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    wow really? would guys pick someone pretty they could have no conversation with over an average but interesting girl? (genuinely a question!)
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I am pretty ( I don't mean to sound big-headed at all), but I am extremley shy with people who aren't my close friends/family. I've heard a lot of people talk about how I'm the prettiest at work and uni, and many have told me I am. The problem is that guys never seem to want to get to know me, and seem to always go for confident girls. I was wondering if any of you would ever fancy a girl you found really pretty, but had no confidence? Would you always choose a less pretty, more confident girl over her? Is confidence really the most attractive thing?
    (Original post by damos92)
    Without wanting to sound bad, i would love to get with a girl with little confidence. She then relies on me to help build her up, which i would do with consumate skill. In exchange for some tlc.
    This right here is a classic problem. Every (well, most) guys have a protective instinct, so love it when they can have a woman to protect and help, however, this is often a case of the guy pushing his weak side onto the girl, with the girl pushing her strong side onto the guy.

    This usually leads to destructive relationships, which are difficult to fix or end, because the guy is uncomfortable with having to accept his weakness and vice versa.

    Initially shy girls can turn out to be utter controlling *****es as well.

    Bascially, you need to learn to be confident in yourself, or you're probably going to have a lot of problems in later life.
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    (Original post by kellywellydoodle)
    I'm not gay to clarify...but I would think that it would depend HOW shy you were. I mean, you need to get a happy medium between being really loud and confident and being really quiet and not talking to people as that could make it come across as if you're not interested. I'd say I was pretty shy as well...as in I won't just go and approach people and start talking to them if I've never met them before...other people generally have to make the first move. Confidence can come across as arrogance and that's why I think shyness is more attractive...of course depending to what degree !
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I am pretty ( I don't mean to sound big-headed at all), but I am extremley shy with people who aren't my close friends/family. I've heard a lot of people talk about how I'm the prettiest at work and uni, and many have told me I am. The problem is that guys never seem to want to get to know me, and seem to always go for confident girls. I was wondering if any of you would ever fancy a girl you found really pretty, but had no confidence? Would you always choose a less pretty, more confident girl over her? Is confidence really the most attractive thing?
    goodness me, you sound like the perfect person :lovehug: lol.
    No, I'd prefer to be in a relationship with you than the most attractive, orange girl, you know, the one most guys go for.
    Being shy and attractive, to me at least, is a beautiful quality.

    I don't know how what I've just written sounds? :unsure:
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    I personally would, i prefer more reserved girls anyway.
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    Guys that are intimidated by highly confident females would, in my opinion, avoid said females in an attempt to not have their own insecurities exposed.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    But don't you think shy/unconfident girls come across as more boring than everyone else (even if they are not) because they say a lot less, and don't give as many opinions?
    Not really, but this is a reason why the guy you should talk to has to be confident, patient and clever so that he can lead the conversation, in other words he would know what questions to ask and how to let you express your self better...
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    (Original post by lm_wfc)
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    Yes I am very happy thankyou !
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    Confidence is largely irrelevant. If she's pretty, then of course.
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    Of course - this is the best type of girl!

    Generally, it seems, confidence is a more important quality in boys when it comes to attracting the opposite sex.
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    I think it just really depends on the person. You shouldn't change yourself for someone else, instead you should seek out someone who most appreciates you for who you really are.. It is a lot easier, natural and effortless that way.. and more special as well.

    Personally I think shy but pretty girls are the best kind there is! I think those dual qualities when combined together make for a very endearing personality. But of course, my opinion may be in the minority. In the end what matters is what matters to you. Since you have an introverted personality it only makes sense to find a guy that appreciates your shyness and beauty.. If you are really as shy and as pretty as you say you are, then don't change a thing about you! Sounds like you will make the right type of guy very happy someday! Hope that helps and good luck!
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    I think it just really depends on the person. You shouldn't change yourself for someone else, instead you should seek out someone who most appreciates you for who you really are.. It is a lot easier, natural and effortless that way.. and more special as well.

    Personally I think shy but pretty girls are the best kind there is! I think those dual qualities when combined together make for a very endearing personality. But of course, my opinion may be in the minority. In the end what matters is what matters to you. Since you have an introverted personality it only makes sense to find a guy that appreciates your shyness and beauty.. If you are really as shy and as pretty as you say you are, then don't change a thing about you! Sounds like you will make the right type of guy very happy someday! Hope that helps and good luck!
 
 
 
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