Clubbing

This probably won't read too well but my main objective when I go out to a club is to pull.

This is simply because I am too shy around girls when sober and that I find clubbing boring after a while, unless you're ridiculously pissed where everything seems fun.

I mean I like going out and that but if it's the same people, the same nights, everything just feels repetitive.

If I don't go out to pull, then all that happens is that me and my guy mates will form a circle on the dancefloor and just throw our arms in the air/take trips to bar,toilet. That's all that would actually happen. I get bored of that so I tend to drift off and pull girls at the bar.

Like I said if I was totally wasted then great, I might start dancing and actually enjoy it because you don't give a **** but I never usually get to this stage for one reason or another.

I was reading a thread similar to this the other day where this sort of approach is labelled sad and what not, and it made me think why is it sad exactly?

And does anyone else find it the same as me, in that it just gets boring after a while, you don't meet new people really, and it's just dead repetitive throwing your arms about on the dancefloor? If I go home without pulling in some form it feels like a total waste of a night.

Reply 1

slipend

PaulP

my main objective when I go out to a club is to pull.

lol, Maybe just have a good time and not worry too much about having 'objectives'?

Reply 2

PaulP

I used to have a good time when clubbing was new to me, it was fun. Now I only go to pull cas there's **** all else to do.

Reply 3

Jessaay!

I've learnt clubbing is just about letting loose really, yes it is best to be drunk to enjoy it, but it's still fun as long as you're with a mixed group of friends. Usually mixed sex. Not in order to "pull" a friend, that would just be weird after a few nights out, but to go crazy and dance and sing a little. Occassionally yes, it is nice to get a bit of interest (I'm a girl though so I don't need to go and "pull" someone) but the only time that has ever really happened was when I was on a trip with a massive bunch of people, so I actually knew the guy who I "pulled", because I'd met him earlier that day and we'd been talking since. Personally though, I find it a bit creepy when a guy approaches you and becomes all touchy feely when you've never seen them before and you won't again. It's especially creepy in bars I think, it gives off the impression of being desperate. Particularly when you try it on with more than one girl in a night, on friday a guy found me as a target in a bar, then when I walked off he tried it with another girl, then came back to me after being unsuccessful then when my friend rescued me she saw him 2 minutes later with yet another girl. It was actually ridiculous.

Reply 4

Deadly Lightshade

I wouldn't go to a club for any reason other than to pull. Nasty, tedious places the lot of them.

Reply 5

ellx

It depends really. There are certain clubs that are literally just meat markets..chart music/rnb..no atmosphere etc so I can see why people would just go out with the aim of pulling someone as there's not much of an alternative. I also think it's different for women. Women generally do tend to enjoy going out, having a laugh with their mates and dancing. Whereas I think groups of lads generally enjoy going out, getting hammered, having a laugh with their mates but ultimately pulling someone.

I can't stand clubs like that to be honest. I don't get much enjoyment out of random strangers attempting to grind against my arse all night while I'm trying to have a good time! If you don't have much of an interest in music you will get bored. I personally love music and mainly go out to specifically see bands/djs I like rather than trying to find the cheapest/busiest place. So I end up enjoying myself because of the music and don't really have an interest in pulling randomers..but if I do meet someone it's more likely to be someone I've got a bit more in common with and who will actually try to have a conversation with me instead of trying to mount me on the dancefloor! But each to their own.

If you enjoy going out and pulling people then there's nothing wrong with that in my opinion..going out is all about enjoying yourself and letting go..so whether you get release from music/dancing (like me) or sex, doesnt really matter!

Reply 6

dzeh

hmm I wouldn't go clubbing anymore if I was you lot... clubbing is evil and is the devils work.

Reply 7

reems23

The only reason to go clubbing is after a long with where your head has turned to mush, to shout badly to a neurotically overplayed tune and dance like a prat and generally not give a ****. Pulling happens sometimes but it's not something to chase after because that sir, is desperation. Pulling, having sex with a stranger, groping someone's bum. It's boring.

Reply 8

reisen

it's human nature I guess. I think you're situation is lightly different from the "sad" people who purely go to pull cos all they care about is getting laid. - you're situation seems to be more like girls flirting in clubs cos it's something fun to do

Reply 9

username104603

reems23

******* Family Guy, I can now pretty much guarantee that I hear 'Don't Stop Believin' on a daily basis and at least twice more for every time I go into work :mad:

Don't get me wrong, I like the song just wish it wasn't played quite so often!

When I go out it's usually with a group of 5+ lads and virtually no girls so I'm usually pretty happy regardless of how much I drink.

Reply 10

trm90

Clubbing is a good stress reliever when you do it every once in a while. It's fun to get drunk and go crazy over a couple of songs (and even more fun to pull :smug:

), but I don't get how people can club more than once a week or go to the same ******* club every week! And I'm labelled as 'lazy' or a 'partypooper' if I'm not going out with my mates for a second time in the week...

I'd much rather drink, dance, and pull in a house party, really :indiff:

House parties are way underrated in the UK.

Anyway OP, I know how you feel. Unfortunately there's an undying social pressure to go clubbing as often as possible, even if it means faking having fun (we've all done it).

Reply 11

dhokes

Clubbing doesn't have to be boring.

Reply 12

Lauren__x

I ALWAYS have an amazing time and I never go out to pull, ergh.
I meet soo many new people, dance and have a laugh=]. I could go everyday. If it gets boring move onto the next place and try out new places, or just dont go at all=/.

Reply 13

PaulP

where exacgtly do you meet people? I certainly don't! How can you socialise in a club?

Reply 14

SouthernFreerider

PaulP

clubbing in general is just lame. most people there don't do anything with their lives. boooooooring.

Reply 15

mr-breaker

PaulP

This probably won't read too well but my main objective when I go out to a club is to pull.

I don't see the problem here.

HOWEVER what I advise though is to find clubs that play music that really interests you...................because the women you want (and more importantly, want YOU) are gonna be there anyways.

This is simply because I am too shy around girls when sober and that I find clubbing boring after a while, unless you're ridiculously pissed where everything seems fun.

Like I say, go to the places playing what you want to hear. And you're gonna have to work on your confidence sans alcohol. You shouldn't be using booze as a crutch. Even if some of it tastes so good..........

If I don't go out to pull, then all that happens is that me and my guy mates will form a circle on the dancefloor and just throw our arms in the air/take trips to bar,toilet. That's all that would actually happen. I get bored of that so I tend to drift off and pull girls at the bar.

Really, being in an enclosed space with good friends, good music and alcohol shouldn't be boring, so you must be doing something wrong here.

I was reading a thread similar to this the other day where this sort of approach is labelled sad and what not, and it made me think why is it sad exactly?

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And does anyone else find it the same as me, in that it just gets boring after a while, you don't meet new people really, and it's just dead repetitive throwing your arms about on the dancefloor? If I go home without pulling in some form it feels like a total waste of a night.

I bet you don't live in London. :laugh:

Bear in mind that unless you are a superstar (and I mean a REAL one, i.e. Hollywood/Premier League etc.), you ain't gonna pull every night. On the other hand if you look good, have some manhood about you and have decent communication skills you will encounter PLENTY of opportunities

gl

Reply 16

Anonymous #1

I have to admit, pulling used to be the only reason I went clubbing when i first turned 18 - the banter between me and my mates was hilarious. But now, a year on, things have changed- I suppose since my last gf i learnt how to enjoy clubbing without checking out the girl next to me (well, kinda). The fact im also into commercial R&B, dance etc helps aswell I guess :/ I rarely go atm the moment to which heightens my excitment x.