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Just split with boyfriend and am confused
This is my first time doing this, I found this thing whilst looking in desperation on the net for someone to talk to.
I think I just wanna write everything down so I can get everything out, I don't really know what I'm expecting anyone to write or if I want sympathy or advice or anything, jus dunno.
Sorry this is long!!
Basically me and my boyf of 1y3m split 3weeks ago. His decision not mine. We had nearly split 1week previous to that but had realised it wasn't what we wantedso stayed together. A couple of days after that ordeal we went on hol with some couple friends and we ended up arguing the whole time. I don't think we'd had a chance to recover from our near-slit-up-experience. Without telling a really long story about exactly whats happened, we've decided to stay friends and he says that he just doesn't want a relationship. He still loves me and wants to do things with me and it's really hard for me to accept especially when I know everything could be fine. We've prob only had 4arguments the whole time we've been together. It's really hard for me to just be his friend and I know even he finds it hard. There's still a little part of me that thinks he will change his mind, even if it is to late and he has to live with the regret. He even admits that he knows he will regret it! Everything he says is so contradicted and I just feel more and more confused!
I love him so much and just want him back coz I miss him. I just wanted to consume myself with something to do and I know I can spk to my family and friends but I feel like I've put too much on them already coz they've got they're own lives too. Plus my parents are just going throught a divorce and so I'm also in the middle of moving at the mo-it's just too much stress to cope with in one go!
I think I just wanna write everything down so I can get everything out, I don't really know what I'm expecting anyone to write or if I want sympathy or advice or anything, jus dunno.
Sorry this is long!!
Basically me and my boyf of 1y3m split 3weeks ago. His decision not mine. We had nearly split 1week previous to that but had realised it wasn't what we wantedso stayed together. A couple of days after that ordeal we went on hol with some couple friends and we ended up arguing the whole time. I don't think we'd had a chance to recover from our near-slit-up-experience. Without telling a really long story about exactly whats happened, we've decided to stay friends and he says that he just doesn't want a relationship. He still loves me and wants to do things with me and it's really hard for me to accept especially when I know everything could be fine. We've prob only had 4arguments the whole time we've been together. It's really hard for me to just be his friend and I know even he finds it hard. There's still a little part of me that thinks he will change his mind, even if it is to late and he has to live with the regret. He even admits that he knows he will regret it! Everything he says is so contradicted and I just feel more and more confused!
I love him so much and just want him back coz I miss him. I just wanted to consume myself with something to do and I know I can spk to my family and friends but I feel like I've put too much on them already coz they've got they're own lives too. Plus my parents are just going throught a divorce and so I'm also in the middle of moving at the mo-it's just too much stress to cope with in one go!
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This is my first time doing this, I found this thing whilst looking in desperation on the net for someone to talk to.
I think I just wanna write everything down so I can get everything out, I don't really know what I'm expecting anyone to write or if I want sympathy or advice or anything, jus dunno.
Sorry this is long!!
Basically me and my boyf of 1y3m split 3weeks ago. His decision not mine. We had nearly split 1week previous to that but had realised it wasn't what we wantedso stayed together. A couple of days after that ordeal we went on hol with some couple friends and we ended up arguing the whole time. I don't think we'd had a chance to recover from our near-slit-up-experience. Without telling a really long story about exactly whats happened, we've decided to stay friends and he says that he just doesn't want a relationship. He still loves me and wants to do things with me and it's really hard for me to accept especially when I know everything could be fine. We've prob only had 4arguments the whole time we've been together. It's really hard for me to just be his friend and I know even he finds it hard. There's still a little part of me that thinks he will change his mind, even if it is to late and he has to live with the regret. He even admits that he knows he will regret it! Everything he says is so contradicted and I just feel more and more confused!
I love him so much and just want him back coz I miss him. I just wanted to consume myself with something to do and I know I can spk to my family and friends but I feel like I've put too much on them already coz they've got they're own lives too. Plus my parents are just going throught a divorce and so I'm also in the middle of moving at the mo-it's just too much stress to cope with in one go!
