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    I am starting to become a lot more ruthless with it. Recently, pulled a girl despite not knowing her name - sat down with her for a bit, and then just went for it after a few mins. If not that, I play the odds a lot with women, I know out of 10 girls, 5 will be into me. The other 5 will reject me, if I get rejected by a girl its easy for me to cut ties with her as I am always socialising with different people. Or when I see her I just use my humour and act like if nothing happened - which for the most part is a great way in diffusing the situation.

    This really bothers me because whenever I try to get to know the girl, 100% of the time I end up turning into the friend despite receiving compliments about my character. I have much better luck acting like this. The only problem now is that I think girls are suspecting that I am a bit of a player looking for nothing serious, I know that girls are attracted to me, because I do get compliments.

    Anyway, I really want to get on dates now, looking to be in a relationship ideally, what is the best way to do it? Would like the opinion of you girls!
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    Stop trying to find a relationship in a nightclub.
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    (Original post by Reue)
    Stop trying to find a relationship in a nightclub.
    Thanks for your reply. I don't really club, many of the people I meet are through friends, or are friends of friends.
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    Flirt more tbh. Use pickup techniques.
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    Stop trying to find a relationship full stop. You won't find one if you're looking for it.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Thanks for your reply. I don't really club, many of the people I meet are through friends, or are friends of friends.
    Then the obvious answer is to stick with one of them instead of trying to 'spread the risk' by trying your luck with loads of different girls. No doubt this isnt helping any reputation you may have built up.

    Alternativly, Find girls who dont know you and so can have a fresh start with.
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    Don't look in a club at 3 am among gurners and grimmers.
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    (Original post by Ilora-Danon)
    Stop trying to find a relationship full stop. You won't find one if you're looking for it.
    And this.
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    na i disagree
    just learn how to chirpse....
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    I don't see how becoming friends with a girl could prevent a sexual relationship - i was under the impression that's how it normally works. Also it doesn't sound like you're very selective, why are you trying it on with so many people?
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    (Original post by reisen)
    I don't see how becoming friends with a girl could prevent a sexual relationship - i was under the impression that's how it normally works. Also it doesn't sound like you're very selective, why are you trying it on with so many people?
    I dont try it on with that many people to be honest. Aside from the girl I pulled, the other night for example I was out clubbing with some girls I know, I didn't care if I was dancing with them or not, was concentrating more on practicing my dance skills. I am very selective with the girl I want to pull. There is one girl right now I am very much into, but I don't know what she thinks of me - she tells me that she likes talking to me etc etc. Getting her on a date is problomatic. Maybe all those photos with me and different girls is going against me on facebook.

    I do flirt a lot. But thats more of a case of practicing my flirting skills then actually pulling them. Its funny how some girls think I am really into them when its all just a bit of banter for me.
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    Just to add, I also understand to pull a girl requires effort, I don't think I would pull if I didn't just take the risk. As a girl will never pull you, unless you are Tom Cruise! ! (I am not)

    So that is what I was highlighting in my original post.
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    Play the long game... find out if you like someone first, get to know them, then act on it. Rather than getting with loads of girls and quickly moving on before anything else can happen. You don't often get into relationships that way.
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    Yeah I think we should really stop talking about "pulling" as it has nothing to do with relationships
    http://www.asylum.com/2010/01/11/pet...you-dont-have/
 
 
 
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