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    Hi guys, after reading a lot of the threads on here, Im wondering whether it's just me!

    I'm 22 and in my first year at uni and finding it pretty hard meeting like-minded people. Everyone in my accommodation is 18years old (4 other people), and the difference in maturity really shows..I find that because I don't drink as much as they do and have a completely different outlook on life and where I want to be in the next 5 or so years we do not get on majorly well. I like to think I make good effort to be sociable etc, so Im not being a hermit and excluding myself.

    It may just be poor luck, but I have tried...I did my crazy stint (to say the least) at 18 and now just want to get on with work, go to a few bars and enjoy the night that way!Whereas,their lives seem to be based on getting literally paraletic every night possible (might I add-the norm for uni students-I know!) and that isn't me now...I've tried to join the mature student's society which seems to be non-existant and haven't met anyone over 19years old.

    Is it really just me!?

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    It's sad but true, a lot of 18 year olds want to enjoy their new found adulthood away from home. No parents to stop them doing whatever the hell they want, whenever they want and with whoever they want

    Personally I'm an Access student at the moment heading to uni this coming September and I'm dreading the exact situation you're talking about. At 28 (29 when I start) I just want to knuckle down and get the hell on with it... I've given up my job, my wages, etc to do this and its a life changing thing.

    The last thing I'll need is people giggling at trivial stuff...but at the same time I don't want to be the guy who locks himself in his room and shuts the world out.

    It's a tightrope act, I think you just need to get the balance right... keep them friendly but with a bit of subtleness they might realise that you're serious about your course. Personally I don't know how I'm going to play it when I get there...I'll try that but if it doesn't work, grit my teeth and try and get some different accomodation for the second year I guess?

    Has that helped you? Probably not
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    Oh no you're at UEA aren't you? (Was just reading some of your posts on the accommodation in the UEA forum!) I've applied there this year and I was really keen on it because there seemed to be more mature students and there were things to do that weren't all drinking - gigs, films in the union etc!

    I'm exactly the same as you, except I'll be 23 in September and though I'd still be up for fancy dress at the LCR, I'm not up for getting wasted every night!

    Have you tried joining any other societies? I saw that UEA had a horse riding society which I liked the sound of and a few other good societies. Either that or getting a job somewhere where you might meet more people your age? What course are you doing? Maybe try and befriend some post grads and students on medicine courses who are likely to be a bit older?!
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    I was in a similar position to you last year, actually. Not because I was significantly older, but because I was given independence at a much earlier age than most people. I had done the whole partying "ooh no parents" around thing, so by the time I was at uni I was bored of it.

    It's just the deal you get when you live with 18 year olds.
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    I'll be 41 when I start uni this autumn. I expect to have nothing but the course in common with anyone. My worst fear is being seen as a surrogate father figure. I hate kids, no offence.
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    I'm 43 and starting uni in September. I've never been a drinker - don't like the taste! When I last went to uni as a school leaver I didn't have any problems getting on with others that do. I just avoided staying late at pubs and clubs. I'll went for the early part of the evening and left before things get silly. It just gets boring if they are all getting paralytic. This time around, I'm much more mature, and to be honest I don't care if people think I'm a fuddy duddy, I'll enjoy life my own way - thank you. I'm happy to be friendly with anyone of any age, but I really hate drunkenness, and late nights, so I won't be clubbing! Can't afford to anyway. I've got 2 kids to pay for.

    I'm more than happy to socialise with people of all ages and have done most of my life. Some of my best friends are nearly 80, but I'm just as happy chatting to my kids' friends at 11 & 13.

    Just go to uni and be yourself, there will be plenty of people there to socialise with. It's far easier to find a compatible person there than it is once you've left.
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    I'm also 22 but luckily was placed in halls with other mature students. I have more friends though now who are 18/19/20 from my course, because we share an interest. I dont go out much with them, but we hang out and cook meals for each other etc... try finding people with mutual interests, i.e. people on your course, or a sport you like, a hobby you have... It's not all about getting drunk, young students will soon realise that they've thrown away valuable time..
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    the good thing about being the older student is youll be sober when the youfs are wasted and you can take photos of them doing stupid stuff and recount thier idiotic behaviour back to them the next afternoon while they are horribly embarassed and all thier mates laugh.
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    I can see what you are saying. I don't think I could handle living in Halls with a group of young people, my shared living days are best left behind me!

    Luckily we will be moving to the city of my choice (hopefully Durham) so I will have my own place but I am worried that I'll be a little left out of the action. I'm just going to get as involved as I can, join some societies and make an effort to meet other mature students. I can get on with people of most ages and have friends ranging from 18 upwards, my little bro is 18 and I am comfortable with him and his friends.