I think I just wanna write everything down so I can get everything out, I don't really know what I'm expecting anyone to write or if I want sympathy or advice or anything, jus dunno.
Sorry this is long!!
Basically me and my boyf of 1y3m split 3weeks ago. His decision not mine. We had nearly split 1week previous to that but had realised it wasn't what we wantedso stayed together. A couple of days after that ordeal we went on hol with some couple friends and we ended up arguing the whole time. I don't think we'd had a chance to recover from our near-slit-up-experience. Without telling a really long story about exactly whats happened, we've decided to stay friends and he says that he just doesn't want a relationship. He still loves me and wants to do things with me and it's really hard for me to accept especially when I know everything could be fine. We've prob only had 4arguments the whole time we've been together. It's really hard for me to just be his friend and I know even he finds it hard. There's still a little part of me that thinks he will change his mind, even if it is to late and he has to live with the regret. He even admits that he knows he will regret it! Everything he says is so contradicted and I just feel more and more confused!
I love him so much and just want him back coz I miss him. I just wanted to consume myself with something to do and I know I can spk to my family and friends but I feel like I've put too much on them already coz they've got they're own lives too. Plus my parents are just going throught a divorce and so I'm also in the middle of moving at the mo-it's just too much stress to cope with in one go!
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time apart from each other might be what you both need.. you never know the space apart might give the chance of a relationship with him new life.. just hang in on there and i think friends is better than nothing, i didnt even get that option when my ex went off with his ex gf, he just totally blanked me.
From bitter experience, when one of you gives up there's nothing the other one can do.
Talk to him, find out how he feels and what he wants, and if that isn't to be with you... well that sucks and it'll hurt and there's not really anything anyone can say to make you feel better. Sorry
But then there's always the chance that he's just confused and a bit of time without you will make him realise how much he misses you. I'd advise you to make it an all or nothing thing, because otherwise things get confusing and at least one person always ends up even more hurt than they would have been otherwise. But don't give up too soon.
Talk to him, find out how he feels and what he wants, and if that isn't to be with you... well that sucks and it'll hurt and there's not really anything anyone can say to make you feel better. Sorry
But then there's always the chance that he's just confused and a bit of time without you will make him realise how much he misses you. I'd advise you to make it an all or nothing thing, because otherwise things get confusing and at least one person always ends up even more hurt than they would have been otherwise. But don't give up too soon.
I really think you need to give him some space. You'll prob get even more hurt in the long run if you stay friends and still love him.
time really helps! I know how horrible it is, believe me Ive been there, and who knows he may even just be confused and realise he wants to be with you still.
However dont keep waiting for him to change his mind, if its a dying cause all you can do is move on and wait a little while before being friends again.
Definitely try and keep your friendship tho, I dont even speak to my ex now and it hurts to be honest cos one minute your close to someone and the next they dont even wana talk to you!
I really hope things work out, and remember - if he decides to move on maybe its for the best? just remember that its much better for both of you to split up in the long run instead of hurting each other even more trying to stay together.
Good luck tho i really hope he works out what he wants
time really helps! I know how horrible it is, believe me Ive been there, and who knows he may even just be confused and realise he wants to be with you still.
However dont keep waiting for him to change his mind, if its a dying cause all you can do is move on and wait a little while before being friends again.
Definitely try and keep your friendship tho, I dont even speak to my ex now and it hurts to be honest cos one minute your close to someone and the next they dont even wana talk to you!
I really hope things work out, and remember - if he decides to move on maybe its for the best? just remember that its much better for both of you to split up in the long run instead of hurting each other even more trying to stay together.
Good luck tho i really hope he works out what he wants
was he your first love?
Yea he was my 1st love. I thought I'd been in love before but knew I hadn't when I fell in love with him. It's weird coz I feel like we've just started going out again-I see more of him at the mo than I did when we were togehter. Apparently when we first met, he says we wern't going out until he said about it, which was about 2months after we met-weird to me but coz I didn't know that it didn't matter. This time it feels like we've started like we just met again but that I know we're not going out this time...if that makes sense? It's almost like he'll ask me out again given time. In the mean time tho it's like I'm in limbo and inbetween being happy and sad all the time!
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