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    Well a lifetimes worth of bullying has left me incapable of functioning socially. In fact I have all the symptoms of social anxiety disorder - though that's a self diagnosis.

    I've never had a proper job before, but I've just managed to get one in a shop, starting in a few weeks.

    I'm scared I'm going to get fired immediately because I scowl all the time, look at the ground, mumble, stand around looking akward and self concious etc. I really can't help it, and I'm not bad tempered...

    I know that I should just bite it back, force a smile and confidence but how the hell can I do that?

    Seriously, any advice, I'm desperate.
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    Starting a first time job can be nervous, but you'll be fine. It's nothing difficult.
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    Practise with yourself in your bedroom. Act out the role play with a customer coming in, you doing the selling, etc.
    Just.. 'force' it.. then slowly slowly it will become more and more normal.

    Go on.. just take a deep breath and go for it.

    Don't know what else to say tbh ..
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    It's completly different when you're a staff member, cause you're doing your job and it just comes out.
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    (Original post by Waterstorm)
    It's completly different when you're a staff member, cause you're doing your job and it just comes out.
    this. you'll be surprised how easily it comes.
    good luck
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    Just think this is your job and you want to keep it. Be friendly, smile... do whatever the other employees are doing. If you feel yourself getting overly-anxious, calm yourself down and don't let it get to you.
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    Ok, I will practice in front of the mirror. EEk! Thanks for the replies guys!
 
 
 
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