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    Hi everyone, something weird is going on with all of my friends in my social group thing. Usually I exaggerate things, but it seems that suddenly everyone has a problem with me. As far as I know, I haven't done anything wrong, but all of the people I usually speak to are suddenly being very cold and odd.

    Last week at lunchtime, everyone just got up and left me on my own when I went to get something from my locker. I came back and found they'd all left. And recently, they were all invited to a party at one of my "friend's" houses. I'd heard about it, but didn't say anything then they said "I would have invited you but I have too many people coming already." I thought that was fine, until I asked one of my friends - the only one online on msn that night - if he had been invited. He then told me that, earlier that day, the party-thrower was begging him to go because he didn't have enough party guests and wanted more people there??

    I'm off on study leave now, so haven't seen any friends in person, but since that party, if I try to speak to them online they are just very cold and it isn't like them. It goes like.. Me: "Hello!"Them: "Hi." "How are you?" "Fine" Then if I ask anything else, or try to start a conversation, I get a one word answer, if that. Usually they won't reply after that. The thing is, if they don't want to talk to me, I don't understand why they wouldn't just block me? Usually a lot of them are friendly and chatty, but not any more..

    I'm really confused and have no idea what's going on.. Everything's just happened suddenly and it's really weird and I don't know what to do.
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    I'm sorry to hear this. Maybe it is just you getting over worked up about nothing and you should try ask someone about it.

    But if they're being like this and it's upsetting you and they don't seem to care, then maybe they aren't your real friends. Maybe you could meet some new people by going out or joining a club or do some voluntary work or something.
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    Get it out in the open, ask them if they have a problem with you. At least you'll know that way.
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    What about asking them directly why they're behaving like that? At the moment it seems completely inexplicable, but perhaps there was some kind of unfortunate misunderstanding... if not, then these "friends" are not worth your time. Their treatment of you is cruel and verges on bullying. Try to befriend other people and don't let yourself get hurt by those who are too cowardly to tell you what's really going on.
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    Thanks everyone for your replies.

    I'll try and speak to one of them and see if I can find out what's going on.
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    This actually happened to me once. It turns out it was because I kissed someone at a party, for some reason they had a problem with that, but people should come back eventually. You just have to ask.
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    Have you been spending a lot of time working/revising? Putting your education before them? My friends are being cold with me because I have started prioritising my exams over spending time with them; I don't get why they can't understand it. I hope you sort it out..it really gets me down! I'm usually centre of attention and now I feel like such an outcast.. tell us how you get on! X
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    It is obvious to me that they have collectively got together to give you the cold shoulder which is a very mean thing to do. What they should have done is elect someone to individually tell you want the problem was, and thereby giving you the opportunity to address the problem if you could or so wished.
    Sounds like the're friends not worth having to me. However, maybe you can ask one member of the group to come clean and see if you can sort this out.
    Good luck!
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    This happened to me, and it turned out they'd heard a rumour about me (untrue.) and decided they hated me because of what I'd supposedly done.

    I hadn't done it, and it wasted several weeks when they should have just asked me about it instead of ignoring me.
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    Speak to them - thats the only way you will find out.
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    Have you been spending a lot of time working/revising? Putting your education before them?
    Thanks for the reply.
    I sort of have had to put my education before them, because they don't want to socialise with me! http://static.thestudentroom.co.uk/images/smilies/p.gif At the moment I'm just looking at it that I'll make new friends when I'm off to uni, and the ones that want to stick around will (even if this does mean none of them!).

    Some of the people in the centre of the group are very gossip-ey and generally mean about a lot of people. I was thinking back, and I had one friend suddenly start moaning about them to me.. so I agreed with them. I'm thinking they were possibly on some form of 'fact-finding' mission, and have told the others I say bad things about them. Or something? People are strange.

    I know it's weird, but I'm alright with some of them not speaking to me any more.. It's just the fact that it's actually everyone.
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    definitely speak to them. They'll either not have realised they were being like that, or it'll be a simple mis-understanding.

    If on the other hand it's a real problem they have, you can work it through i should think.
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    I agree with the other posters - you have to ask them what's wrong. My friends used to be like this with me, but it usually only lasted for a day. I would ask them and they would say something stupid like "You kept on looking at whoever all through lesson", and rubbish like that.

    I hope you can sort it out but, if you can't you know they weren't really good friends anyway. It is hard, but your doing the right thing by throwing yourself into your studies.

    As one post said, you could join a club/do voluntary work, etc to meet new friends in the meantime
 
 
 
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