm assuming your moving out aswell to live there). Throw yourself into your studies and friends for the time being, and when you get to uni, let your hair down, party and prove to yourself you can have a good time without him.

    I'm not going to lie to you - it will be hard, and you think your world is ending and there's no point in living (based on my friends experience). But you can do it.

    Good luck
    Thank you
    See I think I'm like your best friend, always giving more chances because you genuinely believe that they will change. And in her case it sounds like her fella did, so good for them
    But unfortunately for me, as you've said, my boyfriend doesn't seem to change. He's either a really really good liar and actor, or he just genuinely doesn't seem to realise that he's in the wrong until I point it out to him. And to be honest, I don't know which one is more likely.
    But when I do point it out to him, he's like "you're completely right, I'm so sorry, I won't do it again." And he doesn't actually do it again (as far as I'm aware). He just manages to find new ways to hurt me which is why I think I've been so forgiving. If this is making any sense at all lol.
    We're clearly not right for eachother, I can't be with someone who doesn't have the same opinion on right and wrong as I do, and someone who needs it spelling out to him everytime he's cocked up.

    I love him so much, but I need to let him go.
    I know how hard it will be, which is why I'm gradually letting my friends know what I intend on doing, so hopefully they can come help me out
    Next time I see him I'll end it. Thank you for your help
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    By posting that, you've just basically told yourself that he's a prick, and you obviously shouldn't be with him.

    Take that information, and go forth with it. He sounds like a knob, and he's getting away with his awful behaviour again and again because he knows he can get away with it.
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    sounds like you've had a hard time over the relationship you've had with him. i understand its hard, you have history together- you lost your virginity together so there will always be that bond. However you must let go. you know deep down you deserve 100% better and im sure all your friends would say that as well.
    You obviously needed to get that off your chest, but now its not inside you building up its all written down in black you need to think rationally. do you really want to have to put up with a relationship which is not going anywhere and just making you unhappy?
    you are sooo young so have plenty of time to find someone else and be happy and leave him to ruin his own life not yours as well, good luck
 
 
 
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