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    Erm how to start, well Im in twenties and am one of those weird girls who never goes clubbing, has never kissed a guy, still lives with parents, am very anxious and shy the black sheep of the family my sisters are younger yet have moved out and have lives. Theres no way I can get a mortgage though because the current job I have is not a permanent contract. Ive been accepted to do nursing at a good uni but am having doubts because I hate the thought of responsibility and commitment. I feel I could do the course if I got my act together and partly want to because people around me see me as a loser and it would be a lifestyle change which is what I feel I need to gain confidence (moving to uni, going for nights out stuff Ive never done)

    But I can't see myself getting a job after it I don't have a problem with helping people its just the whole being involved with society Im an introvert but at the same time like talking/helping people. Id rather make money in my own way than have all the hassle of responsibility. The only thing I have passion for is exersise/going to the gym, Im very interested in the body in fact call me obsessed but everyday (or sometimes several times a day) I read the health section on the bbc news wesite. Im not even mentally all there I get obsessed with things like certain exersises I do, health topics and look them up all the time. Ive just not a clue what to do but Ive been deciding for 8 years now dropping out of courses, getting anxious/fed up quitting jobs most of the people I knew at school have careers, familes and Im living like a 14 year old I think like one also im so immature Ive secretly cried about 10 times this week I feel so out of touch with reality . Guess I just wanted some advice what do you think I should do?.
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    i think you should defaintely give counselling a go, like go to your gp, and get them to refer you to one
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    'self self' blahhhhhhhhhh

    my answer is GET involved in society or live on the streets. Its the way the human race functions, to take on roles and help each other. Not to take and take for themselves with no regard for others.. unless you want to live like a rat?
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Erm how to start, well Im in twenties and am one of those weird girls who never goes clubbing, has never kissed a guy, still lives with parents, am very anxious and shy the black sheep of the family my sisters are younger yet have moved out and have lives. Theres no way I can get a mortgage though because the current job I have is not a permanent contract.
    Snap, except I don't have a job but I do have a geeky boyfriend

    I suggest doing what makes you happy- if you want to be a nurse, go for it!!!

    EDIT: Only read the first paragraph + first line of second paragraph due to short attention span!
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    well if you go in with the attitude that your not going to get a job afterwards, then you wont. a degree does improve your prospects, whatever people say, just because its a big plus to have on your CV especially if you get a 1st. It demonstrates your commited and hard working. Only you can get yourself out of this hole you've dug. decide seriously what you want to do, what you enjoy and are good at, and go for it!
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    Hey there
    First things, don't overthink everything you do, I mean it sounds like you're just scared of long term commitment, I'd say the best advice would be to choose something you really love, like it sounds like you have with the nursing and looking at the website many times in a day, its not weird, its interest. So don't mistake things you're interested in as being weird obsessions, perfectly normal honest
    I think the idea of being stuck in one place scares people who are scared of commitment. So, try not to think too much about a really long way ahead in the future. If something doesn't work out for you, there's always another shot later on, as you feel you'd like to be somewhere further in terms of things like careers, continue with it this time, stick at it, great things don't come easily So if it feels its a long up hill struggle, itll feel great after when you achieve something, however small...
    Also, don't beat yourself up for not being like your sisters, you are YOU, however cliched that sounds and IMO introverted people are often the more interesting ones, being slightly different, or being more observant of people and that, so you have nothing to worry about at all
    Hope I've helped a little xxxxx Hope you feel better about everything soon! xx
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    'self self' blahhhhhhhhhh

    my answer is GET involved in society or live on the streets. Its the way the human race functions, to take on roles and help each other. Not to take and take for themselves with no regard for others.. unless you want to live like a rat?
    Im not taking anything (apart from parents) I get money from work.
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    (Original post by jjackson18624)
    well if you go in with the attitude that your not going to get a job afterwards, then you wont. a degree does improve your prospects, whatever people say, just because its a big plus to have on your CV especially if you get a 1st. It demonstrates your commited and hard working. Only you can get yourself out of this hole you've dug. decide seriously what you want to do, what you enjoy and are good at, and go for it!
    yea I just don't know what attitude to take, its a nursing diploma Ive been accepted for not sure if it will look as good on a CV as a degree but Im aware I'l have to work hard.
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    (Original post by h82think)
    Snap, except I don't have a job but I do have a geeky boyfriend

    I suggest doing what makes you happy- if you want to be a nurse, go for it!!!