    I'm 33 and it has been a big change for me, not only a financial sacrifice but upheaval to a new area. My OH is very supportive and he is keen to move on as well, he is a highly qualified secondary maths teacher so we don't anticipate any trouble finding him a new job.
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    (Original post by Skuzzy)
    I'll be 41 when I start uni this autumn. I expect to have nothing but the course in common with anyone. My worst fear is being seen as a surrogate father figure. I hate kids, no offence.
    Ho Ho Ho, like it.im ten years older and know what you mean. The kiddies aint so bad, im at college now and uni later this year its strange to say the least. Everyone thinks im a tutor,oh what fun i have winding the other students up. I cant wait to meet other genuine mature students.
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    I feel the same. I joined the mature students society but it doesn't seem to exist. Sadly I had a really tough time of it last year after being screwed around by alot of so called friends. I managed to make three really wonderful friends though. All of which are now in different years or moved to different uni's....go figure.

    I moved out at 16 so the no parents thing wore off pretty quick considering I was working to pay my bills so no time for goofing around. My uni seems to be full of winy 18 year olds who spend all their time having fun spending their parents money and copying each others coursework. They don't seem to see what a privilege it is to be able to go to uni in the first place. Especially since now fees are over 3000 pounds a year.

    Sorry if I sound bitter but some days lectures are just impossible due to all of the chatting about what happened to so and so last night after they downed a bottle of vodka and decided to run around naked on the streets of London at 4am. There is only so much stupidity I can take. I am a fun loving person but there is fun and then there is just plan dumb and I seem to see more of that than anything.

    I hear second year is much better. Most of the lazy students get weeded out.

    Hoping if I get into Physio there will be some more people up for things like study groups and nice dinners out. I want to enjoy uni but I also want to do well at it.
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    Have to admit hearing about the night before bores me at uni! Yes, I use to go out and do similar things but I never bragged about it/never shut up about it the next day to anyone nevermind people that weren't there and aren't interested!
    I joined the mature students society and hardly anyone turned up at the first meeting and those who did were 40+ and didn't seem to want to get to know me-I look 18 but I'm nearly 24. Haven't met many people in their 20s who don't want to participate in the clubbing thing every night but do what a social life and to do other stuff!
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    Month old thread but only just noticed it.

    I think people worry about age when actually it's more of a personality thing? I didn't enjoy the "typical" 18 year olds lifestyle when I was 18 myself, I spent most of my teens not fitting in with other teenagers.

    I first went to uni at 21/22 and did the drinking thing for a few years but got bored. I have a friend from uni who at 28 is still loving drinking on work nights until 6am. I just couldn't. My first year at uni I knew more people than I've ever known in my life but I had no close friends, I was really lonely.

    I'll be 29/30 this year when I start, I'm probably going to find a bedsit for the first year as I've had terrible sharing experiences. I plan to get to know people on my course (foundation year so plenty of age range and experiences) and in societies (already have one interest in common), oh and working as I'll have to get a job as well.
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    Perhaps I am just being naive, but part of the reason I want to do a health care profession course (radiography), is because I am hoping to meet like minded people - people who actually give a sh1t and want to LEARN and do *something* worthwhile.

    I dropped out of my access course in 09 after only 1 dday, I 'm hoping to go back this year and get into Uni for 2011..... being surrounded by drunk, immature 18yr olds is a concern, but most places have thousands of students, so it is probably just a case of looking around and finding the right *scene*, you don't have to mix with people doing the same subjects as you either.
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    (Original post by stainboy)
    Month old thread but only just noticed it.

    I think people worry about age when actually it's more of a personality thing? I didn't enjoy the "typical" 18 year olds lifestyle when I was 18 myself, I spent most of my teens not fitting in with other teenagers.
    Yeah, I think it's more an individual thing. I'm in my late 20s and I like going out to clubs, I like going out socialising and drinking, going to gigs, house parties, etc. and always have. But I've never enjoyed drinking to the point of being an idiot and not remembering anything, and never will. The problem is that so many people don't know how to party in a responsible way, it gets tiring if you want to go dance and have fun but have to step around someone's vomit cause they can't take care of themselves and know their limits. There are plenty of people in their 30s who don't know how to drink without getting trashed, and it's just sad. At least if you're 18 you have the excuse that it's probably a new experience for you and you're still learning how to do it right. I guess I learned young, I just didn't see why it would be fun to not remember the fun I had last night! lol.
    I figure I'll try to join societies and find people with similar interests. And go out to events but if it devolves into immature messiness then I can always leave.
 
 
 

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