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    Looks, because I can't help the way I look (well, to an extent anyway) but I have more control over my personality. Plus since I have an eating disorder obviously I'm very sensitive when it comes to comments about my appearance.
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    Looks. :sadnod:
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    I think both are bad to be honest. You can't change your looks unless you spend thousands on surgery and you can't easily change your personality in some cases either.
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    (Original post by writergirl)
    I think personally, i'd say personality. It's not too difficult to do something about your looks, you can try and improve and alter your hair/makeup/clothing to some extent or join a gym to get fitter and feel good about yourself that way. But personality, owch. I find it would be much harder to alter my personality than my looks, based on the fact my personality is made up of my views, morals, experiences from the past, what interests me, my humour and all things like that. If someone rejected me because of that, it would make me question 'what's wrong with me' far more than 'what's wrong with my looks' because i personally think attraction is what gets someone interested or not, and if someone's interested then personality usually seals the deal. might just be me who thinks likes this though i guess....

    aw. i think i totally agree with you! good point! ='D
    yea. personality matters more... and what we can change is a small part of it, and if personality is the problem, it needs two sides to work out together
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    For me, personality. But that might just be because I already don't think I look good! I would honestly feel gutted.
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    Looks, obviously. Personality may be hard to change, but not as hard as one's grotesque exterior.

    It still hurts when people criticise my appearance, even though I'm very much used to it.
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    (Original post by writergirl)
    I think personally, i'd say personality. It's not too difficult to do something about your looks, you can try and improve and alter your hair/makeup/clothing to some extent or join a gym to get fitter and feel good about yourself that way. But personality, owch. I find it would be much harder to alter my personality than my looks, based on the fact my personality is made up of my views, morals, experiences from the past, what interests me, my humour and all things like that. If someone rejected me because of that, it would make me question 'what's wrong with me' far more than 'what's wrong with my looks' because i personally think attraction is what gets someone interested or not, and if someone's interested then personality usually seals the deal. might just be me who thinks likes this though i guess....
    No, I agree! I'd rather have someone call me ugly than boring.
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    Rejected because of the colour of your skin. That falls under looks so yes, Looks is FAR worse.
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    Well, looks, of course. Duh. Because rejecting someone on the basis of their personality is justifiable- especially if they're a douche.
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    (Original post by Awesomesauce)
    100% agreed. This is also the case in many socialising situations aswell...

    So looks is by far the worst.
    Then people give the "preference" excuse lol, not good.
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    My pride will get hurt in the same way, weather it's looks or personality.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Finally had the guts to ask out a friend of mine only to be shot down. It hurts because I thought we got on pretty well with each other, we're both chilled and have a couple of similar hobbies. He's told mutual friends in the past, that I'm kind of pretty so it's not like theres an issue of physical attraction.

    I'm gutted. It just feels like I've been rejected because my personality didn't stand out to him or something. Now I don't know what to do with our friendship, since if thats the case, he obviously doesn't find me that interesting...

    Although you can change your looks, I really don't think either are particularly worse with regards to the feeling of rejection. It's not as if someone rejecting you because of your nose is going to make the rejection feel any better, you know what I mean?

    You're totally obliterating the obvious and taking this as an opportunity for self-pity. If your personality sucked you wouldn't be freinds in the first place, fact. I'm going to take a leap here and say that it's simply because he doesn't feel that way about you, if he did, even if you were on a 3/10 on the attractiveness scale, he would have given you a shot. Before you start on your personality again, you need to have a match in that area to be good friends otherwise it doesn't work. It's simply that the chemistry isn't there for him.

    There is another tunnel - that perhaps he does feel a 'spark' for you but you are unattractive and he would be ashamed to be with you. If this is the case you shouldn't friends with a guy like that. End of.

    As for where to take it now, assuming my latter tunnel is incorret, carry on with the friendship and see how it goes. If it gets too painful you may have to re evaluate things but if I were you I'd just go out of my way to show him what he missed out on. His loss, you know?
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    I would say looks. I would be upset if I thought someone liked my personality but they didn't consider it good enough to make up for my bad looks lol.
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    Looks, because I'm farrr more confident about my personality.
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    Looks on the basis that if personality is an issue it would never work so is clearly understandable.
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    Looks.

    If you are rejected because of a bad personality, then that is understandable.

    Getting rejected for looks is not.
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    Both depends on the situation. If it's for a uni interview looks would be bad, if it's dating wise a bit of both but pesonality more so
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    Good question. Being rejected 'cos of looks probably, heres why:

    If you are rejected because of your personality, no big deal. It doesnt mean you have a 'bad' personality, it just means its not the personality that particular person is looking for. Its all relative, so dont beat yourself up because you were rejected.

    If it was because of looks its essentially an insult- that you wernt able to make yourself physically attractive. People have more of a shared view about whats attractive in a person's physical appearance, rather than personality which varies greatly. If your hideous to one person, you'll be ugly to most others. If one person hates your personality, who gives, many, many people will love it.
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    Personality, because at least you can change your looks. Its much harder or somewhat impossible to change who you truly are.
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    Looks, kinda shallow but true
 
 
 
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