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    (Original post by Lilwaynefan)
    how bout u guys man up and quit the act
    Lmao

    I wish it was an act...oh and I always try to "man up" and I either look like an idiot or get the piss taken out of me.

    I smoked cannabis in school a lot, maybe that's the reason why I'm like this.

    Thanks for the replies...

    I'm 20, in university and have had 2 or 3 jobs in the past for an average of 3-4 months each. I'm sure I come across anti social in university which is a shame because I just want to fit in and have a laugh. It takes so much energy to socialise.

    AAAAaaaannnnd it's gotten to the stage where sometimes I can't physically open my mouth to speak. It's like it's wired shut!

    I am really starting to worry. My younger brother is going to one of the best universities in the world and my little sister who is going to secondary is so cheerful and full of life. I'm just act a grumpy *******. It's not fair on them or my parents.

    People who knew me when I was younger look at me now sooooo strange like "is this the same boy?!".

    As far as meds I tried citalopram and propranolol. Both had no effect what so ever.

    I am terrified of what my future might be. I might grow up and be some lonely soul. ****!

    I said I would go out tonight as well and there's no way I can cancel. This is going to be a nightmare.

    I really want to disappear right now.
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    I suffer from something akin to this, but nowhere near as debilitating. :no:

    However, it's as if being 'physically nervous' and 'mentally nervous' are two separate things. Sometimes I can be thinking perfectly lucidly, talking to people, et cetera, and suddenly I can't continue because I realise (in the worst cases) that I'm shaking badly enough to lose my balance, and my heart rate is painfully high. But during that whole incident the only thing that'll be upsetting my 'psychological nerves' is the fact that I know I have no idea how to prevent this kind of thing from happening in any given situation.

    I genuinely like talking to and being with people, and (if it weren't for this aggravation) I'd be seriously considering going into teaching sometime in the future. :sad: As it is, I'm generally seen as somewhat of an antisocial introvert.
    It is getting to be a less frequent occurrence now, though...a case of practice makes perfect, perhaps?
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    Aaaggghhhhhhhhhh....I seriously can't beleive this is happening to me. About 5 years of HELL. I really just wish this was a nightmare and I'd wake up. Do I really deserve this? Is this karma? Am I really that bad a person? Really!?

    And to all those that are suffering from anxiety, do you embarrass yourself much? I do, everytime I open my mouth.

    I've tried reading books about positive thinking but I can only seem to think positive for only so long.
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    (Original post by Revolutionary)
    Aaaggghhhhhhhhhh....I seriously can't beleive this is happening to me. About 5 years of HELL. I really just wish this was a nightmare and I'd wake up. Do I really deserve this? Is this karma? Am I really that bad a person? Really!?

    And to all those that are suffering from anxiety, do you embarrass yourself much? I do, everytime I open my mouth.

    I've tried reading books about positive thinking but I can only seem to think positive for only so long.
    When you're having a conversation with someone, do you feel like you genuinely can't even extract an answer from your head? Because that's how I was. I turned into a mute.

    Yes I used to think I embarrassed myself, but the truth of the matter was that who I was with probably didn't even give a crap.
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    i think i have social anxiety disorder, i think i have for years but am only just starting to notice it more as its starting to badly affect my life. Is there anyway of getting over this without taking pills? Ive not yet been to a doctor as im to nervous to even tell them about it! anon
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    (Original post by Revolutionary)
    Aaaggghhhhhhhhhh....I seriously can't beleive this is happening to me. About 5 years of HELL. I really just wish this was a nightmare and I'd wake up. Do I really deserve this? Is this karma? Am I really that bad a person? Really!?

    And to all those that are suffering from anxiety, do you embarrass yourself much? I do, everytime I open my mouth.

    I've tried reading books about positive thinking but I can only seem to think positive for only so long.

    I think part of having SA is that you think you're embarrassing yourself. My brain starts going into overdrive whenever I muster up enough courage saying to me "THAT WAS STUPID, WHY DID YOU SAY THAT? THEY THINK YOU'RE STUPID, YOU'RE SO EMBARRASSING, YOU'RE A DISGRACE, NEVER GO OUT" even if realistically what you said wasn't embarrassing.


