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    There is a girl on my course who I barely noticed at all until just now.

    I have heard she is shy and I saw a really shy kind of embarrassed look she gave when she was walking out of a lecture due to a coughing fit (lol) and everyone was looking at her. Also I have noticed a smile from her as I have made eye contact with her.

    I did think she was average looking but the more I think about her the more beautiful she looks to me.

    It's strange. The worst thing is I've never even spoken to her before in my life!

    My friends seem to agree that she's fit so I don't know if she's out of my league or if I should grow some balls and talk to her. Help me here.

    It sounds like a crush but even if it is should I still go talk to her due to maybe regretting not doing so later on?
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    I think the answer is always to talk if there is something to be said. You would probably regret not doing try, and you posting about it on here shows that it is on your mind somewhat. Last thing you want is for her to get a bf just as you pluck up the courage. It does not even have to be a date or confessing yoru feelings right away, just ask her to coffee or something so you can chat a bit. You could say you want to chat about the course and stuff. If she really is shy you can almost guarentee that she won't laugh in your face or anything. Worst case scenario its a little awkward and she doesn't talk to you again.. You don't talk now so what is there to lose? Good luck.
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    (Original post by ABeautifulMind)
    I think the answer is always to talk if there is something to be said. You would probably regret not doing try, and you posting about it on here shows that it is on your mind somewhat. Last thing you want is for her to get a bf just as you pluck up the courage. It does not even have to be a date or confessing yoru feelings right away, just ask her to coffee or something so you can chat a bit. You could say you want to chat about the course and stuff. If she really is shy you can almost guarentee that she won't laugh in your face or anything. Worst case scenario its a little awkward and she doesn't talk to you again.. You don't talk now so what is there to lose? Good luck.
    I will do this. The concept of having nothing to lose is a good one and I won't have as much apprehension if I think about it like that.

    That idea makes it much easier than asking a friend out because then there is something to lose.

    Thank you.
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    I have to confess, I'm really bad at this myself.

    However, I will offer the best advice I can - next time you're walking out of lecture, walk next to her (not in a stalkerish kind of way, but just so you're next to her walking away from lecture) and just make a casual remark like "well that was well over my head" or something similar, just to break the ice, and take conversation from there.

    Of course, it's more difficult if she's with her mates or you're with yours, but if you're both seperated from your mates for whatever reason then it's a good way of breaking the ice.

    Sorry if that sounds like crappy advice - as I said, I'm really bad at this kinda thing myself to be honest.
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    (Original post by iBlaze)
    I have to confess, I'm really bad at this myself.

    However, I will offer the best advice I can - next time you're walking out of lecture, walk next to her (not in a stalkerish kind of way, but just so you're next to her walking away from lecture) and just make a casual remark like "well that was well over my head" or something similar, just to break the ice, and take conversation from there.

    Of course, it's more difficult if she's with her mates or you're with yours, but if you're both seperated from your mates for whatever reason then it's a good way of breaking the ice.

    Sorry if that sounds like crappy advice - as I said, I'm really bad at this kinda thing myself to be honest.
    No worries.

    It's sound advice and I will take it on board.

    Thanks for the help any way. Even if you're not an expert any good advice means a lot.
 
 
 
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