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Boyfriend 'deciding whether to dump me' because of my stripper past Watch


    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Exactly I did all these things BEFORE I even met him, I'm not in the business anymore. I don't see why he's getting so upset, or saying since I've 'crossed the line', he has to take time out to think about it :/

    It's killing me inside, because after all I have done for him, I feel like a degenerate. That's why I'm frustrated.

    Anyway it has been a few days already, and he says he'll have an answer for me by Wed. If it's one of those 'I'll consider having an open-relationship' decisions, I'll have to end it I'm sorry. I can't deal with the lack of respect when I'ma changed person. And he keeps on going on about 'what if my family find out, when accidently bumping from someone in your past?' wtf how will they find out? I moved cities. Unless they went back there and purposely probed, ffs.
    Yeah...your bf and his family need to get with the times tbh. Also, he doesnt seem too bright. I'm sure he's got loads of amazing qualities and such...but do you really want a relationship with someone who clearly thinks less of you now?

    I don't think you did lie to him - lying and just not saying something are different things. I think he was out of line to say that with knowledge of your stripping you're suddenly not good enough for him, as you didn't stop being the same person he met as soon as he knew, and what's being good enough for his family got to do with it? Stuff them.
    I can understand that he wants to think about it a bit and come to terms with the idea that other guys have seen you naked, but that still stands for every guy dating a non-virgin. The point is that you're not doing any more. Good luck with everything OP.
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    The only thing that would bother me in this situation is "if" you were to lose your current job say tomorrow would stripping ever come back into your life? I mean the past is done with and everything, but the future is more my concern.
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