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Reply 20

ponjavic

Now that's a great idea, either go fight with a friend or hurt yourself someway, in a nice way, I don't mean like cut your wrists or something like that.

Yesterday cycling home from the pub I couldn't stop thinkin about my girl but then I tried cycling without holding the handles and it became wobbly and i fell and hurt myself, seriously =) then I didn't think about her for atleast an hour. Try it!

It still hurts though :eek:

Heh, yeah go do something stupid, i might do something rock and roll... im gonna try jumping off the shed onto my hammock... what could go wrong?

Reply 21

peperharow

OP

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BlackHawk

Just want to point something out in your post:

To be honest it sounds like you had a one sided relationship and you may have pushed her away with getting too serious too quickly. You're both quite young and though it may have felt like love, you'll find real love one day. From what you've said, it doesn't sound like her parents ended it for you both. She may not be ready for a heavy relationship, so don't push anymore. Get on with your life and you'll find it easier.

no offence but thats well off - i dont think its arrogant to say that i know she loved me as much as i loved her from the things she sent and bought me

i probably didnt express the situation well

Reply 22

BlackHawk

17

OK I'm not saying you are arrogant. If she loved you she wouldn't have told you things are too serious. Buying someone presents and writing letters doesn't show love. If she genuinely loved you then you would both still be together. I'm sorry to sound harsh when you're obviously hurting but I'm sure you have enough people saying 'There there don't worry about it.'

Reply 23

Naxalite

ceasar the cow!... just kidding. stalk her until she takes you back,

Reply 24

CherryGarcia

1

peperharow

hey

i know this a typical thread as so many people seem to be breaking up on here but ive just broken up with my gf after seven months and i feel like sh*t. we've been so close and we really loved each other and then suddenly last nite she said it was never gonna work and stopped it. its not like her at all and i reckon its her parents (i'm just 17 and she's nearly 16 - but really mature). ive got things around me everywhere that remind me of her and i really can't see myself getting over this - i couldnt sleep last nite and felt so depressed. i can't say how much she meant to me and we always emailed/spoke/texted and wrote letters to each other, we were so deep into each other's lives that i can't believe she just ended it.

she lives a fair way away from me and so its obv not ideal but i always said i'd go any distance for her and she thinks we're too serious (which is right) but as i said i feel like sh*t.

i'm seeing some mates later today but i'll probably break down or something embarassing as i never stop thinking of her. i dunno what to say but if anyone recommended anything i'd appreciate it.. i'm trying to watch loadsa tv and distract myself

I can say that you are really sweet. I have just posted a thread that I dont know what to do with my BF and we have a relationship crisis. We are as well distant and together for 2 years. In dec he broke up with me. And I was just like you - going mad, especially when I knew he loved me. And I loved and do love him madly. So I decided not to give up. And i didnt. I owned money from a rich friend and came to him, thx God I had visa that time. (he is italian but lives in Uk, I am russian and live in Russia) so I came to him all alone to uk, I knitted a scarf for him, as he alsways asked me to do it, I bought golden fishes for him, as he alwasy dreamed about, and made our big picture coz knew that he tored into peaces evrth. So i aslo took a stereo with me and wrote 40!!!!!!! little posters where I explained how much I loved hima nd why we had to make up. It supposed to be like in "love actually" movie (have u seen it? lots of romantic ideas) but stereo didnt work put, though I showed him my 40 posters, on the 30th or smth he was already crying. Sure we made up! (though now we have a crisis)
so, for u try to surprise her, refresh ur relationship with some crazy thing!!!! Sing a loud song under her windows or smth I dont know use her for insiration and get some crazy romantic idea, U have a chance dont forget it!!!
good luck!

Reply 25

khil

15

peperharow

hey

i know this a typical thread as so many people seem to be breaking up on here but ive just broken up with my gf after seven months and i feel like sh*t. we've been so close and we really loved each other and then suddenly last nite she said it was never gonna work and stopped it. its not like her at all and i reckon its her parents (i'm just 17 and she's nearly 16 - but really mature). ive got things around me everywhere that remind me of her and i really can't see myself getting over this - i couldnt sleep last nite and felt so depressed. i can't say how much she meant to me and we always emailed/spoke/texted and wrote letters to each other, we were so deep into each other's lives that i can't believe she just ended it.

she lives a fair way away from me and so its obv not ideal but i always said i'd go any distance for her and she thinks we're too serious (which is right) but as i said i feel like sh*t.

i'm seeing some mates later today but i'll probably break down or something embarassing as i never stop thinking of her. i dunno what to say but if anyone recommended anything i'd appreciate it.. i'm trying to watch loadsa tv and distract myself

You will get over this - it just takes time. It's normal that everything around you remind you of her. Lol when I'd broken up with my ex, someone's height reminded me of him! Or the word "cute" reminded me of something he had said. Going to the train station reminded me of him. Staring at the stupid armchair reminded me of him. It's normal - but you do get over it :smile:

It doesn't seem like it, but you will. You just gotta accept that it is over - that's the first step. Gotta accept it.

Have you asked her why she said it wasn't gonna work? What helped me get over my ex was asking questions. I asked my ex any questions I had - and he answered them with very straight honesty - and I understood the way he felt a bit more, which helped. One of the worst things is being confused. I would ask her why she broke up with you - you deserve to know. It's the least she can give you. Are you two gonna remain friends?

Talk to someone you can really trust. Or write it down - you don't have to show it to anyone, but writing has this effect that makes you feel like you're talking to someone and it really helps. I wrote so much after my break up and I wrote so many poems about it. Cut contact with her for a while but I say maintain the friendship - I went crazy when I thought I was losing the friendship between me and my ex and knowing he was still my friend helped a lot as well. Btw, it's ok to cry. You need time to grieve for your loss right now - after that, go distract yourself with whatever and try to move on.

:hugs:

it doens't seem it right now, but you will get over her. The pain does go away.

Reply 26

khil

15

BlackHawk

OK I'm not saying you are arrogant. If she loved you she wouldn't have told you things are too serious. Buying someone presents and writing letters doesn't show love. If she genuinely loved you then you would both still be together. I'm sorry to sound harsh when you're obviously hurting but I'm sure you have enough people saying 'There there don't worry about it.'

That's not always the case. There're other reasons why you have to break up with someone even though you love them. Sometimes breaking up with the person is what shows you truly do love the person. Yeh that sounds stupid - but that's what happened with my case so I know it's not. And it's deeper than that.

I think it's wrong to move on too quickly - how can you expect to heal if you don't let it out and go around trying to ignore the pain? It's no shame to feel pain and cry. Move on, yes, but after you've given yourself time to grieve.

just broken up..

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