    That's where CBT can help; altering your thought patterns so that you don't react that way. Your brain's going to resist being told it's wrong because carrying on in the way you know is easy, but it has to change. I don't think you can change on your own, though. You really need to reach out and get some help, because you don't have to feel so bad about yourself. It's not your fault. Some of us are just wired a little bit differently, and we need to iron out the kinks a bit. You're never going to be the most outgoing person in the world, but you can start to change things slightly.

    I really hope things can start getting better for you.
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    I've been suffering from it really badly, especially now at University. I've literally given up trying to make friends because I feel incredibly awkward and uncomfortable so I'd rather be alone. Thing is, I would actually like friends - I just can't express myself well enough to make any. It hinders my academic and social life and generally makes my life unhappy.

    Sometimes I'm completely resigned to the fact that this is the way I am and I'll never change - so I make no effort with people. Then other times I have a little moment of optimism and try to talk to people - it always fails and I end up back at square one. It's frustrating not being able to even hold a normal conversation with someone. I worry too, about how I'm going to end up when I'm older - lonely and miserable (well, more so than at present).
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    Has anybody in this universe ever snapped out of SAD?
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    Yeah so...

    I go to university counselling now and its not curing me or anything but its nice to talk to someone and have them 'act' like they're interested (cause it's their job). The therapy helps me to ask myself the 'right' questions.

    For those that have no idea what social anxiety its like....have you ever seen a documentary about a disorder like anorexia? People who suffer from anorexia believe there fat and think everything has an absurd amount of calories. They're sooooo skinny but when they look in the mirror they see a fat person.

    ^^that's what my social anxiety is like. To me, everyone is better than me and looks down on me, everyone is judging me when no one is. This brings on nerves. And these thoughts are CONSTANT...every second, every minute, every day. It's an illness. I'm sooooo ******* angry at this!

    I think I'm just gonna hide for a while...not reply to any texts or phone calls...just wake up, go to uni and come straight back home.

    Don't take friends, girlfriends/boyfriends or socialising for granted, people.

    I would just love to be able to go to uni and wear a t-shirt instead of 3 or 4 layers to hide the fact I'm sweating like crazy because I'm anxious. I am soooo awkward and people see this. ****!

    I'm still waiting on the letter for CBT but I have a feeling they didn't even put me on the list, which is a shame.
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    (Original post by Revolutionary)
    Yeah so...

    I go to university counselling now and its not curing me or anything but its nice to talk to someone and have them 'act' like they're interested (cause it's their job). The therapy helps me to ask myself the 'right' questions.

    For those that have no idea what social anxiety its like....have you ever seen a documentary about a disorder like anorexia? People who suffer from anorexia believe there fat and think everything has an absurd amount of calories. They're sooooo skinny but when they look in the mirror they see a fat person.

    ^^that's what my social anxiety is like. To me, everyone is better than me and looks down on me, everyone is judging me when no one is. This brings on nerves. And these thoughts are CONSTANT...every second, every minute, every day. It's an illness. I'm sooooo ******* angry at this!

    I think I'm just gonna hide for a while...not reply to any texts or phone calls...just wake up, go to uni and come straight back home.
    Don't take friends, girlfriends/boyfriends or socialising for granted, people.

    I would just love to be able to go to uni and wear a t-shirt instead of 3 or 4 layers to hide the fact I'm sweating like crazy because I'm anxious. I am soooo awkward and people see this. ****!


    I'm still waiting on the letter for CBT but I have a feeling they didn't even put me on the list, which is a shame.
    OMG I so do this too (sometimes).

    is it worth seeing a counselling and whats the difference between counselling and CBT?
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    (Original post by Revolutionary)
    Has anybody in this universe ever snapped out of SAD?
    I have, although it isnt snapping out of it, rather months/years of hard work and persistance. See my guide on social anxiety on the link, gives you some idea at least what I did. http://www.thestudentroom.co.uk/show...7#post21676807
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    (Original post by fire2burn)
    Far from being pointless CBT is going to be of a lot more use to you than anything you'll get from TSR.
    This.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    OMG I so do this too (sometimes).

    is it worth seeing a counselling and whats the difference between counselling and CBT?
    Counselling is basically consists of the counselor askin "how does that make you feel?"...CBT consists of changing your thought process through exercises.

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