    EDIT: Only read the first paragraph + first line of second paragraph due to short attention span!
    Im not sure if I do want to work as a nurse though there seems too much responsibility, but geeks are in!
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    Erm how to start, well Im in twenties and am one of those weird girls who never goes clubbing, has never kissed a guy, still lives with parents, am very anxious and shy the black sheep of the family my sisters are younger yet have moved out and have lives. Theres no way I can get a mortgage though because the current job I have is not a permanent contract. Ive been accepted to do nursing at a good uni but am having doubts because I hate the thought of responsibility and commitment. I feel I could do the course if I got my act together and partly want to because people around me see me as a loser and it would be a lifestyle change which is what I feel I need to gain confidence (moving to uni, going for nights out stuff Ive never done)

    But I can't see myself getting a job after it I don't have a problem with helping people its just the whole being involved with society Im an introvert but at the same time like talking/helping people. Id rather make money in my own way than have all the hassle of responsibility. The only thing I have passion for is exersise/going to the gym, Im very interested in the body in fact call me obsessed but everyday (or sometimes several times a day) I read the health section on the bbc news wesite. Im not even mentally all there I get obsessed with things like certain exersises I do, health topics and look them up all the time. Ive just not a clue what to do but Ive been deciding for 8 years now dropping out of courses, getting anxious/fed up quitting jobs most of the people I knew at school have careers, familes and Im living like a 14 year old I think like one also im so immature Ive secretly cried about 10 times this week I feel so out of touch with reality . Guess I just wanted some advice what do you think I should do?.
    Your my dream girl. It's highly improbable we'll ever meet though. Just wanted to let you know there's people who appreciate girls like you.

    I'd suggest you take that course. If anything, you'll mature and you'll have changed after university. If you don't see yourself working in a hospital or something you might find it more appealing to work with a small task force perhaps with the Red Cross or who knows..... Oh so many things could happen in life. So many opportunities could emerge but for now I'd recommend you take the course and see what happens.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Erm how to start, well Im in twenties and am one of those weird girls who never goes clubbing, has never kissed a guy, still lives with parents, am very anxious and shy the black sheep of the family my sisters are younger yet have moved out and have lives. Theres no way I can get a mortgage though because the current job I have is not a permanent contract. Ive been accepted to do nursing at a good uni but am having doubts because I hate the thought of responsibility and commitment. I feel I could do the course if I got my act together and partly want to because people around me see me as a loser and it would be a lifestyle change which is what I feel I need to gain confidence (moving to uni, going for nights out stuff Ive never done)

    But I can't see myself getting a job after it I don't have a problem with helping people its just the whole being involved with society Im an introvert but at the same time like talking/helping people. Id rather make money in my own way than have all the hassle of responsibility. The only thing I have passion for is exersise/going to the gym, Im very interested in the body in fact call me obsessed but everyday (or sometimes several times a day) I read the health section on the bbc news wesite. Im not even mentally all there I get obsessed with things like certain exersises I do, health topics and look them up all the time. Ive just not a clue what to do but Ive been deciding for 8 years now dropping out of courses, getting anxious/fed up quitting jobs most of the people I knew at school have careers, familes and Im living like a 14 year old I think like one also im so immature Ive secretly cried about 10 times this week I feel so out of touch with reality . Guess I just wanted some advice what do you think I should do?.
    don't worry yourself with it i felt exactly like this last year but things have a way of sorting themselves out i know your probably thinking yeah yeah but they do believe me =] send me a message or something if you wanna talk xx
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    do you have problems socialising? like you find it very hard to make friends, or to actually get a real friend(this doesn't include "mates" where you're just a follower/least-important of a group of friends) ?

    thats basically the problem ive always had, and apparently the only real solution to that is counselling :/ as they'll point us in the right direction

    and if you want to get into uni, from experience, I'd wait til you're a "happier" person, otherwise thoughts/anxiety will cloud your learning/exams/coursework
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    (Original post by EmiPark)
    Sorry but since when was it ******* weird to not go clubbing and to have never kissed a guy...honestly.......
    well i think i agree with somebody in their 20s whoes never kissed someone is quite abnormal... and Im sure 99% of the population will agree :s
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    Become a gym instructor? :dontknow:
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    Well I think she's missing out on the fun of getting her heart broken... Tis better to have loved and lost, than never to have loved at all!

    But like others have said it'll happen when your ready for it.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Im not sure if I do want to work as a nurse though there seems too much responsibility, but geeks are in!
    Perhaps useful to tell me what you are looking for in a job, then we can try and work out which jobs would suit you
 
 
 
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