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    Hi, basically I am considring counselling, not because I'm depressed, but mainly because of social anxiety+insecurity(basically i cant socialise, and I'm geting no where with friends, or relationships, and it's been going on too long).

    However, I have this idea that counsellors are just people who have to listen to your problems, and try to help you, because they're getting paid for it... and secondly, if i can barely properly socialise to anyone anyway, how would a counsellor help me, because im quite sure I'd talk seriously about everything, like would i have to tell them about self harm, or having drugs by myself(if it wasn't for getting stoned I'd be depressed), too? Because all I want to achieve is just to get out of this social mess, just basically want to make my way from being no one, to being someone people actually would go up to and talk to because I'd have at least a small reputation What is the art of counsellors, what do they DO??

    also, im not really that sure how to get counselling from, would there be ones at the uni, or could I simply go to a doctor and try seek one ?

    I'm still kind of doubting it though

    If you just want to to help you, the doctor probably isn't the best bet. These sometimes have long lists too. But you said you're at uni and most unis do have some form of counselling/help service.

    Counsellors don't "have" to listen to your problems at all. The key is to getting one you like and feel comfortable with, if you have a session and don't 'gel' with them, mention it at reception or whatever and ask to see another. They get it all the time and they won't be offended or anything like that.

    You can tell them as much or as little as you want. I found myself saying pretty much everything though. It's less that they tell you what to do or how to act, but they help you think about things in a totally different way which helps you handle situations etc a lot better. This could help a lot with your social issues.

    I've been having counselling with my uni service for the past 8 months, feel free to PM me if you have any more specific questions
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